Ex girlfriend maybe scamed me? But i dont know how or why?

Sorry this is long but i want to know what people think?

We started off fast she 20 and Mexican I'm 29 and white we planned on getting married having kid ect. We have known each other for close to a year and a half started dating after we had known each other for a year all together we had been together for like 4 months a month and a half of it she lived at her parents untill she moved into my place. We met at college where we both attend. From the get go she has been acting funny wanting to get married and have kids. She says lets elope i say cool we plan on it and last minute like two days before we are supposed to get married she tells her family.

By the way I couldn't meet her family before any of this or even go in her sisters house. So then I'm forced to meet her whole family and explain why. Her sister crys her brothers act strangely towards me and they ask me to put it off so i do and she tells me i bitched out even though it was her idea to elope then later tell her whole family that we are getting married last minute. Number two she tells me she wants kids now i dont have a job i worked for some years as a installer for direct tv making ok money but right now I'm at my dads place going through school so i haven't had a job in about two years she know this and if i got a job i would have to pay the school which i cant cause classes at like 1000 per class. But like a moron i said hey we will try if you do i will get a job thinking we are still going to get married.

Then all sorts of weird # starts happening this guy in her class starts to harass me when i pick her up from class telling me all sorts of what i thought had been lies and being threatening to me. I tell her she said nothing except to ignore it so i did 3 week later this guy is at it again and I told him to # off and he wants to fight me but she comes out and asked me and him whats wrong then the guy actually starts to pander to her by say i said the word #. Then the next day i find on her phone a msg that says i miss you and cant wait to hold you again. I was like wtf is that she tells me its her crazy ex boyfriend and she was going to show it but she got the msg at like 4 in the morning to me at that point i'm like its over. We talk it out and she tells me to trust her thinking we are still going to get married i say cool maybe that was just it.

Needless to say more issues arise with this guy coming into my class when the school was supposed to take care of this issue by distancing him from both of us the counselor lied to me about doing anything and the dean acted like it wasn't an issue.She has a class with this guy and when she was in class with him she decided to tell me all sort of stuff through yahoo msger like she isn't happy and I'm too jealous then i ask her to talk, her and him walk out of the class at the same time. We get in a fight about that seeing as how she knew the situation with him. Needless to say i tried to end it but she begged to come back. Later i tell her its not a good idea if we had a kid a week later she preggo and im like fkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk so now i have one month to find a job knowing that it needs to be a good one i start looking and I'm having a hard time plus it December and we are running around like mad to get presents for her family. When yesterday her phone goes is on vibrate at 5 in the morning from a blocked class so i picked it up I say hello and no one answers or says anything then they hang up. We fight about that. Then she just picks all her stuff up and moves out of my house with no emotion that same night she texted me and says i miss you and I'm like wtf.

now she says shes going to raise the kid without me and i shouldn't tell my parents and its all because i didn't have a job or looked like i was trying hard enough. I only had one month lol to find one.all of this feels set up and i don't know what to do.

Thats the strangest love story Ive ever heard.. I dont understand much to be honest.

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tell me about it and thanks for reading it. I'm thinking that it might not be mine although we had always been around each other except for maybe one or two days im really starting to wonder wtf is up

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I strongly suggest you get DNA tests done to prove this child is biologically yours as I have my doubts after what you've written. Don't do anything else with this girl until this is done.

Distance your self fast..

I would cut her loose. Insist on a DNA test when the baby comes, especially if she comes after you for money or anything. Whatever is going on - she sounds like Trouble (with a capital T).

DNA test for sure dude. People are different and think differently. You might think she cares for you and all that but her ex is all shes thinking about. Im sorry to say but from what I read I would definitely do a DNA test.

Shes playing you and several more guys...watch out. And the kid's not yours...Id bet on that. But she'd make you believe it was so you'd take care of her and it and $$$$...all the while she's playin' the other guys...and Ill bet there are more than a few that she's telling each THEY are the father!.

Been there and done that. At the beginninng right off...she wanted to get married.....thats a sign...she's hiding a lot. Id bet my life on that. Dont try to figure it out and why....just make tracks as far away as you can. Before she convinces you YOU are the father and tries to get an order making YOU pay child support...probably while she get money from a few other guys saying THEY are the fathers on the side...that way she can live pretty well with the $$$ from all of you. Think about it.

Scam is right. Run my friend...fast. I've been where you are...so I know. Dont let your feelings hold you down. Hers arent....and she's gonna try till she gets you...and them.

I hope Im wrong...but I dont think I am. ATS Ladies? Help this friend out with some advice, please!

From what I gather from your posts you're at your dad's house in California and have come into an inheritance and a pile of gold, and your Mexican fiancee dumped you and your mother is involved?

Your story reminds me of a guy I know. He tells his family that he's married and life is good with his "wife" and his beginning family. But he's telling half the truth and keeping up a facade to try to look like he has control in front of his siblings and parents. Really he's just living with his hispanic girlfriend and they don't really want to get married. He knows that they are together for their son, and because she has a lot of connections to support his social dysfunctions, and because he has some substance abuse problems that are gobbling up his money, he kind of doesn't know what to do except to keep lying to the people who could help him the most.

To top it all off, his boon of inheritance wasn't really given to him; he took it from his gullible mentally ill sister. He raided his father's bank account when his father was dying, pawned and sold off his father's possessions for more money, and took some of his sister's due inheritance -- a valuable stamp collection -- for money to support his habits.

So in the middle of all his helplessness, he really is the source of his own problems. But back to the point: is the latina in LA scamming the white guy? Of course. That's the idea: find a guy who is going to run into a lot of money, marry him, get the bonus, then divorce him and go for child support for the rest of his life, maybe getting the house too. Maybe your existing family would benefit from some information instead of this sketchy eloping. Good luck on getting your life together.

Mate you got a crazy one. She is not very original and unfourtnetly there is alot of girls/women pulling this stuff these days. Very commonly is the whole, relationship getting threatened so they cry pregnancy to save it. Sounds like she didn't think it entirely through and is not in fact pregnant and has used some dumb arse excuse to break it off so that she doesn't have to embarrass herself. Soon you will hear of the fake abortion that her family made her have.

My 2 cents. She very well could be pregnant in which I would follow everyone elses advice and do a dna test.

Take care mate. Don't try rush things and let this be a lesson. Everyone wants love but that comes with patience.

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Is this the same girl??

Above Top Secret

Sheeesh dude, seems you're dealing with some heavy stuff huh.

Not quite sure if you'll find the answer your looking for here.

All the best anyway.

bud you are getting played like a fiddle ,, this woman being mex has nothing to do with it , you need to have a DNA test done and do not put your name on the birth certificate until it is determined you are father. not all women are bad but some have the game down with out skipping a beat. anyone can be blinded by emotion. so you need to step back take a deep breath ... and think of it as step what you need to do next then next then next.

go ahead get a new job ... take care of yourself... and get the hell away from the drama ..... then request a DNA through family services if she doesn't allow it.. or you could wait for her to go for child support

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First HINT of deception and BAM to the curb.
Get a dna test.
If yours, pay for the next 18 years and become wise from it.
You still can get a buddy from this if your child is smart.
If not yours, say a prayer to your god and learn from this.

I am a female, and I say RUN!!! Run away as fast as you can. And DEFINITELY get a DNA test before agreeing to being the father.

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My advice to you is to RUN as fast as you can away from
this girl.As others have suggested,INSIST on a DNA test
and get a lawyer.

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Thank all of you guys for answering i got my answer today when i went to her house to drop off some things. She had on a cheap arse ring on her wedding finger she told me it was her niece's she is like 3 years old and that ring wouldn't fit her at all . Told me that she might not have the kid but if she decided too that she would seek full custody without child support. When i asked her why she would do all of this she couldn't explain herself. I now know this is her game. Poor next guy. I guess she backed out before getting caught what a horrible person too play all these games and lie so much.

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"Crazy is as crazy does." Yes, you need to run and run fast. No matter what your feelings are for this woman, NO MORE CONTACT!!!! If personal items need to be exchanged, have a family member do it, or at lest have a friend with you. Don't be with her alone! Tell her you don't want any contact, then don't answer her calls or texts. If her buddy at school starts acting up again, get a restraining order. If the going gets weird you have to start a paper trail that backs you up.

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The warrior's path is a solitary one my friend.

when the kids born... i say get on maury or pay for a paternity test OR have a court file one.

i bet you (from your story) that there is a chance this isnt your kid.

But all n all... this isn't a setup IMO... this seems like its just how she played her 'game' with you.

hope everything works out ok tho.