What do you do to get over emotional lows?

I sometimes have gone through these emotional lows in my life where I feel like nothing might go right for me. I have no reason to think it. But even though I've had an almost perfect social life for this whole last semester in College just recently I was reminded earlier about how pathetic my social life used to be and how boring I was and I just really went in an emotional low. I thought that what is going on right now was just a farce and things might go back to the way they were (I was obviously just being negative but still). Usually if I'm in a funk things happen and prove me wrong but what do you do if you're an emotional funk? I try to get myself to do other things but sometimes it takes a while to feel better.

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No offense intended, but it sounds to me that you are allowing others to dictate who you are. Be yourself is my advice. You'll find true friends that way. It has worked for me and for that I am grateful.

They key is distraction. After going through a very tough break up I was an emotional mess. My mates would try non-stop to get me outta the house but I would just cut myself off and further my depressive state. Let me say this clearly now for anyone who might be curious even if you the OP weren't aiming for a discussion on this...
Meds DON'T work!!

They may manipulate chemicals in your brain to make you happy but they in no way solve the issues that got you to that state to begin with. They sedate reality and once you come off them, without a strong will, the emotions from the causing issues come flooding back!

I was given some very simple advice once...

If you're down and get an invite to go out, whether to a party, or a meal or simply to visit a friend, DO IT! No matter how much you can't be bothered, at the end of it you will have no regrets. It won't cure you straight away but will allow you to see that other things can make you happy apart from whatever it was that made you happy in the past that you've since lost.

I've never looked back and am in a great place with a new partner and never been happier. I know you weren't necessarily headed in the direction of failed relationships but your question relates to my experience in that nature. Also I noticed the forum you posted in

Slap the ever living crap out of a happy midget. It will work every time!

Similar things will happen all your life - the key is to learn to be happy with yourself - this is the secret to life. If you depend on others for your happiness you are going to be very hurt throughout life. Look inside and learn to be happy with who you are then if someone comes along who adds to that happiness - it's a bonus. If they make you sad - move on - you don't need it.

Smile and enjoy the journey - it's not all about the destination.

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Dear Frankidealist35

When you feel low (and we all do sometimes), I have two pieces of advice. First, do something to help someone else without expecting anything back. Second, be greatfull for someone who has helped you when they didn't have to. It may sound silly; but, it works on a number of levels. First it is a positive action and doing positive things will help put you in a positive mood. Secondly, it reminds you that others have been there for you and you are not alone in this world. Finally, it gives you hope that positive things can happen. If you are a believer (I am, you don't have to be and what I said works even for non-believers); but, if you are a believer then remember that low points are an opportunity to grow in other ways including in your relationship with God. If you are not a believer then just ignore the last part, not trying to recruit. I haven't read any of the comments, just your original post so that may or may not have come up. Peace.

Hug a puppy...

Works every time

Long ago I saw a therapist for about a year. Very cathartic. But that's not what I'm suggesting. Even long after the therapy was over, I sometimes mentally talked things out with that therapist. And then I discovered how therapeutic it is to talk to myself. Think talking to yourself is crazy? Not at all:

If you talk while you’re alone, you’re not alone

Dr. Alain Morin of Mount Royal University has done extensive research on the topic, and teaches classes in social cognition and theories of personality. In his paper titled Inner Speech, he states “Fundamental human activities such as setting immediate and distant goals, problem-solving, planning, and decision-making, are all part of a more global capacity called self-regulation.”

"Private speech in children and inner speech in adults have been shown to be of critical importance for effective self-regulation."

Morin also said that 97% of people admit to talking to themselves, in one form or another....

Worth a try!

Easy fixed, just take a couple of teaspoons of cement and HARDEN THE F**K UP!!

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put my favorite music on really loud and strip off and dance naked.

once I start laughing at myself, I generally snap out of it and feel better.

Aye, what Tom said. Distraction. Go watch a movie, or even better, a drama. Maybe one that focuses on the situation you're in. Another good thing to do, which I do alot, is set a goal, which most of the time is pretty outrageous (sometimes I want to be a famous rock star :@@, and just fantasize and act the way you would if you were that bad-as* rock star you want to be, or act as if you don't have a care in the world.

If it's woman-man/man-man/woman-woman problems, then I suggest to watch a drama. They really help take alot of the distress from you and make you believe that you don't have the problems you have, and only the characters in the dramas have them. It's pretty effective.

Fornicate, fornicate, fornicate and fornicate





















Then fornicate some more.

Two and a half recommendations from me.

1. Always take full responsibility for your emotional state - understand that you must experience all that this life has to offer, there is no other way.
2.5 Understand that this is "normal".
2. Take steps to raise your vibrational frequency.
Everything else is cake...

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what I do when I'm feeling low, is remind myself that I have food in my belly, shoe's on my feet and a roof over my head and I'm surrounded by people who love me...and it makes me feel grateful I have these thing in my life, because some people don't.

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I just eventually realize that, for me at least, life is a series of valleys and peaks. And no matter how crappy things get, I know that if I just hang in there long enough, ill come out of it and find myself at another one of those "peak" moments where I feel great and confidently in control. Smile Now, Cry Later, and visa versa sorta thing. And when you do hit that high, don't be all cocky and arrogant about it. Be conscious of the fact that you will eventually be depressed again. Having this realization lessens the blow when it does happen.

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you just need some inspiration. a goal perhaps?

if all else fails smoke a blunt and get Irie

I like the post about helping someone without a motive.
I went through I real tough time for awhile earlier this year, I moved to a new city to be with a girl then when we broke up I was effectively homeless and friendless in a foreign country.
After spending 1 night in my crappy ass hotel room with nothing to do and visit (my closest friend was 400km away) I decided to go out for a walk. Walking randomly I bumped into some guys giving food away to homeless people, I asked about the program and also if they needed any help, they said yes and invited me to meet them the next night.
I instantly felt better and slept like a baby that night. Over the next 2 months I helped them expand from giving an average of 120 meals away per night to now doing over 800 everyday. Having a purpose or goal or even just helping people randomly does wonders.

But being honest the first thing that came to mind when I read ur OP was getting out and flirting LOL.

One of my ex's just smiled to me and wished my happy holidays, she was with her boyfriend and they went away.

Do you know how excruciating this is? The pain inside. The pain inside is so great. Maybe because its the holidays and I am by myself. She was very special to me. To see her smile and go away with him. I just wanted to see her smile. She was so happy to see me one day. It hurts to ridiculously soul in depth creating an anxiety blanket over the mind.

Originally posted by quedup
...the key is to learn to be happy with yourself - this is the secret to life. If you depend on others for your happiness you are going to be very hurt throughout life. Look inside and learn to be happy with who you are then if someone comes along who adds to that happiness - it's a bonus.

Congratulations on being the umpteenth billionth person to have that identical outlook on life--and to share it with others as if no one has ever heard it before.

The fact is, if this load of b.s. actually worked, then there wouldn't be any unhappiness in the world. Everyone--and their mother, father, sister, brother, cousin; the mailman; the family dog; your long-lost aunt Gertrude; your mysterious love-child that you never knew you had, etc.--has had this viewpoint preached at them repeatedly for years. What you and those like you aren't getting is that this doesn't work for everyone.

The fact is, there is no one-size-fits-all cure for misery.

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Stop worrying about your own condition. There is nothing wrong with you or who you are. To bring yourself up from a low go find someone and make them smile. Give someone a gift, visit someone who is lonely, or tell a joke to a friend who is sad. Volunteer at a homeless shelter, elderly care facility, or any number of ideas. The point is when you give happiness away you will receive it tenfold.