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Originally posted by silo13
The recount of your past behavior is very similar to the 'escape mechanisms' used by children who were actively being sexually molested and were facing another attack.
I'm not saying that's what happened to you but what you're reporting is very similar to those who have been sexually molested.
After the first painful horrifying experience children learn to 'know' when another attack is imminent. From there Adult Survivors of Childhood Sexual Assault report they 'put themselves in trances' - or - 'went away' many stating it became difficult to 'come out of' the self induced trance.
Later the same Adult Survivors reported they turned to 'Self Inflicted Injury' in order to 'feel something, anything' due to their eventual lack of being able to feel at all.
I hope this isn't the case, in your case.
peaceedit on 9-12-2011 by silo13 because: spelling
I feel a bit weird now actually.
Originally posted by silo13
reply to post by KatieVA
I feel a bit weird now actually.
If you don't mind me saying I hope you don't get down on yourself for feeling 'weird'.
Children are miraculous - and have such an incredible capability to 'survive'.
YOU are a survivor!
Be proud of that and who you are. Let the 'weird' part go.
On another note though? It's not uncommon for children who've been abused to really compartmentalize their pain and memories. Putting those horrific events 'away' somewhere safe in their' 'memory box'.
If you continue to 'feel weird'? First, get in a safe place, someplace you feel really comfortable and not at all threatened.
Second, make sure you have someone you can call on if negative memories do come 'flooding back'.
Third? Allow yourself to 'go back to that place' - where you used to go as a child, and, see if any memories are let out of your 'memory box'.
The above is only a suggestion and truly shouldn't be attempted if you're a all vulnerable. If you continue to feel uneasy see if you can find someone to help you through your memories and make sure you have someone to help you stay grounded.
peace to you, real peace to you.
edit on 9-12-2011 by silo13 because: clarify
Originally posted by March of the Fire Ants
I used to experience something similar (to my knowledge without any form of real abuse..) normally it was as I was falling asleep. Sometimes I'd remember weird dreams.. really weird, honestly don't think I can find the words to describe them though lol
The only time I've felt anything similar is while meditating, dunno if you have any interest in that sort of thing but this is the right sub forum to explore!
Originally posted by KatieVA
Originally posted by March of the Fire Ants
I used to experience something similar (to my knowledge without any form of real abuse..) normally it was as I was falling asleep. Sometimes I'd remember weird dreams.. really weird, honestly don't think I can find the words to describe them though lol
The only time I've felt anything similar is while meditating, dunno if you have any interest in that sort of thing but this is the right sub forum to explore!
This used to happen to me mainly (as I remember) when I was just lying in my room, on the bed, during the daytime...another time it happened when I was sitting on the toilet in school!
I'm very interested in mediation, used to do it quite frequently but haven't in quite a while. I'd like to take it up again!
Did you have trouble remembering who you were when you "snapped out of it" too?
I just can't feel anything. I'm not depressed at all, at this stage in my life, I have everything I could ever have wanted - but I can't feel any of the nice feelings I'm supposed to be feeling. I tried to explain this to my therapist and she just didn't understand and it frustrated me so much.
Anyway, I seem to have poured my heart out to a complete stranger. But I feel a bit better for it!