Dream - was my friend trying to communicate with me?

I had a dream this past Tuesday morning. I don't typically remember my dreams. But this dream I recalled so much.

It was about a friend of mine who I grew up with. We were best friends when we were in Jr High School, went to different High Schools so didn't stay real close. When I was about 20 years old, I ran into her one day and we once again were doing everything together. We both got married, had children, helped each other out with the kids, errands, life in general.

About 9 years ago we both moved from our home town. She called me one afternoon crying. She told me that she was in the hospital and that they had found a brain tumor the size of a lemon. Since, she has had 5 surgeries and slowly been going down hill. About 2 months ago her sister told me that she had been in the hospital, was put on new medication and was doing better.

Back to my dream..Tuesday morning I woke after having a dream of my friend. It started out that we were in the back seat of a car. She had video equipment with her. I asked her what it was for. She informed me that she was about to have a baby and asked if I wanted to witness the birth. I was honored and excepted. (side note here - she did end up having her 4th child after being diagnosed with the brain tumor. Not something her and her husband were trying for).

We arrived at the hospital and walked down several hallways to find the check in desk for her. We finally arrived at the desk and my friend was becoming uncomfortable. She became very irritated with the nurses. They finally got to her to take her information and do her labs for checking in. They then turned to me and asked how many keys we would need for the birthing room. They explained that each person who enters the room has to have their own key. So they gave a key to me and my friend, at which time my friend said to the nurse "all the others behind us will need a key as well", I turned and looked and there was everyone in her family from her parents, siblings, children and all the friends we went to school with. I was shocked at how many people she was going to have in her birthing room.

I was told she was all set to be checked in to her room and that we would have to drive to the next location. I was confused as to why we had to drive to another hospital but I figured we better get moving.

I was in the passengers seat, and my friend was in my lap, facing me with her head resting against the dashboard. The strange thing was she was only a torso at this point. Suddenly, she had this look of pain on her face. She pulled her shoulders up to her ears, sunk her chin down towards her chest - almost looked like she was turning into her own body. She said it hurt to breath. So I lifted her up to get her air into her lungs. She sighed a sigh of relief and thanked me for helping her. I placed her back down on my lap. The same thing continued over and over again for the rest of the dream. Eventually when the pain hit her she would tell me to just let her be. To watch her in pain was more than I could take...that's when I finally woke up.

The dream was haunting me. I could not get back to sleep. I got up and sent her sister an email asking if she was ok. Her sister called me to ask what my dream was about. I told her. She said "wow - we had to put her into hospice early this morning because she is having trouble breathing". They are sedating her until she passes and trying to make her as comfortable as possible.

In all the years I have been friends with her, I had never had a dream about her. It sounds crazy that she was communicating with me via my dream, but that is how I am viewing it. I know that her time is very short. Her breathing is starting to become labored.as of a few hours ago. I am hoping she comes to me when her time comes. I can hope she does any way.

Typically, if your friend is going to communicate with you after she passes, it is usually 3 days later. Why that is, I do not know, but I have found it to be true as people in my life have passed.

reply to post by FissionSurplus


Interesting, thank you for the information - I had never heard that before.

Wow.... what an amazing story. And so sad, too. I know passing is just another phase in our journey, but still, we've all been taught to appreciate our lives and take them seriously, and it is hard to imagine letting go of who and what we are.

I barely ever remember my dreams, so if my loved ones are trying to reach me, they are having a hard time! But the few times I've dreamed of my father (whom passed), I know he was trying to reach out to me.

When we are sleeping, our souls are out there in the netherworld--and for certain we can meet up with people who have either passed or the souls of those who are alive. You were receiving some sort of communication!

I will say a prayer for your friend!

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Thank you for your kind words and reply.

As of this morning she is still hanging on.

I have to wonder...do any of you think that a person can be "held back" from passing on because the family is holding on to them. Just a thought I have been wondering about.

I have had several "dreams" of my mother who passed on, and I was definitely able to differentiate those visits from typical dreams. They just don't feel like a dream. They feel like you were really with that person.

When I read your dream, I felt like you had a psychic experience. The dreams I've had were direct communication, no storyline. That's not to say that all dream visits have to be that way, I'm just sharing the feeling I got from reading your dream - that you had some sort of psychic premonition or draw to her. But perhaps she was communicating. I think only you can know. Trust how the dream felt. You will know if it was different or not.

And I do think that people can hang on until they feel it's time or family is ready. When my mom was dying (she had a week-long illness from surgical complications, so it wasn't terribly drawn out), I found peace right away with letting her go. I discovered what it's like to love someone so much that you're willing to let them die so they can be released from tremendous suffering. My family had a harder time with that and kept telling her to hold on and fight. It was after my mother was able to wave good-bye (she was on a vent and couldn't talk) that the others were able to release her. So from my personal experience, I do think there's something spiritual and connected about the death of a close family member or friend with those who are surrounding the dying. It's not just the dying who's going through the experience; it's shared in a way.

I believe your friend will live on outside this dying body, and there's a very good chance you will meet her again in your dreams. Peace to you and to her.

I've experienced similar phenomenon with friends and loved ones. I tend to be wide open to that plane. My experiences with others includes those who haven't passed as well as those who have recently passed or are passing at the exact time of my dream/phenomenon.

We're more than we can see, feel, taste and touch. I even had a dream of a friend having a grand mal seizure while sitting at their desk. This friend had no history of seizures or medical issues. I looked up what to do in case someone has a seizure after that dream. A few days later, the friend had a seizure at their desk. They were okay after that.


I've had dreams that I was being called on to help someone that was injured. I didn't want to. I'm squeamish. But I had to in order to make this frequency/vibration/sound stop. That has occurred when there's been serious medical emergencies somewhere very close to my house. I recognized a picture of a woman in the paper whom died from one of my dreams. She was the one I was called on to calm. In the dream, I put my arms around her until she stopped flipping out. I had to force myself to do that. It wasn't comfortable at all.


I am sharing my experiences because we're all unique and I am hoping that it may allow you to think outside the bounds of 'reality' or what the 'psychics' say is possible. They can only speak from their own experience. It's different for each of us. We all have our own gifts, strengths, etc. I think we're all doing this stuff, but most of us don't remember it. I can remember it, that's all. I'm just a regular person, not a professional psychic. I can't call it up, but I pay attention when it happens.


You may have been assisting your friend in some way with your dream of helping her to breathe by lifting her up. We're more than the physical. I wish you both many blessings, clarity and the wisdom to see love everywhere you look.......no fear!

Originally posted by drunkennoodle
I have had several "dreams" of my mother who passed on, and I was definitely able to differentiate those visits from typical dreams. They just don't feel like a dream. They feel like you were really with that person.

When I read your dream, I felt like you had a psychic experience. The dreams I've had were direct communication, no storyline. That's not to say that all dream visits have to be that way, I'm just sharing the feeling I got from reading your dream - that you had some sort of psychic premonition or draw to her. But perhaps she was communicating. I think only you can know. Trust how the dream felt. You will know if it was different or not.

I believe your friend will live on outside this dying body, and there's a very good chance you will meet her again in your dreams. Peace to you and to her.

Since I don't remember many dreams this was quite the dream for me to have. It seemed so REAL! I must admit that the dream has reallly made me wonder many things. First, why I had such a vivid dream (the last I heard was she was doing better on new meds), Second, the timing of the dream - happened to be in a hospital setting. And lastly, the fact that in my dream she was having trouble breathing and that's why she was put into hospice.

Thank you for taking the time to read and reply. I do feel this was not a typical dream, but a form of communication - on what level I do not know.

I am sharing my experiences because we're all unique and I am hoping that it may allow you to think outside the bounds of 'reality' or what the 'psychics' say is possible. They can only speak from their own experience. It's different for each of us. We all have our own gifts, strengths, etc. I think we're all doing this stuff, but most of us don't remember it. I can remember it, that's all. I'm just a regular person, not a professional psychic. I can't call it up, but I pay attention when it happens. You may have been assisting your friend in some way with your dream of helping her to breathe by lifting her up. We're more than the physical. I wish you both many blessings, clarity and the wisdom to see love everywhere you look.......no fear!

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Thank you so much for sharing your experiences. It helps to hear others thoughts and experiences. I will be paying close attention. Your words are encouraging and uplifting.

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Soul/Astral self's way of reaching out to the closest being in this plane, and that happens to be you. I pray that her journey to the next plane is blessed. I'm not sure how close she is geographically to you or if you're going to see her, but I won't be surprised if she pays you another visit.

Peace.

Originally posted by himalayanhermit
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Soul/Astral self's way of reaching out to the closest being in this plane, and that happens to be you. I pray that her journey to the next plane is blessed. I'm not sure how close she is geographically to you or if you're going to see her, but I won't be surprised if she pays you another visit.

Peace.

Thank you for your reply himalayahermit. We are about 12 hour drive from each other. I don't think I will have the chance to see her before she passes. I hope she comes (back) to me when she passes...I keep asking her to - to let me know she is alright. Another poster said above she will visit on the 3rd day after she passes....if she does, I will let you all know (even if it is the first day, or any day after). I think her time is coming soon. :-(

if i had a dream like that and i knew my friend was dieing id try my damnedest to be by her side. im not trying to make you feel guilty. the way i interpreted the dream makes me think she needs you there. giving birth and needing help to breath may mean she needs you to help her breath a new life? (help her move on)

I believe it is possible for loved ones to hang on until the family can let them go, as in the case of my grandfather on my mothers side. He said that he wanted his family around him when he passed. He was unresponsive for a good amount of time before we all made it to his bedside, even then he was still fighting not giving up. It was not until my uncle leaned down and whispered into his ear that it was OK for him to go now we were all there that he finally gave up and passed on literally in within a couple of minuets. However since your friend has not passed away yet I am not sure exactly what to make of it. Hope she pulls through though.