Women "Act" Sex To Get Love And Men "Act" Love To Get Sex

This make believe i want you,make believe i love you act,is what keeps our relationship world turning and it is based on people continuously lying to eachother to get what they want from the other person.It is why the divorce rate is so high today,unlike in the not so long ago past,when people actually needed eachother to live.Most people only look at the surface of someone and their emotional connection with someone is based on what the other person looks like and what they have.Not who they really are...

I believe that the vast majority of adult men in this world,do not and will not ever really love any woman.The vast majority of men do not control when they have sex,they do not control how much sex they will have and they do not control who they have sex with either and because of those reasons,men will have no problem whatsoever lying and telling the women in their lives that they love them,to get sex and as soon as that sex is taken away,their words of professed love and emotional understanding will very quickly vanish and turn into hate.The only thing most men want is sex and most of their thoughts and actions revolve around trying to get more money to obtain more sex and nothing else...

I believe that the vast majority of adult women in this world do not really like having sex with men.In this day and age,the vast majority of women in this world are in almost total control of dictating when they will have sex,how often they will have sex and who they will have sex with.Which is whenever and with whoever they want and because of those reasons,women will lease their sex to the highest bidder and naively give it to the best liar,the best actor.The man who provides a sheild,a thin veneer of emotional support.The man who appears physically to be able to provide her with the strongest children.The man with the newest car that she can be seen in and the fattest wallet she can feed from.He will get her sex and if his money is taken away,her desire for him will very quickly vanish and turn into hate.A cold and calculated additude which leaves most men in the dust,picking through the emotional wreckage of broken relationships...

DAMN!!!!

I actually feel sorry for you.
If your I guy I genuinely believe you must be gay (nothing wrong with that in my book)
Or if your a woman youve been out with some horrible men.

Im male and I can assure you I have been in love several times and I wasnt faking it just to get laId.

I hope you one day meet someone who makes you change your mind

Actually divorce was a taboo back then and women would be killed if they tried sh*t like divorce. Now divorce is a fashion statement...

reply to post by blocula


I find most women are only interested in sex when you first meet them.And I find most dont want a guy to come on strong too soon.Girls are into sex just as much guys are.Maybe more.

I don't speak for all men of course,
But i, myself, do love my girlfriend regardless of sex , though i do like having sex with said girlfriend, its not the most important thing to me. The things i like most are a) waking up next to her, and b) farting under the covers and giggling like hell

Haha

Ive been in love, and it wasnt for sex.

I can go to a club and get sex....sex is sex is sex.

Love is different, its fairly clear you havent been in love before....there is more to love than sex

What a narrow minded sexist generalization of humans.


What about women visiting strip clubs or hiring male prostitutes?
Have you not read accounts by women themselves who said they cheated on their husbands/boyfriends just because they wanted to have "fun"?
Or the so called cougars hitting on teenage boys?

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Well one thing you said is defiantly true about women, when the money goes away so do they. Yes men love sex and want it alot but that doesn't mean they are incapable of loving someone.

Originally posted by AzureSky
I don't speak for all men of course,
.... farting under the covers and giggling like hell

Haha

[edit: for brevity]

As noted by AzureSky, love is so much more than the 'rosey' moments that go into a relationship.

Originally posted by theovermensch
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I find most women are only interested in sex when you first meet them.And I find most dont want a guy to come on strong too soon.Girls are into sex just as much guys are.Maybe more.

edit on 5-11-2011 by theovermensch because: (no reason given)

It might seem that they are just as much into sex.It might "appear" that way from a guy who is getting some...But have you ever seen a really hot woman driving around with an average joe in an old broken down car? I have not...They are surface dwellers who will only be seen in bmw's,mercedes,corvettes,anything shiney and new...Hmmm,I wonder why?

Most men are average or less than average looking,regular nobody's with hardly any money and they will have a better chance of getting struck by lightning or hitting the lottery then they will getting sex from a really hot woman...

But if that same regular looking guy does hit the lottery,the "i have money now" bells and whistles will be ringing and sounding off and watch all the hot women who will suddenly start coming out of the woodwork "acting" like they want to have sex with him...

I am an average guy in a broken down car and I get with hot chicks.They drive around with me too.Lots of hot chicks are really nice.

Protip: There's no such thing as love. Deal with it.

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And I bet you keep going back for more.

Do not blame the wall you are banging your head against.

Are you kidding me?
Women LOVE sex!
They probably actually enjoy it more than we men do - when it's done right!

The thing is, women usually want to feel a sense of security with their chosen partner.

With men we are usually the aggressor, so security isn't much of a factor unless there's another man involved, whereupon territorial issues can ensue.

And while men CAN feel true love... the truth is that love is the result of chemicals like Oxytocin and we don't really have as much control over these feelings as we'd like to think!

I don’t know man, my wife has an orgasm almost every time we have sex, sometime's two or three. She digs me, I dig her... what more be said in that regard. However we both love each other, more than the sun that rises every morning, we need each other. We are best friends. She finds me sexy, and witty, I find her understanding, and beautiful. However we both love each other. I respectfully disagree and I suggest you work on your relationship skills, and then focus on your sexual abilities.

Originally posted by DeReK DaRkLy


Are you kidding me?
Women LOVE sex!
They probably actually enjoy it more than we men do - when it's done right!

The thing is, women usually want to feel a sense of security with their chosen partner.

With men we are usually the aggressor, so security isn't much of a factor unless there's another man involved, whereupon territorial issues can ensue.

And while men CAN feel true love... the truth is that love is the result of chemicals like Oxytocin and we don't really have as much control over these feelings as we'd like to think!

Women love sex so much that they give it to the guy with the most muscles,the newest car and the fattest bank account.Or the guy who will soon be inheriting a decent amount of money and that is the guy who will have his sex leased to him and i say leased because just like leasing a car,if you stop making the payments,the car is quickly taken away...

As long as you think they love sex,thats all that matters from their perspective.Just wait and see what happens when another man comes along who has a bigger house and a better car and more money...Then out of nowhere her "fabricated" fights and arguments will start...

Their "sense of security" that you mention is a phrase that also means "money" If a guy meets a woman and one of her first 10 questions is "what do you do for work"...Walk out the door...

Most men don't know how to love anything and could care less about it.They can only act like they do...

Originally posted by blocula

Originally posted by DeReK DaRkLy


Are you kidding me?
Women LOVE sex!
They probably actually enjoy it more than we men do - when it's done right!

The thing is, women usually want to feel a sense of security with their chosen partner.

With men we are usually the aggressor, so security isn't much of a factor unless there's another man involved, whereupon territorial issues can ensue.

And while men CAN feel true love... the truth is that love is the result of chemicals like Oxytocin and we don't really have as much control over these feelings as we'd like to think!

Women love sex so much that they give it to the guy with the most muscles,the newest car and the fattest bank account and that is the guy who will have his sex leased to him and i say leased because just like leasing a car,if you stop making the payments,the car is quickly taken away...

As long as you think they love sex,thats all that matters from their perspective.Just wait and see what happens when another man comes along who has a bigger house and a better car and more money...The her "fabricated" fights and arguments will start...

Their "sense of security" that you mention is a phrase that also means "money" If a guy meets a woman and one of her first 10 questions is "what do you do for work"...Walk out the door...

Whatever dude, my wife is with me im 23 years old been married for almost five years, indeed lot of rough patches, and cheating has happend. Mostly because of me, when i was stationed in germany and told my wife i want a divorce and partied every chance i got. Well guess what, i came home from the war with a pace maker and a broken back, i still work but its a challenge every day, we are suffering and have been for a while. I love her though, she loves me. She is the mother of my three children, you are materialistic, if these are the type of women you find. You see i despise those women, i wont even talk to them. Back in the day i would have sex with those type of women and leave them abruptly. I was a true blue A hole. I dont have those resentments towards women any more but when i see those personalitys around me young or old i am disgusted. Money is a joke. I goto the park with my kids,and wife and we enjoy every seconed in peace. The moments that we share are everlasting, you know nothing about this, apparently you are caught up in materialism and thus you reap what you sow.

While I think this may be the case in some relationships, it is certainly not the case in all. You've gotta break the cycle to get out of that rut

Originally posted by ValentineWiggin
While I think this may be the case in some relationships, it is certainly not the case in all. You've gotta break the cycle to get out of that rut

I find this a very interesting subject. Some of my friends were over and we got onto this same conversation. I really don't have time to get into the conversation, but I will say some of us were very schocked at what we were hearing. i guess there are some who can seem like such loving and caring people and live life so differently.

Originally posted by TechniXcality
I don’t know man, my wife has an orgasm almost every time we have sex, sometime's two or three. She digs me, I dig her... what more be said in that regard. However we both love each other, more than the sun that rises every morning, we need each other. We are best friends. She finds me sexy, and witty, I find her understanding, and beautiful. However we both love each other. I respectfully disagree and I suggest you work on your relationship skills, and then focus on your sexual abilities.

Over 60% of women fake their orgasms on a regular basis and over 80% fake them once in awhile. They are pretending that they enjoy it much more than they really are, to make their "meal ticket money man" feel good about himself and satisfy his ego...