Was my dream self-fulfilling or predictive?

Basically I have recently started a new relationship - approx 3 months old.

My partner travelled away for a long weekend to do some research on a screen play he is writing and came back earlier than expected describing an interesting but uneventful trip.

While he was away, I had a dream the second night he was gone that a woman/ girl of a certain description kissed him in a room on a couch while I passively looked on.

At some point shortly after he had returned I mentioned the dream and described the girl I saw and jokingly gave him a little beef about the whole thing.
He laughed it off, and we (or rather I) thought nothing more of it.

Fast forward one month and suffice to say we have conflict about something unrelated.

He breaks down and tells me he cheated, on his trip away that particular weekend...

Part of the reason he told me was - obviously apart from the guilt etc was the fact that the dream I had told him of at the time was - according to him- Highly Accurate and had freaked him out on the inside so completely he had felt compelled to tell me in case somehow I knew anyway!

The girls appearance, the environment, all of it matched his infidelity and although he never let on he was quite literally stumped as to how this had happened.
I don't know either, and I was wondering what you thought?

Does our subconscious create our outer reality?
Is it purely coincidence?
Did I some how some way tap into something that already existed and view it from my own perspective?

Any and all ideas are welcome.

Skeptics and dreamers also.

Many thanks for reading.
Wag

Once my mom had a dream my dad was seeing the girl from the library while they were dating. My dad was seeing the girl from the library.

reply to post by NerdGoddess


Sorry to hear that...

Do you think sometimes it's just a woman's intuition in that case?

Greetings, wag

It's difficult to say much about thoroughly personal dreams beyond generalizations. Sometimes they refer to things in your current situation, with possible emphasis on aspects of current events you aren't thinking about much when you're awake.

Your dream was topical. Your friend was away. It is not much of a stretch that he might meet someone and be attracted to her. Dreams are thoughts, and the thought occurred to you. As to the lady, you must have a pretty good idea of what kind of woman he would find attractive. You may also have had some estimate about his inclination to stray, two months into a relationship.

As a prediction, it's a tad oblique. Unless you toned it down for us, your dream sounds tame while the reality was torrid. That surely would make a difference - imagine if it were the other way around, you'd be laughing about this. Also, it sounds as if you've never met the lady. How close you came is based on his statements. However, his concern when you told him about your dream was how much else you knew.

If he was thinking you actually knew everything, then fear or guilt could easily improve the match, in his mind, between what you actually said and the facts. In any case, his initial reaction to the dream was less than candid, so his second version of events might reasonably be taken with a grain of salt, too. He has, after all, apparently managed to change the subject from his being a tom cat to how your dream worked.

One problem with metaphysical and preternatural explanations is that they don't give us credit for our intelligence. It is simply a natural fact that you know more than you know you know. Everybody does. What you know but don't know you know is, by definition, unconscious. Your unconscious is the source of your dreams.

That's what I think happened, anyway. Best wishes for sorting out your real-life situation in a way that gives you enduring happiness. Thank you for posting your dream, during such a difficult personal crisis.

reply to post by wagtail


Sounds predictive to me.

Seems as though you somehow 'remotely viewed' them.

ALS

Originally posted by wagtail

He breaks down and tells me he cheated, on his trip away that particular weekend...

Have you had any dreams about murdering him, yet?

In all seriousness, I think you were picking up on the fact that he was going to cheat, subconsciously and ignored it, so your mind working over time created the dream.

When a guy does something like this, he is thinking about it before he does it. Don't for one second think that he doesn't plan on doing it again, or that he hasn't cheated in the past.

The only reason he fessed up is because your dream nailed him! Pay close attention to the signals he's sending to you during waking time, and quit ignoring what you are seeing!

Oh and on a side note, your relationship is relatively new. If you don't know the person he was with before you, find out who it was and talk to that person. I will bet you that the previous relationship ended in part due to him cheating.

Good luck to you, and isn't it a little early to be calling a person you are with for 3 months, a "partner?"

Thanks for the replies here folks.

eightbits- great response... everything you put into this makes sense to me and may very well be a huge part of the answer I'm looking for here!

Alostsoul- cool theory, don't know much about remote viewing exactly but always had an interest in the topic.
Do you have any remote viewing experiences you could share with me as an example?

Supine- Hahaha, lots of good points there and your candour and humour is appreciated. Your sound advice in terms of the relationship itself is spot on and nothin' I haven't already considered.
However this is not the forum to discuss my relationship issues, they will be sorted out believe me...