crazy gemstone question

Not sure where to post this at, but thought this would be the most on-topic section to this.

I know this is kind of off-topic but I wanted to ask your opinions on this issue, which, well, I am beginning to think I am nuts, LOL.

I received a beautiful peridot ring in December of 1998 as a Christmas gift and it was my very first real kind of jewelry, other than the icky costume stuff that doesn't last.
My birthstone is a Peridot and I had always wanted one. My parents got it for me and took me along to pick it out.
It's in a silver band and I have worn it literally continuously ever since... day and night. Up until about March of this year.
Well, reason for my not wearing it anymore if what seems a bit nuts.
I had worn this ring through some really awesome good times in my life, and through a really good change in my life, too... graduating from high school... friends, gaining some peace in my life. One in particular being finding a wonderful person in my life, that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with... which I have now known for 4 years.
So, I kind of always saw it as good luck.. as it's absorbed all of that good energy and memories. (see, i've always been weird like that).

Anyways, one week this past March, some things in that relationship between me and that person had gone crappy. Some misunderstandings and following some events which, weren't either of our faults, but its a long story and has since seemed to cause some issues between us, but we are still friends, but still. things are kind weird.. but we are working on it. and i feel we are meant to get through it and be together. its such a long story to get into on here.

so, how this ties into the ring deal is, that i feel since this ring was worn during this weird, negative period (which I consider to be one of the worst events in my life.. in fear of ever losing this person after all of this) that this has somehow, counteracted all of the good energies it has absorbed. i know this sounds crazy, but i end up feeling that things wont be worked out, if i continue wearing it... and also being reminded of this event.
not just that but other things as well.

do any of you who are like me with stuff like this, feel that maybe... all of those good energies may once again help lend a hand in fixing this relationship in a way, or make it worse. or i mean, am i crazy in thinking this kind of weird metaphysical stuff? or could it now bring me bad luck, in anything in general or use its good energies, which it may still have, to make things better.

should i wear it again?

am i insane?

I also have pieces of jewelry I haven't worn in years because of certain memories and emotions they evoke. I've also found (from going to antique stores and flea markets, etc.) that jewelry can retain emotional & psychic imprints, and one of my least psychic friends had to leave a show because of a terrible feeling she got after putting on a certain bracelet.

If you really like the gemstone, I suggest a few different things:

1. Get it put into another setting/band;

2. Have it cleansed and/or blessed according to your particular faith; or

3. Put the ring away until you've achieved true closure on this relationship.

I wouldn't say the ring is bad luck per se. It just had the misfortune of being present (and readily visible) at the time something bad happened to you. Considering it was there during good times too, I don't think the ring or gemstone bears any blame or curse.

Hope this helps.

Yes. Certainly continue wearing it.

After all, it was with you through the good times.

The ring didn't cause the problem. In fact it picked up the good vibrations so it will most likely help you through the bad.

i would wear the ring again, however there is an easy method of cleansing the stone so that whatever vibes good and bad are store in it can be released and you can start fresh.

wearing your birthstone most always offer more benefits than negatives.

to cleanse your stone, you can hold it under running water (faucet) then allow it to airdry in the sun, you can put it on a sunny window sill, etc
as you hold the ring under the water, picture in your mind all the good/bad vibes washing out of the stone. Then in your mind again, ask that the stone be charged with all its positive qualities thru the sun.

do a search on crystal cleansing for other methods, there are quite a few techniques out there.

Some stone were believed to keep the energies bad or good of the people that wear them.

I cannot recall any ones stone being peridot. When were you born??

Peridot could fall under another stone type.

You have to check the stores because they have stones for months too. But Magick-wise your stone should to be for your sun sign.

Originally posted by DragonflyKingdom
I cannot recall any ones stone being peridot. When were you born??

Its one of the stones for August

The ring needs to be cleansed. First I would set in the full heat of the sun for a day, I would then bury it in sea salt for a couple of days...then......

Close you eyes and imagine this ring looking murky and black...visualize a shining brilliant shimmering bluish silver light shinning over it and see that light slowly filling the ring from the top, where the jewel is, slowly going through the ring and wherever it has filled the ring, it now is bright and shiny and new looking as it fills the ring more and more with the light, you visualize the murky, negativity flowing out the other end of the ring (the bottom side of the band) now....see all the physic bands running from this ring to your ex SO, visualize yourself cutting those bands in two so that there is no more connections between the ring and him.....
this should cleanse your ring....I do this with all my jewelry every 6 weeks or so, other than the connective bands of course...jewelry absorbs much negativity as we go about daily lives...

So if Peridot is for August, this means you are a Leo or Virgo and your stone would be Ruby or Sapphire. Either one brings serenty to the mind which will help you put things in perspective and deal. It may undo the peridots effects as they are more precious. Ruby will add protection against physical harm and unfaithfulness (LEO) Sapphire will protect against the same but only during travel (Virgo)

Originally posted by DragonflyKingdom
So if Peridot is for August, this means you are a Leo or Virgo and your stone would be Ruby or Sapphire. Either one brings serenty to the mind which will help you put things in perspective and deal. It may undo the peridots effects as they are more precious. Ruby will add protection against physical harm and unfaithfulness (LEO) Sapphire will protect against the same but only during travel (Virgo)

Not necessarily...depends on the date...she could be a cusper...

Some gemstones don't take kindly to being placed in full sunlight for any length of time, opals being a prime example, plus I believe that it's not recommended for emeralds either.

I don't know whether this applies to peridots as well - but to be safe, you'd be better advised to expose it to the moonlight for 3 consecutive nights, even if there's cloud cover. Visualisation & cleansing under running water are good practice too, & this could be done at regular intervals.

The peridot is a lovely gemstone of particularly beautiful colour that is lovelier to look at than the emerald IMO. It would be such a pity if you stopped wearing yours forever. Cleanse it a few times, & continue wearing it, is my advice. A peridot ring is on my wish list, together with watermelon tourmaline earrings!

[edit on 7/8/04 by Bastet]

Originally posted by Bastet
Some gemstones don't take kindly to being placed in full sunlight

expose it to the moonlight for 3 consecutive nights,
[edit on 7/8/04 by Bastet]

Your right!!!! Thanks for catching that!

I love gemstones. The ones that are suited for me are the ones I treasure most. They may be inanimate but they certainly possess a unique, sometimes metamorphing vibrational character/quality about them. In my case, working with such stones is always a rewarding learning experience.

Personally I don't belive in this stuff, putting jewelry to sunshine or moonshine or whatever, but there is a truth about connecting certain things to bad or good times in your life, and this has IMHO nothing to do with something paranormal that must be "cleansed" (did I spell it correct?).

You will probably have noticed that you sometimes connect certain songs or genres of music with times in your life? This goes with scents too btw and probably with other sensory perceptions too. This is how the brain works I think.

I have certain songs that I can't stand since they were popular and played a lot on the radio (I bought them on CD as well...) during a period in my life that was really troubling for me. As soon as I hear those songs, emotions - that I thought had gone - from that time can creep up to the surface again. Nothing to do with paranormal stuff really, just how humans tend to work, or *I* tend to work anyway.

I have also had rings that I wore during the abovementioned period in my life that I don't wear anymore since it is a reminder of a period I rather want to forget. Nothing paranormal here either.

If you want to try to handle your troubled life situation with exposing your rings to sun or moon, this may very well make you *believe* that all is well and I guess that the placebo effect cannot be counted out, but if you really want to get this out of your system, find a friend or professional to talk it out to. Probably will do your better than fiddling with cleanings stuff.

No offense to you all guys that believes this cleansing stuff, just speaking about my own experience here. Your experience may not be the same as mine of course, that's why probably our oppinions differ.

Take care now and wear your rings...it's all in the head really.

// K

No offence taken. The mind is the ultimate power. Whatever one uses to enhance the mind, helping with focus, happiness, manifestation, etc. is a good thing or shall I say in may case, a good life.