Is Sexting Cheating?

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Is “sexting” really cheating? Well, if, like Congressman Anthony Wiener, you’re married and sexting someone other than your spouse (and without your partner’s knowledge or approval), of course it is!
In an earlier post for The Chart, I talked about Internet infidelity and how it’s accelerating at a record pace. With its easy accessibility and novelty, the Internet enables us to easily tune out and turn off to our partners, when we should be making an effort to tune in and turn on.
The instant gratification of these technologies stimulates reward centers in the brain, and soon we find ourselves craving the quick hit of an instant connection or lamenting its absence.
Real relationships take time and patience, whereas sexting a stranger or engaging in a flirtatious Facebook friendship brings us a quick thrill and requires a lot less work. And the more technology becomes a personal accessory that renders us always on, the more likely we are to become novelty seekers in search of the next ping.
We live in an era when many consider sexual infidelity to be the ultimate personal betrayal. But there are those who believe that if infidelity doesn’t involve a physical component, it’s not really cheating—and that’s just not true.
The accessibility of the Internet means that we need to be more vigilant of emotional infidelity, and seemingly benign activities that nonetheless have a sexual and secretive component.

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I'm sorry but I disagree with this man's view that this is not cheating.
It is an emotional betrayal and that is just as bad, sometimes even worse then a physical one.

Well what do you all think?
Yes or No?

Yeah I consider it cheating. Can't see why anyone would disagree with that personally.

Absolutely it is!

Figures a man would say it isn't

reply to post by AnteBellum


My bf can say it isn't, but if he gets caught I will chop his finger off!

Let the punishment fit the crime.

I agree it is cheating and yes I'm male

David.

reply to post by ArianAngel


Lmfao! I'm sure you keep him in line. My girlfriend is the exact. I wonder what would happen if she caught me looking at someone

To cheat means to go against the rules. Maybe it's within the rules of his marriage? Maybe he's a swinger or has an open relationship? Or maybe it's just not a big deal to them?

I don't consider it cheating in regards to my marriage situation. We have a marriage that's a little outside the normal rules though.

My wife sexts other guys/girls all the time and I have no problem with that. Cheating? nope.

I always thought a good rule of thumb was:

"if you wouldn't do it in front of your significant other, then you shouldn't be doing itl"

having said that, I personally feel it is cheating.

Yes. There is a huge difference between having fantasy thoughts and acting upon them in any way.

So any means used to act upon your fantasy desires is cheating in the strictest sense.

Male here too.

reply to post by StarformNJ


you say figures a man would say that but its the girls that are out there doing the exact same things as the guys so that is an ignorant ass comment to say the least. women are just as likely to "sext" or even cheat if not more likely than men.

and to answer the question it is cheating unless your significant other knows whats going on and is okay with it

reply to post by AnteBellum


Yes, absolutely.

2nd

The article doesn't say it's not cheating, if you read it carefully.

I'll say something controversial here : One problem I see in relationships is that a person thinks they "own" their partner. Look at a coupel of the responses to this thread already and you can see that kind of attitude coming out.

The issue with that is that it makes the other person, subconsciously, rebel against that constraint. And, through that rebellion, causes issues with cheating.

It's a negative trust, and definitely not unconditional love.

Negative trust is where you "trust someone" while watching their every move to see if they do something "wrong".

The simple truth is that if your partner is ok with you doing something and is approving of it, it's not cheating. If you have it in your system to do sexting or going with multiple people, and you know your partner is not into it and would be hurt by it, leave that relationship, because they are not for you. Don't use your free will to do whatever you want to hurt their free will to be free of hurt.

Otherwise, you're just asking for trouble.

It depends,

Which is worse...emotional or physical cheating?

Personally, I think the emotional is worse as it is a lie from the heart.

Physical, while still wrong can be repaired in a relationship sometimes. Emotional cheating is forever.

Just my IMO.

Is Sexting Cheating? - YES

Originally posted by grahag
To cheat means to go against the rules. Maybe it's within the rules of his marriage? Maybe he's a swinger or has an open relationship? Or maybe it's just not a big deal to them?

I don't consider it cheating in regards to my marriage situation. We have a marriage that's a little outside the normal rules though.

My wife sexts other guys/girls all the time and I have no problem with that. Cheating? nope.

Exactly my point from my post above. There's all different kinds of relationships, marriages and "togetherness-es".

My wife, for instance, begs me to be with other women. Shoot, it's fun to go out and both of us get enjoyment looking at the nice looking ladies

I've never done it (found someone else, that is), but she's made it clear that if I were to do so, she'd find great happiness in it, as long as I shared it with her.

Anyhow, the point is that when it comes to relationships, there's one of every color and flavor out there, and if you are not with someone that fits your bill, you need to move on and find someone that will. Otherwise, you're never going to be satisfied in it, and WILL cheat.

Cheating, by definition, by the way, is if you go against what you know your partner would approve of. If you know they would be hurt by it, don't do it. That's the choice you make by being with someone of that specific nature.

Originally posted by Sly1one
I always thought a good rule of thumb was:

"if you wouldn't do it in front of your significant other, then you shouldn't be doing itl"

having said that, I personally feel it is cheating.

That is a great rule of thumb and one I deffinately live by!

I'd consider it cheating and wouldn't be very forgiving at all to my partner!

reply to post by Jomina

The simple truth is that if your partner is ok with you doing something and is approving of it, it's not cheating. If you have it in your system to do sexting or going with multiple people, and you know your partner is not into it and would be hurt by it, leave that relationship, because they are not for you.

If your partner is ok with you cheating then it is an open relationship to begin with.
How can you cheat in an open relationship?

Don't use your free will to do whatever you want to hurt their free will to be free of hurt.

Can you run this by me again please, I am having trouble understanding it.

reply to post by AnteBellum


Of course its cheating! Sex is IN the word. Its a sexual act with someone that's not they're significant other.

anything sexual ( talk, pictures,physical or emotional) OUTSIDE of a committed relationship is cheating.....

sexting is cheating period..you have to ask yourself whats the next step after this?? a fanticy is one thing acting upon it is something different