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Originally posted by Bablock
When you go to work, go to work. When you want to play, go out. Keep your private life private. Cover your ass at all times. You don't know who is out to start trouble, so just don't get into it with anyone.
Originally posted by unicomsol
Yes, actually I have mostly dealt with the opposite end. I, being a computer geek whom occasionally walks and tries to avoid the computer geek look have had many a women chasing after me...not trying to be Mr. Studly or whatnot, just the fishbowl, nobody around so I am target...
Originally posted by Illusionsaregrander[/i
the rule of thumb there should be to pay attention to other peoples reaction. If 10 guys laugh and two of them look down and avoid the group, you are crossing lines.
Making one person really dread being on the job is not okay.
Clean it up enough so that the most sensitive person is okay with it,
Originally posted by arriana
It really depends on the individual. I can be quite flirtatious at work, but the lads all know its just a bit of fun, and I don't act like that around new starters 'til they see that. The other girl in my office isn't quite as comfortable with things like that so the lads behave differently around her. It is no different to a group of friends outside of work really. That said my workplace is a lot more laid back than others,
There have been a couple of creepers of course one guy thought I just needed a "real man to put me back on track", and the lads had a word with him. Recently the other girl was followed home, and he was dealt with by the police. But again, this kind of stuff is not limited to the workplace anyway, in fact I think its less likely at work as we all have our wages to consider!
Originally posted by Illusionsaregrander
Originally posted by unicomsol
Yes, actually I have mostly dealt with the opposite end. I, being a computer geek whom occasionally walks and tries to avoid the computer geek look have had many a women chasing after me...not trying to be Mr. Studly or whatnot, just the fishbowl, nobody around so I am target...
You could always just look them in the eye and remind them sexual harassment is a two way street.
Although I have seen studies that indicate that males tend to interpret "friendly" signals from women as "she wants me signals" far more often than the other way round, so I would make sure that wasnt the issue first.
I have personally seen someone getting the total polite brush off walk away sure the woman wanted him, so....................maybe asking a friends objective honest opinion might help.
Originally posted by butcherguy
Bill Clinton seemed to be able to do whatever he wanted,
While Clarence Thomas had a different standard applied to him.
I guess the difference between the two would be unsubstantiated allegations against Clarence Thomas.... vs a semen-stained blue dress harboring Bill Clintons DNA ( also known as proof) in the case involving Monica Lewinski, an impressionable teenager that should not have to worry about workplace sexual harassment from the holder of the highest office in the land.
Originally posted by Illusionsaregrander
Originally posted by butcherguy
Bill Clinton seemed to be able to do whatever he wanted,
While Clarence Thomas had a different standard applied to him.
Im not sure why you are claiming those as examples of "different treatment." Both got dragged through the media, both kept their positions. Thomas wasnt even a current employee, he was in the approval process, and they still hired him, so really if anyone got the better end of it, he did. Not only was he not fired, (like Clinton) it didnt even dissuade them from hiring him.
Originally posted by butcherguy
Personally, I believe that Anita Hill had zero credibility as a witness and she was most likely there to testify only because someone paid her or forced her to do so.
John: "Hey Jane, can you slide out for a moment, I have to get under the desk and check your network cable" Jane: "just crawl under, I may like it!" -spreads legs-
Well, Im glad you said "personally" because thats all it is, personal opinion on your part.
Again, really obvious. And my point exactly, no evidence in the Clarence Thomas case, but actual evidence in the Bill Clinton case....DNA, and he gets a pass!
It just means you have no evidence.