Women....

Originally posted by lewman
what i find is that many women i have been with have often been able to turn on and off emotions at will and for their own personal gain. i would love to meet women who arent like that but they always seem to be going out with some idiot.

My hubby is not an idiot, he picked me

We're out there somewhere, just take it slow until you get to know a girl, and maybe you guys having so much trouble with the wrong women, would recognize the red flags before you get too involved.

Also, the younger the person, male or female, the more emotional and unstable they're going to be. When older, you start to realize that life's just too short for games.

And yes, chocolate helps at times too......

Originally posted by snowspirit
When older, you start to realize that life's just too short for games.

I think life is too short to even start playing them, you can't always opt out of getting 'played' though.

Except by total abstinence

Getting older helps with that too

My girlfriend and I got in a fight right before I posted this. Maybe shouldn't have posted in that frame of mind. Anyways I did and thats what was running through my mind at the time. And maybe its a legitimate question???

Now we are back to normal like nothing happened.... relationships are funny. lol

OK, My husband can make me Soooooooooo Angry
I am talking and talking and talking to him,,, he's only 1 meter away from me, I finish and wait and wait, and I get mad

My husband says,,,, WHAT? I didn't hear you and gives me this Blank Look I want him DEAD

Then he smiles at me and I want to Slap him.

He says to me, I'm sorry Honey, I wasn't listening when I should have been.
Then he stands up and walks close to me and looks me in the eyes and says, OK, Baby, I'm listening now.
I forget what I was saying to him and I get even madder and he just smiles at me.

You men,,,,,,,, I just don't know,,, You should be listening to us, you should be standing there and waiting for us to make a sound, any sound at all and you should be there 24/7 to take care of all our wants and needs!!!!!

What, What, Dear are you talking to me, What's that,,,, Chocolate and flowers and a warm blanket for my feet,,,,,,,,, You do listen to me,,,,,,,, now remember your place in this life,,,, Hmmm that's good chocolate

reply to post by guohua


Hm maybe thats my problem, I don't do any of those things.

The chocolate, the blanket, or the flowers. Guess I got some work to do.

Can I say,if it hasn't been posted here before.
Men, are very stupid creatures.
I am a man.
I'm stupid when it comes to women.
At least I use to be.
Men and women are two different creatures.
Oh,hell,I had this great post I was going to
put forth,then my little man got in the way.
Going to the porn site.
That is our problem ladies.

Ah, gahd is this all so depressing -

Clearly no one looks at another as an individual.

This is why I gave up entirely.

And what could have been - I could've made someone happy - I do care, I tried so hard to care, and to listen, and to think of others *as an individual* -

Ah, but it's all reduced to petty fighting and crappy candy and ignorance.

This is why I gave up.

reply to post by DisturbedToo


Men let the little things roll off their back because they are the ones that caused the little thing to happen and when they get yelled at because for you did it for the umpteenth time regardless of the politely asking, passive aggressive remarks, yelling, and straight up insane blow outs, you STILL do it, over and over and over again. Istead of maybe just not doing it anymore (which would require consideration and empathy), you just say we're making too big a deal out of it. AND THEN we have to go out of our way to correct it, clean it, take care of it, etc. for the umpteenth million time. That is why it is not a big deal to you but it is for us. Because you don't have to be the one to take care of it.

Edit to add: Have you ever heard the White Stripes song that has the lyric: "You burnt my house down and got mad at my reaction". That sums it up!

reply to post by CapnCaveman


IF it is your mom... let me know... I just bought some chocolate and grapefruit juice...

reply to post by mayabong

Are women irrational, emotional, catty, bitchy, and illogical because the way men have treated them throughout the centuries? OR have men treated women badly through the centuries because women are irrational, emotional, catty, bitchy, and illogical?

Since women can be this way even in the absence of men...I'm going with the latter. That's not to say we men don't have our own faults though...that are just as bad...

OMG,the tension I feel in here!
I work with a bunch of guys.
They kid around,crude female jokes and all.
When there is a problem with another guy,
they talk to there other guy friends,and so sort
of wall and resistence is put up and the guy gets the"hint".
My wife works with a bunch of women.
They just get it out there,maybe behind there backs,
maybe not.
But they put it out there.
Men hide,women confront.
That is why I have my man cave.

reply to post by kdog1982


haha I'm in my man cave right now and thats what I call it. I thought I was the only one.

Originally posted by mayabong
reply to post by kdog1982

 

haha I'm in my man cave right now and thats what I call it. I thought I was the only one.

It's safe,warm and cozy,stinky and dirty to her,I hope,
to keep her out. At least thats how I keep mine. Marking
my territory,just pee on everything!

The original poster may not know the proper name for this phenomenon. It is called:

"Crazy Bitches"

The majority of women are certainly NOT crazy witches. But as a group they created the sub-category at the dawn of time, as a means of self defense.

For without crazy bitches, there would not be enough variability and randomness in the gene pool: mating would be a straight-forward pairing of the most desirable individuals, and many women would lose out.

See, before the crazy bitch was invented, mating was like a beauty pageant, but one which only had a swimsuit competition. Back then, every single male could agree on who the winners were, in descending order. To confound this, women added the "personality" portions of the beauty contest: the bizarre questions, the 'current topics' questions, the talent competition, etc.

Every male is subconsciously afraid of pairing up with a woman who turns out to be a crazy. So he tries to devise a secret method for sorting them out. And ever man is using a slightly different list of warning signs of how to avoid a crazy bitch. Then add into this that some guys are players, and have convinced themselves, or have been convinced by their peer-group, to believe that they can "handle" a "crazy bitch."

So, things are so mixed up and confused, and men running every-which-way trying to find "the one" who is definitely not a c.b., or at least is one they can "handle," that guys can not agree on anything, to the end that practically every woman has a chance at landing a man, if only she can fit into some male's image of what isn't a crazy bitch. This way, more women appear desirable, and more men are confused and secretly frightened that the one they picked just might be.....

you get the idea

Men hide,women confront.
That is why I have my man cave.

Hmm...I've seen just the opposite...

With guys, if someone is ticking us off, we let them know it (unless its our boss, then we're just stuck with putting up with it). We let them know, there's a quick resolution, and that's the end of it.

With women, they'll give each other the silent treatment, and both think they are "right" and the other should apologize.

That's the difference.

Men want a relationship (whether friends or with their woman) conflict to be over (and are willing to be "wrong" just to end it). Women want to WIN more than they want the conflict to be resolved.

reply to post by dr_strangecraft


my last 2 girlfriends had bipolar so i know kind of what you mean here and the last girl who showed an interest in me was very well spoken and beutiful but crazy aswell and now i am kind of scared to commit to even a date as it is just too much stress and hardwork listening to their blatant lies about random things.
i think my problem is that i am far too good at reading people while at the same time being incredably shy around other shy people and most of the crazy girls seem to be extraverts.

reply to post by lewman


excellent self-diagnosis. I have a history with bi- and multi-polar (I just made up that term!) women. Never a more lugubrious time in my life than trying to have a relationship with someone who is mentally ill. And one of them tortured me just for the joy of watching a person suffer. My friends, even her friends begged me to just walk away. I never did. She eventually got bored of toying with me and wandered away. She told me that we had no future because I'd never earn enough money for her to live a life of leisure, which was one of her requirements.

I laugh at myself when I think about that. The best revenge is having a great family and barely being able to remember that witch's name.

reply to post by Whereweheaded


I hope you wrote this for your wife last april fools day!
If not,I see you having peanut butter and jelly for dinner
for a loooong time!

The problem originates from a very simple place - Women are smarter than men.


It is true, and I'll tell you why.

Women are very complex, emotional, self aware creatures. They require a certain level of maintenance, because although they are extremely intelligent, warm and giving by nature, they are also very emotionally needy, and for lack of a better term.....melodramatic (ducks for flying objects).

Men, on the other hand, are slovenly and simple beasts. We think in very general terms and the things that make us happy are typically very basic and not too complex....examples food, quiet, a good nap.

While men do enjoy feeling loved and appreciated from time to time, all men require is a simple hug, a kiss, maybe a pat on the back and a "good boy"...like a dog we are very basic and generally think in only the most simplistic and basic terms.

Women on the other hand are a whirlwind of complex thoughts and emotions. When a high level of intellect is then mixed with a poor self image (most women I have known are always able to find a reason to hate themselves) and a basic need for affirmation and drama...yes thats right....drama....you can have a very bad situation on your hands.

Women are needy, they like to play little mind games with men, who are entirely outmatched. They expect men to know what to say...always. They expect men to be a mind reader/psychologist/best friend/maintenance man and a few other things in between. Women require a certain level of attention (high level) from their men, and if they become bored or feel as though this said attention isnt being given, all hell breaks loose.

Men, on the other hand, are such simple dumb beasts that we tend to believe when a woman says "fine" after asking how her day was...it means just that....fine. WRONG.

Men believe that when a person says "Im not that hungry, you decide where we have dinner"...it means just that. Little does he know this will later escalate to a 2 hour argument ending in a miserable night on the couch.

Men, when confronted with an obviously angry and moody woman, will ask "whats wrong?" And after being told "nothing"....we tend to believe that NOTHING is wrong and let it go. Little did we know we just sank the Lucitania and started WWIII.

Let's face it....men are slow and painfully unaware. It is impossible for us to keep up with the ever changing mood swings, the mental and emotional booby traps that you women set for us....it must be like shooting monkeys in a barrell.

One thing is for sure...relationships are hard.

Originally posted by BlackOps719



Men, on the other hand, are such simple dumb beasts that we tend to believe when a woman says "fine" after asking how her day was...it means just that....fine. WRONG.

I can one up this quote. When I hear "fine" as the response I accept that answer because If I push it, I will hear a 3 hour story on how her makeup smeared. I'd rather not endure that punishment.