Dream about having a baby? very disturbing

Okay so I don't often author threads, but this dream really disturbed me.

So apparently I was pregnant by my boyfriend. A little background is in order..My boyfriend is a lot older than me. I've never wanted kids, but I started to feel a little differently being with him, as though maybe I would if the circumstances were right. But On the one hand hes a little too old to be having children, and we dont have the money or stability for it…bla bla. So although I'd have his child if I could, I can't really right now. Plus the age thing..

Anyway, so this dream really disturbed me and keeping in mind what I've just said I'd like to see if someone could maybe interpret it for me.

So I was pregnant by him, but he wasnt there for some reason as I was being wheeled into the hospital. I think I may have been on the phone with him and he was unable to get to me for some reason, but in the dream it was ok because it was something legitimate..I dont remember what. So I am having this baby, and I remember it didnt hurt at all really but I could feel it coming out. It was the right size and everything but very very dark blood was everywhere. They cleaned it off and all, but then something awful happened!

They took my baby away! For some reason, I asked them what sex it was, and they told me they didn't know, that the sex wasnt clear right now but it might be later. I was confused…because of that and because they weren't coming back with my baby. So I started asking, wheres my son? Even though they said they couldnt tell the sex, I was saying 'wheres my son'. Then they told me they didnt want me to bond with it in case I wanted to give it up for adoption.

Thats when I got the heaviest, worst feeling in my body..all over, just this awful dread.And I started screaming WHERES MY SON!! over and over…and they wouldnt give him to me. In the dream I started hyperventilating..when I woke up at about 5am, I still had that awful feeling and I actually WAS hyperventilating a little. It was awful!

Anyway, anyone know what this could mean?

reply to post by Xavialune


Anyway, anyone know what this could mean?





Ya'...you're processing all of your insecurities while you sleep...most of us do.


Try drinking copious amounts of alcohol before you go to bed - otherwise your dreams will remain this boring...

lol….well I dont recall being insecure about losing a child though? the losing it part must mean something?

Sounds like it's your biological clock ticking away in the back of your mind.

Tick Tick TIck........ It's baby time!!!!

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the losing it part must mean something?


You may not realize it, but your desire for a child might be more than you are aware of...


So...the Opportunity to have a child may mean more to you than you had previously thought or stated.





Either way, good luck...

This sounds more like the "birth" of a new beginning... and it may mean that you wont be with your current boyfriend.

He's not in your dream (unavailable) for a good reason you say..

It sounds like you've got this new start in your mind or it's on its way.. but when you get to the point of no return, there may be those around you who try to confuse you or prevent you from carrying out the things that you want or need to do. The dark blood could show that the future is always clouded and never clear..

That deep feeling of unnease may be due to very close friends or loved ones are involved in your final decision making...and you may end up very surprised as to how they might all react.. ie, try to stop you.. mostly because they are not getting their way..

This could be a "stand up on your own two feet and to hell with everyone else..it's my turn" type dream..

Independence sometimes means you gotta cut the strings to things you've held on to (or others have made sure you held onto).

Its advice to never bring kids into the world, and it could mean other things, but you have to decide. Listen to yourself, and never bring anyone into this world.

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Dream Interpretation

In your background information, you expressed your concerns about your significant other's age and what it may bring to bear on a pregnancy. I think this was your subconscious helping you hash that out. This is just part of that interpretation by the dictionary I linked above:

If you are not expecting, then it refers to your fear in the outcome of some decision or project. You are trying to overcome difficulties in your life and achieve inner development.

Hope that's helpful.

My two cents...

Giving birth may indicate some major change/transformation coming and the loss of the child may be your inner fear of losing something you hold very dear and love during this change (or the loss of joy and happiness which I think the son symbolizes) but I'm not sure if the gender matters really because a child (I believe) represents happiness.

Maybe it what you dream if you watch too much V.Your boyfriend is an alien and you know it deep down!

It is my personal belief that other people interpreting your dreams is useless. I think everyone interprets things differently. What a baby means to you, it might not mean the same to somebody else. I suggest you look within yourself for answers.

Or, as someone suggested, your biological clock is ticking. If this guy you're with is too old to have kids and you have the desire to have a family, it won't be with this guy. Maybe that's why he wasn't there. Maybe it wasn't his baby.

I just thought of another twist. What if his unwillingness or age is actually taking away your opportunity to have a baby? That would explain why the baby wasn't identified as a boy or girl by doctors. By them taking it away from you, it may symbolize your boyfriend taking the opportunity to have a family away from you. Just a thought.

Originally posted by flyingviolet
My two cents...

Giving birth may indicate some major change/transformation coming and the loss of the child may be your inner fear of losing something you hold very dear and love during this change (or the loss of joy and happiness which I think the son symbolizes) but I'm not sure if the gender matters really because a child (I believe) represents happiness.

That sounds like it could be the answer right there. there are a lot of complications t the relationship that i am in and I have been waiting a long time now to know whether or not i am going to lose him. but things now seem like they are looking up and that we will be together. its interesting someone pointed out about the dark blood being things clouded…thats definitely been the situation for a year or more.

Originally posted by glen200376
Maybe it what you dream if you watch too much V.Your boyfriend is an alien and you know it deep down!

I would advise anyone in there out there to never bring someone into this world. The op just knows it true,a nd they should really not bother.

Originally posted by 2manyquestions
It is my personal belief that other people interpreting your dreams is useless.

Exactly, anything you think or dream while sleeping is your puzzle, and no one can ever interpret.

Originally posted by 2manyquestions
It is my personal belief that other people interpreting your dreams is useless. I think everyone interprets things differently. What a baby means to you, it might not mean the same to somebody else. I suggest you look within yourself for answers.

Or, as someone suggested, your biological clock is ticking. If this guy you're with is too old to have kids and you have the desire to have a family, it won't be with this guy. Maybe that's why he wasn't there. Maybe it wasn't his baby.

well I just like to see if anyone can help me with the thought process. I'm pretty bad at this sort of thing..as for having kids with him well, I suppose 50 is not TOO old for kids, but I mean..someone mentioned people i love being against whatever, and that is certainly true. My whole family is against our relationship so that interpretation does make sense. it *has* come to a point where Ive had to say to hell with you all, i'm doing this. Against my mothers wishes and her telling me over and over that he is going to leave me bla bla..

I think it all ties in really. Like I said I never wanted kids…and when I see kids making a fuss it makes me not want kids. I suppose my clock is ticking, I mean I never had the urge before. I am 24. But I love him more than anyone ever, so if I did have a child I'd want it to be his, not anyone elses. I guess I just worry that he will be like 70 when the kid turns 18..lol

Originally posted by Xavialune

Originally posted by 2manyquestions
It is my personal belief that other people interpreting your dreams is useless. I think everyone interprets things differently. What a baby means to you, it might not mean the same to somebody else. I suggest you look within yourself for answers.

Or, as someone suggested, your biological clock is ticking. If this guy you're with is too old to have kids and you have the desire to have a family, it won't be with this guy. Maybe that's why he wasn't there. Maybe it wasn't his baby.

well I just like to see if anyone can help me with the thought process. I'm pretty bad at this sort of thing..as for having kids with him well, I suppose 50 is not TOO old for kids, but I mean..someone mentioned people i love being against whatever, and that is certainly true. My whole family is against our relationship so that interpretation does make sense. it *has* come to a point where Ive had to say to hell with you all, i'm doing this. Against my mothers wishes and her telling me over and over that he is going to leave me bla bla..

I think it all ties in really. Like I said I never wanted kids…and when I see kids making a fuss it makes me not want kids. I suppose my clock is ticking, I mean I never had the urge before. I am 24. But I love him more than anyone ever, so if I did have a child I'd want it to be his, not anyone elses. I guess I just worry that he will be like 70 when the kid turns 18..lol

Take a look at my response again. I added something to it that might be relevant to your life.

You know, I hate to say it but your mom may be right. You are so, so young and he is so much older than you. He could easily be your father. There are things in life he won't be able to participate in with you, when you reach a certain age. The gap between the two of you will tare you apart eventually, and you will have wasted many years of your young life trying to make the relationship work. If at 35 (which is when the clock REALLY starts ticking) you finally decide you want a family, he may be too old to give it to you. I'm not going to argue that love can't be found at 24, but I will say this.... you have a lot of life left in front of you, with many things you'll still get to experience. I guess if you want to stay with him another ten years to see where things go, that's fine. Just keep in mind that marriage may not be a good way to go.

On the other hand (as is my experience with those younger than myself), you probably won't heed the advice of those who have more life experience. You probably feel we're all wrong and we don't know what we're talking about. You'll go about your business as usual, and someday you'll wake up to realize that maybe we were right. Some people can learn from the advice they are given, and some people have to live it for themselves. It is your life, you choose your path, ... just (for your own sake) tread lightly.

Your dream is either literal, it is about having a baby and not being in control of any part of the experience. Or it is figurative and refers to an idea that you and your partner share but is more your baby than his, which is why it's no big deal if he is not physically there.

The 'baby' being taken away could refer to theft of intellectual property, eg, you write a song and someone else records it, takes it to number one and you have to sue for your share of the royalties, or you have a business idea that someone copies without your involvement or consent.

The clue that the dream is about a new idea rather than a literal baby, is that the 'child' is neither sex, genderlessness implies a thing rather than a being. Child or idea, being or thing, it won't thrive without committed nurturing.

Good luck!

I do take the advice of those around me, however my mother really doesnt know what shes on about. she is a very miserable person..I wont go into anymore detail than that. But while I do worry about all the things you talk about, I know that I've found someone I'd like to marry. At this point I'm not in a hurry to have kids and to be honest I cant see myself ever being able to financially care for one. I'd never bring one into this world not having the resources to really care for it. I never saw myself being with someone so much older, it just happened and I feel I am mature enough to know when this is 'the one'. I realize all the cons that may come with it, but I'm just going to have to stick those out because I would rather do that than walk away from someone I love very, very deeply.

That being said I think most of the interpretations have merit in on way or another. I do have to say though that I probably should have mentioned that the day I had this dream, I mean the day before, I watched an episode of quantum leap where sam was pregnant…I mean he lept into the body of a pregnant woman lol. So maybe that had something to do with it? I dont know..

I like to live life going with the flow. Because of being with this man Ive been with, Ive been able to travel all around the world, something people my age rarely get to do. we're on a great adventure, and though he is much older than me I feel Ive made the right decision sticking with it because as I said, I do love him profoundly. And correct me if I'm wrong but your comment seems a little patronizing in that it seems to suggest I am too young to love or know what I want? That may be true for a lot of young people, but it isnt true for me. I dont think my dream has anything to do with any fears connected to wasting my life with someone older than me. In fact, its quite the opposite, my life has been very rich and rewarding since being with this person.

Just goes to show you cant judge a book by its cover..

Originally posted by teapot
Your dream is either literal, it is about having a baby and not being in control of any part of the experience. Or it is figurative and refers to an idea that you and your partner share but is more your baby than his, which is why it's no big deal if he is not physically there.

The 'baby' being taken away could refer to theft of intellectual property, eg, you write a song and someone else records it, takes it to number one and you have to sue for your share of the royalties, or you have a business idea that someone copies without your involvement or consent.

The clue that the dream is about a new idea rather than a literal baby, is that the 'child' is neither sex, genderlessness implies a thing rather than a being. Child or idea, being or thing, it won't thrive without committed nurturing.

Good luck!

that could be it a well, I am on the verge of a business opportunity that needs a lot of 'nurturing' to succeed. we'll see!

Never bring children into the world? Yeah that makes sense.