My girlfriend is on singles dating websites

So the situation is that I went to a new State in America with my best friend I met a girl went back home and decided to return to this new state to live with this new girl. My best friend's girl has decided to to live with her husband but date her boyfriend (My best friend is the boyfriend.) My girlfriend (The sister of my friend's girlfriend) says she's in love with me but continues to frequent singles dating sites and invite men to where she works.

I am considering to ignore the fact that she's a scandolous woman and live with her till I get on my feet. Or move back to my previous state try to get my old job back or a new job while I move in with my mom till I get on my feet.

Summary: I went to a neighbor state to have fun, I meet a girl who happens to be my best friend's girlfriend's sister, she is scandalous (Like her sister) but I am not yet on my feet and living with her what's the advice?

Please no smoke up my rear end I want real ruthless opinions.
We been dating for like 1.5 months me and my girl.

reply to post by Xemplar


Invite women over. especially that woman.


The poster below makes a good point.

reply to post by Xemplar


If you can avoid getting emotionally attached to her, stay with her until on your feet. Use her for what you need and then split when the time is right. If you tend to get emotionally involved, leave now, lest you get hurt by her. Personally I wouldn't have anything to do with anyone who would frequent a singles site and invites other men to her work and claims to love you. Not unless your cool with that.

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First I hope you are in this country leagally Your grammar is a bit off not necessarily in spelling but in context...I assume you are young because as you get older 1.5 months is a sneeze in the grand scheme of things...why don't you ask her why she's on these sites?? She may just like the attention or you know the other option...again a month and a half is really not a good base to consider someone your girlfriend unless you are a young buck then I suppose it can be a long time..bottom line you know it's wrong despite asking for a brutally honest opinion...find someone else...

Wow, this is one screwed up circus you got yourself involved in. As requested here is my no-beat-around-the-bush opinion; You and your buddy dump these girls and find some chicks that will respect both you and herself. Your buddy is treading on dangerous grounds dating a woman who has a husband and your girl is nothing but trouble for you. If my girlfriend was seeing other men, I'm leaving no questions asked or explanations given. If my wife cheated on me the man will be tortured to death or just simply mutilated beyond belief.

and what would you ave us tinfoil hat wearing conspiracy theorist do with your love life?

i'd say she's been abducted by aliens.

can i get her number?

sluts are so hot....

you better wrap that rascal from now on before you hit it.

and I'd stay with her while you save up $$. Just use her for, well you know, and don't let on that you care or know about her indiscretions. Then when the time is right, kick that b to the curb

Originally posted by glen200376
Dump the bitch and go back to your mum's-nothing wrong with that.It doesn't sound like she is very trustworthy and perhaps just likes the cock!

man this is it to the letter. This man read my mind. See what ever you can get out her & dump her ass. have fun with her, do what you want. treat her like the piece of crap she is!

if you stay there...you gettin a wrong taste of life and maybe you get use to it.
but thats not what a good relationships have to be. Situations like that poison the rest of your life ..believe me.
leave this girl...and go back to your old life...nothing wrong with it...

Originally posted by DrChuck
Wow, this is one screwed up circus you got yourself involved in. As requested here is my no-beat-around-the-bush opinion; You and your buddy dump these girls and find some chicks that will respect both you and herself. Your buddy is treading on dangerous grounds dating a woman who has a husband and your girl is nothing but trouble for you. If my girlfriend was seeing other men, I'm leaving no questions asked or explanations given. If my wife cheated on me the man will be tortured to death or just simply mutilated beyond belief.

Yep.. I agree with what you posted. The OP needs to run like he's on fire and get control of his own life like a grown man. I dont see why men, or women, put up with BS like this. I mean, the perfect person could be in your path and youd miss them by screwing around dealing with some childish drama. I will never understand the people who get off on these situations they put themselves in. I go out of my way to never anything that would even make my husband question or feel insecure about our relationship. I dont go places or put myself in situations that would cause him grief. Its not really hard at all and when you care for someone truly, their feelings and security trumps any silly thing you might want to do. Even online I dont use flirty names or post a sexy avatar. its not necessary, but why even go there if Im not trying to attract attention.. KWIM? The OPS situation smacks of gross immaturity and the inability to make sensible choices. HOPEFULLY he learns real quickly what is important to him and a piece of hiney can be found anywhere...if thats what he wants, no need to wrap your life up in the peripheral drama.

I also agree with the problem with the buddy dating a married woman. I can tell anyone for a solid fact in all truth, if I cheated my husband would absolutely torture and murder whomever dared to touch me. Of course, by now he knows Im devoted to him, but even after all of this time if we watch a movie that might contain an affair he will mention what he would do. He always says he would forgive me ( which Im not convinced of! LOL!) but what he says he would do to the man is pretty savage. I also figure anyone in the way would get a taste too.. so the OP may be in a situation due to his buddy he doesnt want or need to be in.

reply to post by Xemplar


break up with her. you can find another place to stay. the added stress and cost of staying with her just doesn't seem worth it.

Get your grown man on, imo.

Yep, listen to the voices in your web.

Any time you have to draw a flow chart to explain all the different ways you relate to each other (lover, best friend's roomate's lover, boss, roomate's lover's husband's boss) then you know you brought it on yourself. Unless you want to live in a soap opera. Move someplace fresh where you don't know anyone, get a job doing outdoorsy work. Alone.

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Yep, time for Epic Bail.

I suggest a ninja moving out, ya know the whole ninja vanish thing.

reply to post by Lysergic


You know, the thread title is an oxymoron. if she is on "singles dating websites," then she cannot really be "MY" girlfriend.

More like "our" girlfriend.

Originally posted by Lysergic
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Yep, time for Epic Bail.

I suggest a ninja moving out, ya know the whole ninja vanish thing.

edit on 24-11-2010 by Lysergic because: (no reason given)

Hehe! Youre pretty smart.. for a Nazi Conformist cheerleader.

reply to post by Advantage

part of my supercilious side

reply to post by Xemplar

her husband but date her boyfriend (My best friend is the boyfriend.) My girlfriend (The sister of my friend's girlfriend)

This is real strange that quote there is exactly the type you get off someone who has some outlandish thread and you want LINKS.

On a serious note looks like she needs more than you can give her.
My advise is leave her before you get too attached to her the longer you stay the harder it will become.

Or if you want a second opinion at your own risk go here.www.abovetopsecret.com...

Thanks