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Originally posted by NoHierarchy
Real chronic depression is NOT a choice... it's real and you're not pretending, it's almost this external thing from who you are, and like a cold/flu, it makes it hard to remember what it was like to be well.
Originally posted by Chinesis
Originally posted by NoHierarchy
Real chronic depression is NOT a choice... it's real and you're not pretending, it's almost this external thing from who you are, and like a cold/flu, it makes it hard to remember what it was like to be well.
Not so fast.
While I won't debate the veracity of your statement because
I feel not only is depression real but it could also come at you without your cognition...
The thing I want these people who suffer from whatever is that
-YOU can choose to react in a positive way to your depression...
-YOU can choose to focus and think about positive things.
-YOU always have a choice, whether or not you're able to preempt depression:
YOU can kick its ass whenever it pops up.
I never hear people tell me, "I'm so depressed, I won't go to the bathroom."
Why is that?
Originally posted by Chinesis
I also don't feel a person with any disorder gets a free pass to passively-aggressively
denigrate someone else's character or create some sort of higher place only they can sit
on and point the finger at everyone else who may disagree with them...
Originally posted by Chinesis
And there ^^^^ is your true intent.
Originally posted by NoHierarchy
I'm not saying you can't make efforts to be positive or get stuff done in your life. However, the difference between someone with depression and a mentally healthy person is the level of emotional well-being and motivation
Originally posted by NoHierarchyWith depression you just sort of go through the motions because you know you have to, and because you fear consequences of not doing it.
Originally posted by NoHierarchy... but depression tends to poison those waters and suck the color out of life. Then it becomes a kind of domino effect, where no matter how hard you try, the world still seems darker, colder, less fulfilling... sounds emo/goth, but it's something that's existed long before modern subcultures could latch onto it.
Originally posted by NoHierarchyOf course, there are probably a myriad of reasons for depression... it's ALWAYS chemical/psychological, but the different factors of degree, cause, chronic vs. situational, triggers, frequency, etc. etc. is what makes each case different I'm sure. What I'm saying, though, is that simply being positive doesn't usually kill the depressed feeling nor the lessened outlook on life and the world... it may help but it's not always a cure, nor is it remotely easy to reverse.
Originally posted by Majic
Let's Please Remember Our Manners
Originally posted by Chinesis
I also don't feel a person with any disorder gets a free pass to passively-aggressively
denigrate someone else's character or create some sort of higher place only they can sit
on and point the finger at everyone else who may disagree with them...
This also applies to you, so kindly cease and desist.
You are welcome to share your opinions about depression if you want to, and disagree with others about their opinions of depression, but your aggressive browbeating and ad hominem attacks toward other members constitute trolling and will cease immediately.
Many ATSers have offered their own personal testimonies and opinions regarding depression in this thread, including yourself. Unfortunately, that tends to inject people personally into the discussion, which then leads to confusion regarding appropriate commentary.
Again, you are quite welcome to share your personal opinions on the topic, but no more abuse directed toward other members will be tolerated.
Thanks for your understanding and cooperation.
Originally posted by Chinesis
If you are going to moderate with assertion as well as fairness I don't understand
why I'm the only one to whom you responded to?
Originally posted by PETROLCOIN
Originally posted by Chinesis
And there ^^^^ is your true intent.
My only true intent in this entire thread was to call out and educate those who claim depression is not a real disorder - hence the title. Although it quickly became a thread where people could feel comfortable sharing their own personal struggles with depression (as well as other mental disorders such as anxiety and PTSD), that was and has remained my only true intent.
The reason I am refusing to address your posts is because - if we are being honest with one another - I don't like the tone in which you post. If this were a political discussion and we were merely debating our opinions, that would be one thing. But - for obvious reasons - this is a bit more personal than political opinions, and thus requires a lot more restraint to avoid it erupting into a full blown argument.
I am not looking for attention. I am not looking for sympathy. I am not claiming my depression is any more severe than someone else's. I am not claiming my depression is incurable. Unfortunately these are incorrect assumptions you have made simply because I have chosen to ignore the vast majority of your posts.
As Modern Americana mentioned, you come off as antagonizing. Perhaps this isn't your intention - only you know that for sure. But that is how it sounds. And as long as I perceive it that way - whether my perception is right or wrong - I am going to avoid responding to it, because if I did, what I say would probably get me some nice little red warning boxes over there to the left.
At the end of the day, you're free to deliver your message in what ever way you wish. But you have to realize that if I don't like how you're delivering it, I'm free to ignore it. That's what I chose to do.
Originally posted by Chinesis
Originally posted by NoHierarchy
I'm not saying you can't make efforts to be positive or get stuff done in your life. However, the difference between someone with depression and a mentally healthy person is the level of emotional well-being and motivation
A mentally healthy person in all fairness hasn't a definition.
Who defines the construct of a "healthy person?"
Your perception of someone else?
My perception of someone else?
Or perhaps a society and the culmination of how this society was taught how to think, perceive and act?
What causes and/or fuels things like
-an emotional well being
-motivation?
I'm glad you brought this up...When you say:
Originally posted by NoHierarchyWith depression you just sort of go through the motions because you know you have to, and because you fear consequences of not doing it.
You know you have to? Really?
If the person convinces themselves that either one component, or all of them are
motions they feel they they don't have to do -will they do them?
-Will they have an incentive to?
-Will they have a motivation to? (No and no)
They did make the choice to get out of bed, possibly shower and get dressed.
They didn't *HAVE* to, they chose to. Is this not a true testament to their CHOICE
and the aforementioned negotiation example? (I think it's yes)
^^^This is what I have been trying to say...It comes down to choices that are
based on negotiating or bargaining...
What if I have depression but I make a different choice benign to another with depression.
What does this mean? That I don't have it? Or that I have a stronger mind? (No)
It comes down to choices which are so basic in nature they are often overlooked as solutions.
Originally posted by NoHierarchy... but depression tends to poison those waters and suck the color out of life. Then it becomes a kind of domino effect, where no matter how hard you try, the world still seems darker, colder, less fulfilling... sounds emo/goth, but it's something that's existed long before modern subcultures could latch onto it.
See, depression isn't a gunshot wound to the heart.
Nor is it a decapitation of a person's head. -Death is imminent, without question.
Depression whether the basis for this stems from a chemical or psychological origin
won't matter because the person *feels* it. -It is here- What to do?
The world only becomes a domino effect IF one allows it.
The beauty of life is that IT can be changed.
If the first Domino starts to fall...chances are it will hit the next one in place...right?
However...IF you stop the process by removing the other domino's what happens?
^^^This is entirely possible if the person believes it, just as they believe they are depressed...
They can create change that will make them feel happiness, and appreciation.
Originally posted by NoHierarchyOf course, there are probably a myriad of reasons for depression... it's ALWAYS chemical/psychological, but the different factors of degree, cause, chronic vs. situational, triggers, frequency, etc. etc. is what makes each case different I'm sure. What I'm saying, though, is that simply being positive doesn't usually kill the depressed feeling nor the lessened outlook on life and the world... it may help but it's not always a cure, nor is it remotely easy to reverse.
I don't think there is a cure when a person's mind is closed off to the possibility of the cure...(make sense?)
My mind while limitless in nature is indeed limited by my choices I've chosen to decide upon.
Help and support is what this is all about.
Fellowship, even friendship, companionship are all vessels depressed people can and should
try to rely on. They are never truly alone, alone enough to harm themselves or end their life definitively.
While I agree with most of what you've said here think about this:
You say there's not always a cure.
And then you say it is NOT remotely easy to reverse.
(1) Do you see what you are doing?
(2) Can you do the math real quick and wonder why the OP and Thicheaded both like what you have to say?
(3) Can you make the connection that while I'm not very smart...*I* chose to say:
-There is a cure
-It is easy to reverse...and while I chose to say this...a change manifested from inside-outward.
Stating something, some information you've attained through studying does not make it so.
While you can say you are depressed, (because you feel it) what caused it?
Can you pinpoint it? Can you isolate it? I am not calling you a liar here, I am
trying to offer a different perspective.
The mind is more powerful than most people can ever possibly fathom.
edit on 13-11-2010 by Chinesis because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by NoHierarchy
Are you just trying to play devil's advocate? You seem to be playing word games... but you don't really get it. This isn't about philosophizing "what really is 'normal', mannn??"... this is about a real disorder that has real consequences. I'm not saying it's incurable, but whatever it's causes/mechanics, it's a real thing that is difficult to shake, as an illness would be. Mental disorders are NOT a choice, you can't tell somebody with serious mental issues that they're just being silly and they're making it up... they're not. Unless you have experienced these things as others have then you cannot speak upon it. If you have then you should already know what it's like and should concede the argument. Anybody who's experienced it knows the reality. ONCE AGAIN, that's not to say it's permanent, it is to say that it's NOT just some daily choice to either cheer up or dwell, it goes far beyond and deeper than that.
Originally posted by Chinesis
I'm sure it hurt my feelings when you chose to ignore, only because you
were hurting I felt I could help...this was my mistake for taking it
upon myself and exerting my unneeded advice upon you.
A mentally healthy person in all fairness hasn't a definition. Who defines the construct of a "healthy person?"
Sigmund Freud said something worth your consideration: his definition of mental health is “to work, to love, and to play well.”
Originally posted by rusethorcain
reply to post by Chinesis
A mentally healthy person in all fairness hasn't a definition. Who defines the construct of a "healthy person?"
Sigmund Freud said something worth your consideration: his definition of mental health is “to work, to love, and to play well.”
www.annamaria.edu...
Originally posted by Hefficide
Upon returning to this thread I've found what I expected. A lot of opinion supported by no facts. We're here to deny ignorance, not embrace it.
There was a poster who suggested that all the people posting here, who say they suffer, are incomprehensible. As one of those posters who suffers from depression, I would sincerely like to know exactly where I have spoken in an incoherent manner. If such an entry is pointed out to me I will be more than happy to elucidate or explain it.
Others are still prattling on about the fact that they don't believe real depression exists because they have never felt it - or have been depressed and recovered. Again, I point out, that these are two different things altogether.
For example, my nephew has seizures, but he is not epileptic. This does not mean that epilepsy does not exist. It does mean that what he suffers from is not the same thing.
So, yet again, I will state... I am diagnosed with PTSD and with generalized depression. I have been (under one label or another) diagnosed as such for nearly 3 decades. My illness effects my life. My illness has effected the lives of my loved ones - none of whom, by the way - think that I am opportunistic, lazy, self absorbed, negative, or emo. Not a single person in my real life has ever suggested that I am doing this to myself. Not one.
Then again, none of the people in my real life are anonymous strangers who don't have a dog in the fight, so to speak. It's much more difficult to spout opinionated nonsense in the real world I suppose.
I work out, have an active life, eat healthy foods, and sleep as normally as I can - dependent upon my real world responsibilities and the effects of my illness - such as insomnia. My house is in order, literally and figuratively.
So, while it may make a few feel good about themselves to come here and post constant suggestions that all depressed people fit into some kind of self-induced mold. It only compels me, more and more, to post in reply that, contrary to their views, I don't fit that mold at all. In doing so I help to shatter this deluded and archaic generalization and can help others to finally accept that they, in fact, do not know everything about this issue. In this subject just a little education can go a long way.
~Heff
Originally posted by Chinesis
Originally posted by rusethorcain
reply to post by Chinesis
A mentally healthy person in all fairness hasn't a definition. Who defines the construct of a "healthy person?"
Sigmund Freud said something worth your consideration: his definition of mental health is “to work, to love, and to play well.”
www.annamaria.edu...
He also said...
"A certain degree of neurosis is of inestimable value as a drive, especially to a psychologist."
And also said...
"Every normal person, in fact, is only normal on the average. His ego approximates to that of the psychotic in some part or other and to a greater or lesser extent."
A noble interpretation but hardly defines conclusively what normality truly is/means.edit on 14-11-2010 by Chinesis because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by virraszto
Whatever the cause of my extreme, debilitating winter depression is, whether it be lack of sunlight, or a chemical imbalance, or whatever, this depression is real and I don't wish it on anyone!