The "Do Men fear Strong Women?" Myth

Anybody that has done even limited research on issues involving the Male/Female relationship has probably seen this question surface from time to time. There are many forums and blogs discussing the implications of this statement and whether it holds any validity. While the use of the word "Strong" in this context is worthy of debate, in this thread I will use the phrase to refer more to women who identify themselves this way (independent, ambitious, opposed to the idea that women are nurturers.)

Let me be the first to say the answer to the question is clearly NO, Men do not fear Strong Women. In fact, by and large, they seem to be attracted to women who have a strong personality and determination to achieve happiness and success in their lives. But the question itself is not posed with the intention of being answered; it is more rhetorical. "Of course men fear strong women, that is why they are not happy until they get a woman that is subservient and praises the ground they walk on." Therefore, if men are not willing to be subservient to women and accommodate all her wishes and desires - despite the cost to HIS freedom and happiness - then they are afraid.

Men are not afraid of Strong Women. They are actually turned off by what many modern Feminists describe as Strong because these characteristics are the opposite to what most men look for in a women. In terms of biology, physiology and psychology differences, it is obvious men tend to excel in some areas where women tend to struggle, whereas women tend to excel in some areas where men tend to struggle. This has little to do with equality and oppression but more to do with accepting that men and women are different, and the way their brains and bodies operate in certain situations can differ dramatically.

The next time you hear somebody use the "men just fear strong women" card, remember that they are probably doing so to justify why they have trouble finding members of the opposite sex who are attracted to them.

reply to post by Dark Ghost


I remember going to a training class for supervisors and in this class was a woman who was like many of us make up foreman.or foreman in training.

In the class introduction this woman came up with the M1A issue standard propaganda line about men being afraid of a strong woman. It was all I could do to not break out laughing. I had to ask myself if this woman had an original thought in her brain and or emotions..or was she all ..someone elses thoughts or someone elses ideas.
It was straight propaganda out of the feminist handbook. Just like a textbook political speech.

I dont have alot of use or respect for women like this. I consider them to be high maintenance if this is the best they have..someone elses thoughts, someone elses emotions, someone elses lines.

Once you as a man or male..get your head out of your backside and or the sports page and start thinking, all you have to do is ask yourself ...what does a strong woman do with her strength? Does she provide more for her man or does she provide more for herself?? Does she provide more for the children and leave the man behind or in second or third place?? It is not difficult to think it through.

The most difficult commodity I have found to get from a woman is Peace..not Piece...children or no children. Peace requires real genuine commitment from a woman..Piece does not. This is the ingredient I have found missing from the thought or thinking/understanding abilities of most women. The stronger a woman thinks she is ..the more you will find this missing from her abilities while trying to justify/promote her strength. This makes her high maintenance if she does not understand this in dealing with a man.

What is also true about Peace..is that it is missing from the understanding and knowlege of most men and males out here. They are so incredibly ignorant they will settle for Piece at almost any cost ..including their soul. Not a good tradeoff.

This is why it is important for a man or male to have enough savvy to ask the question ..what does a strong woman do with her strength?? If you as a man or male can think outside the sports and cheerleader arena...it will not take long for you to come up with an answer. Most "strong women " are highly overated.

A real woman knows her strengths and does not need to boast about it. So too with a man.


Thanks,
Orangetom

I feel context is a factor here, i def would fear any woman who could wrestle the tv remote from you

I suppose it depends on her strengths. Aggressive woman scare me but mentally strong and assertive qualities are attractive i feel. Emotionally strong woman can be hard edged & so fall into scary mary catagory.

I went out with a manager in the civil service for some years and although she was headstrong and definately assertive she was also cute and feminine and left her stronger personality aspects outside unless i was in dog house

Edit to add, that most men like life to be peacefull and without drama and they do like for the most part not to have to make day to day decisions etc so willingly let a strong woman take charge unless its important like what tv or car

I feel context is a factor here, i def would fear any woman who could wrestle the tv remote from you

If I watched that much tv I would get my own televison or get rid of such an woman. I dont care for such drama or drama queens that I need to waste my time fighting over the televison or remote.

I can wrestle most women without breaking into much of a sweat. I dont do it because I would rather take another approach. I expect the same from the woman with whom I spend my time as well as my hard earned monies.

I dont care if a woman is aggressive or not. I expect Peace from her..children or not. I expect more than beauty and sexual values. If that is all she has combined with aggressiveness she is high maintenance. These women are all over the place ..a dime a dozen. Peace not just Piece.

I suppose it depends on her strengths. Aggressive woman scare me but mentally strong and assertive qualities are attractive i feel. Emotionally strong woman can be hard edged & so fall into scary mary catagory.

I dont care if a woman is aggressive or not. I expect Peace from her..children or not. I expect more than beauty and sexual values. If that is all she has combined with aggressiveness she is high maintenance. These women are all over the place ..a dime a dozen. Peace not just Piece. I too know scary Mary types. Not impressed with them as well.

Most men do indeed like to be peaceful and without drama. A hard thing to do today with peoples raised on a television/movie education highly laced with drama ethics and concepts...that this is glorious. I dont think so.
I like a woman who is capable of creating a peaceful enviornment where I can be protected from the outside world ... a sanctuary if you like. A place where I dont come in last behind every cheap transient thing the televison, movies, peer group and public education non standard can conceive.
A knowlegable woman knows and works towards this goal. Not living the home and garden television life with someone else taking risks to make it happen. This is not peaceful.

I can get Peace without a woman or woman and children. It would be wonderful to have this with a woman.

Thanks,
Orangetom