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Originally posted by jexmo
reply to post by Korg Trinity
Thats just shallow. Love doesn't require sex. Elderly couples don't have sex and they still love eachother. You never heard of wanking?! I think it all depends on the type of person you are. I'd sacrifice sex for certainty that my partner would stay with me happily forever, but thats just the type of person I am.
Originally posted by getreadyalready
reply to post by Korg Trinity
The biggest cause of loss of libido in women these days is pressure and being too tired. Since the demands on women have increased to encompass bread winning as well as child nurturing.
Libido is nice and appreciated, but it isn't necessary. Only one of us has to be "up" for the job to get done!
All the women I have ever known are very much into it as soon as we get started. It is just overcoming that instinct to say "no" that is the problem. Once they give in, they usually get turned on and have a great time.
To answer the "cheating" question. It certainly is not cheating! Not if I was honest about it before we got married, and while we are married, and I haven't lied the whole time. Maybe it is "adultery" but it is not "cheating."
To answer the "its her body" idea. I disagree. We are married, it is "our" body now! Seriously, if there is one person in the whole world that should always love you and always be willing to have sex with you, and always be willing to listen or hold or forgive, it should be your spouse. Otherwise, why would anybody ever get married? For the tax breaks?
I would lay down my life to protect hers, it isn't asking too much to have her lie down for me a few times a week!
Originally posted by Alora
So then it must not be possible for a wife to rape her husband? (read: sodomy) If the woman wants it, then the husband has to lay there and take it. Rules are rules, after all
Originally posted by Korg Trinity
Originally posted by Roufas
I fail to see where you disagree with me? You actually agree there is a "problem" in the relationship when there is no sex.
If or when your partner suffers from any of the above... Would you just bin the relationship and get divorced just because you didn't get laid???
Originally posted by Roufas
Lost in libido due to hormonal circunstances, or "holding" off due to health issues are completely different matters (and tolerable too)
Originally posted by Korg Trinity
Do you see your error??
Originally posted by Roufas
Lost in libido due to hormonal circunstances, or "holding" off due to health issues are completely different matters (and tolerable too) than denying sex to your partner because you either :
-stopped "loving" him/her (?)
-feels like having sexual relationship with another person instead of your partner
-your partner does not care to make your sexual life "interesting" and neither do you
-you are just holding off because you depend financially on your husband (this one happens a lot...)
Originally posted by Alora
So then it must not be possible for a wife to rape her husband? (read: sodomy) If the woman wants it, then the husband has to lay there and take it. Rules are rules, after all
Originally posted by Americanist
U.K. cleric: Rape is impossible within marriage
www.msnbc.msn.com
(visit the link for the full news article)
LONDON — A leading Muslim cleric has sparked controversy in Britain by claiming that it is impossible for men to rape their wives.
Sheikh Maulana Abu Sayeed, who is president of the Islamic Sharia Council, told a website that "sex is part of marriage" and suggested that husbands who commit such acts should not be prosecuted.
Surely you must know the difference between a woman doing it because it is happening and a woman doing it because she is turned on???
Originally posted by autowrench
reply to post by getreadyalready
It is coercion all right, and that is wrong. It is like a threat. To wife: "either you do it with me, or I will do it with someone else. Wrong, buddy! If I said that to my wife, she would slap my face, and I would deserve it. The truth is, women outnumber men by an every widening margin, and in my area, women seem to have their pick of men, I see foxy women with mediocre men all the time. Rape is rape, no matter how you slice it, or how you package it. It is still a crime against nature.
Originally posted by Wobbly Anomaly
Up until 1991, it was not possible to rape your spouse under British Law.
We've only just changed it in our culture, within a generation ! Oh how quick we are to judge rather than remember that it was'nt rape in the UK until recently, our culture saw in differently.
Originally posted by EddieBee
Originally posted by Americanist
U.K. cleric: Rape is impossible within marriage
www.msnbc.msn.com
(visit the link for the full news article)
LONDON — A leading Muslim cleric has sparked controversy in Britain by claiming that it is impossible for men to rape their wives.
Sheikh Maulana Abu Sayeed, who is president of the Islamic Sharia Council, told a website that "sex is part of marriage" and suggested that husbands who commit such acts should not be prosecuted.
MAYBE SHEIK NEEDS A HAM BONE UP HIS YOU KNOW WHAT