what is happiness to you?

Good food, good drink, and a good woman or two get me at least half-way there. It would be nice if a large number of a certain-type of people got sucked away into the sky by a giant vacuum cleaner from outer-space. You know the ones I'm talking about.

I don't search for happiness. When I strive for happiness I find that when I get there it doesn't last and is more than likely not what I thought it would be. I now choose to strive for peace of mind. I don't want to be on the happy or the sad end of the spectrum. Doing so allows me to cope with whatever comes my way properly whether it's intense joy or deep sadness. I find the trick is not to give in to your feelings or to deny them. But merely to recognize them for what they are and the effects they can have on your life. Being equally happy or sad can possibly lead to either bad or good decisions. I personally choose not to let my emotions control me. I choose to interpret and use my emotions to get my desired results.

For example: When I feel sad, instead of giving in to feeling like everything is spiraling out of control, I use my sadness as motivation to bring myself back to level.

When I feel joy. I simply calm myself and realize it's only temporary. Thereby cushioning the inevitable fall.

Happiness? This sort of made me happy

reply to post by aqlpskwo

A moment of joy for a brief moment, I don't want happiness all the time. I like to be happy from time to time.
Life is not meant for me to be a happy idiot, I just don't see why happiness must be the key to everything in life.
Why is it so important ? I do not understand, you don't learn anything by being happy all the time. You really don't.
A moment of strong happy joy is worth 100 years of happiness. Just my view on it. Why drink hot tea all the time if you are already hot, only special when you come from a freasing cold.

Happiness for me is a cup of hot black coffee and watching the sun come up while my roosters crow...be here in about an hour or so....

... working on my farm in the hot sun, everything is simple and clear...no diversions or bombardments with all kinds of decisions that have to be made right now

... sitting down and eating Sunday Dinner with my folks one more time,... talking...eating one more piece of pie and another cup of coffee after my brother and his wife come in.

... watching my animals play and looking over them after I feed and water them. It's really amazing, but animals have so much personality...they really are like small children. My horse, Clarence, he nips my a little when I turn away...so I'll turn back and rub him and give him affection one more time.

... I really love being on the edge of this one pasture busting fire wood and loading it on my pickup, it's on a ridge over looking the land behind me. I feel like I'm back to 1910, and up in the mountains...especially on a cool hazy day, the clouds sitting low on thye ridge across the creek.

... when I help someone. It doesn't matter who or what sex or what color. The breif look in their eye that says "Thank You"... you've made my burdens a little lighter.

for me, it's a state of mind.
You can be poor as a rat, have a disfunctinal family, being an idiot and be happy by the same time. Why? If you want to be happy inside your mind, there will be always a reason to be happy, in the outside, inside, any place.

As an example. I had a terrifying day on college, my mom hadn't sent me my monthly money so I was dealing just with my transport card money and college food tickets, i was so concerned about that because I needed to buy some materials for a homework.... and the battery of my mp3 was dead. Out of the sudden, an old woman took the bus and I helped her to arrange some packages she was carrying on the bus floor. Then, the old lady gave me a candy and said: "to make your life sweet, sweetie". That turned my world back to the normal and I came back to "happy mode" even when I was still facing with the same problems.
When I become old, I'm going to carry a big bag of candy on my purse and I will give them to every youngster that do something good for me or for others

Happiness to me is finally being able to get off this rock and never having to see another human...Less than 2yrs to go until I realise this happiness

reply to post by ScRuFFy63


good answer

reply to post by pepsi78


if you dont want to be happy what is there you want in life? if you feel like taking a sh** you dont gotta do it?

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yeah that question was moved!

A cup of coffee, half milk, no sugar.

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i have a question. is your post allowed to be that long with your title?

reply to post by aqlpskwo


that's a great question perhaps even overlooked by many...
what is 'true' happiness as compared to happiness based on our material gains and physical sense encounters...
I recently heard of a saying which I believed to be beautifully summarized.

"Happy is a state of feeling from our physical sensory"
(We are happy when we purchase something we desire, eat something we crave, smell something beautiful, engage in a conversation with our friends/families/pets and loved ones, even down to physical & sensual indulgence. We are happy based only on our 5 senses, touch/smell/sound/sight and taste; anything under these circumstances can be considered a state of happiness. Everyone has their own needs/wants/desires of obtaining happiness although nothing in this state of happiness can ever be "PERMANENT".

"Joy is a state of feeling from within"
Joy is something we feel (not physically) but rather inwardly, intuitively and from our hearts. A state of well being and genuine kind of joy, an uplifting rise of energy. A good deed perhaps, a simple glimpse of life.. The beauty of everyday, the heart felt thank-you received when helping out a random stranger. A smile from one human being to another.

In totality, I think everyone desires to be 'happy' and no one really knows the meaning of 'joy' we try to obtain happiness through purchasing and consuming, eating, drinking, giving into our addictions of whatever it may be.. (it is not permanent and can be somewhat trivial in the long run *this would depend greatly on one's mindset/perspective). Happiness should always be a prerequisite (w/o the means of having to do/buy/say/smell/touch/hear e.t.c. but rather a state of being) Joy is what I personally continue to work towards.

in no way do i imply these thoughts/words on anyone else nor do I wish to change your beliefs as to what happiness may mean to you 'personally' just putting in my two sense

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beautiful story! Exactly SPOT ON

Happiness to me
by David Grouchy

Happiness to me is knowing that all the good wisdom of the world
is hidden in other people, and seeking out that wisdom,
and learning everything I can from everyone.
A good book and a fire, nice music,
warm company and a long story.

Freedom to do whatever I want and not have to worry about someone telling me I can't do it...

Originally posted by aqlpskwo
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yeah that question was moved!

It was a question? oO

I forchoo wuz trollin'!

Originally posted by aqlpskwo
like why do you live your life?

Precisely.

i know you still hope for something right?

To have some clue about an answer to all this, or no longer have any concern about it.

just your opinion.

Generally, I really don't know. If I find out I'll be sure to post what I find out. I'm sure there might be some sort of sense of relief, mostly from myself I'd imagine because my mental life is rather torturous and noone should be required to be subjected to it, especially the direct experiencer.

happiness for me is when everything i'm doing comes together seamlessly.
and when i feel euphoric over all the beauty around me
or when i'm loving the one i want to love and to see the same love in my lovers eyes as we smile at each other

a life of happiness is success

Happiness to me is:

First, feeling good physically and/or mentally. If you don't feel right you won't be happy.

Second, having someone or a pet to love, and being loved in return.

Third, helping others, which we all can do - with money, support, a smile, a good deed.

Everything is in balance - the more love you send out, the more you receive. The more happiness you send out, the more you receive. The more hate you send out, the more you receive.