Whats wrong with some peoples kid's??

I am not talking about the younger generation here, but my generation, the 30-50 year old kid's.

Last year, my mother had listened to me enough about the state of the world's finances that she decided to take some of her money out of the bank and put it in a safe.

At the time, I went with her, and as the teller handed her the money, she would hand it to me, and I would put it in my pocket. This got strange look's from the manager until she explained that I was her son.

Now two of her friends had decided to do the same thing just recently.

The first friend which I grew up with has two children that I know very well. Figuring that they were just too busy, I went out with her and she purchased a safe that I installed, and then went to the same bank so she could withdraw some money. She was told that she would have to wait 4 day's to order the cash, so whatever, we went back 4 day's later and did the same thing that my mother and I did. Got more strange look's from the manager.

When we got back to her place, she made me swear that I never tell her children what she had done as they weren't aware that she had that money. This bothered me a little but, I agreed. Then I got to thinking, why doesn't she want her children to know, shouldn't they be the ones you trust the most?

Now the second friend of my mother had won a lawsuit against a doctor and a hospital and is very wealthy. Her husband died just after the lawsuit was settled but before he died, he bought one of his son's an apartment building. I believe that it has around 20 apartments in it, all of them rented.

Today, I took this woman to the bank to withdraw a great deal of money. She had already informed the bank of her withdrawal a week ago. Everything was going fine until the manager asked her to step aside and spoke to her about the withdrawal, and why she was giving it to me. She got nervous and informed him (I couldn't hear any of this), that I was her son.

Now I have to give the manager credit, as the police were waiting for us outside the mall where the bank is located. Everything was explained to their satisfaction and they even gave us an escort back to her place. It was rather embarrassing though to tell the truth.

The problem came when she started telling me that her rent was going up. Now she had sold her house and was now living in the building that she bought her son. I asked what she meant as I could not believe what I was hearing, and yes, her son was charging his mother rent, in the building she bought for him.

She could see that I was getting upset and she started to cry as she doesn't want anyone, including my mother to know this. To top it off, he has been charging her for internet access, that he spliced from his own, and charging her more than he is paying for it to the cable company.

I am in shock here. What has gone wrong in our society that children are taking advantage of their parents. This is worse than criminal to me.

If I had to sell everything I own just to help my mother out of some sort of financial disaster, I wouldn't think twice.

Is this what society has come down to? Ripping off your own parents??

I wish that this was a bad dream that I am going to wake up from, but I know it's not.
How widespread is this I wonder, as both of these women are embarrassed to have anyone know, and yet they realize that they can't trust their own children.

I am pissed off and somewhat ashamed of my generation today.

and that's all I have to say about that

reply to post by tribewilder


The way my mother phrases it is that we are now in the generation where the parents take care of the children instead of the children taking care of the parents.

And by that, we're talking about the adult children you are referring to. Instead of children taking care of their elderly parents, it has become more normal for the children to still think 'what can I get out of this?' or 'What about ME?'

It's really sad to still see grown adults even in middle age living off their parent's teat. Not sure if this is the answer to all such cases but this is how it was explained to me:

A lot of the 'children' who are like this are part of the babyboomer generation (In the group we're talking about here- the younger generation isn't much better). Typically these are the children of parents who lived through the great depression. The parents during the great depression knew what a hard life was and swore they would give their children a better life. In doing so, many grew up very spoiled and never really learned to detach. As a result, they're still relying on their great depression era parents.

That's at least for the older ones. Then for the younger ones (I'm 30 so this is my generation too), it's somewhat of the same lines. They were spoiled as children and never really were taught how to be self dependent. Their selfishness was indulged and now it's coming back to bite the parents in the behind, pretty much.

And please nobody get offended by that. I'm simply sharing something I heard as it was explained to me for the people who ARE like this. Not saying all babyboomers are like the above or all who are that way are because of the reason above.

I know exactly what you are talking about. I have a lot of friends who are like this. It is really sad at how they treat their parents who did EVERYTHING for them. I may not get along with my mother but I would never treat her like this and I would help her in any way I can even though she wouldnt do the same. Now sounds like these women have some spoiled ungrateful kids. How in the world can anyone make their mother pay rent in a building she bought for them?! WOW! That poor lady, I feel for her. She is probably a very nice women and its sad her son treats her like that. I have older friends with kids my age and they all tell me stories about their kids and money and how they shouldnt know this or that and I am left amazed. These are people I know and trust yet their OWN parents dont. Its very odd to me. I guess I was raised very different than others my age. I was never spoiled and IMO this is the problem. Parents need to learn to say no! I was in Wal-Mart the other day and this lady infront of me was talking about how her daughter called from college and needed some items, well it was over $125 dollars worth of items. I thought to myself wow this mother is in for a rude awakening. I had to have a J-O-B while in college and I had to buy my OWN supplies and clothes. The lady at the register even made a comment after she left. This kid is going to grow up thinking "oh I can just call my parents they'll give it to me" My ex was horrible at this and his parents let him do it. I dont understand how any person is able to call themselves an adult when they leech off their parents and then treat them like crap when their parents have done everything for them.
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Originally posted by mblahnikluver
I know exactly what you are talking about. I have a lot of friends who are like this. It is really sad at how they treat their parents who did EVERYTHING for them.
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And that is the problem. Children reflect the upbringing they receive. If someone does EVERYTHING for you. What does that child need as an adult? Everything.

Oftentimes, parents lavish money and gifts on their children, and whatever toys they desire to keep them quiet so they don't have to deal with them.

So as adults, instead of being emotionally independent and self sufficient, this is a way to keep the monetary gifts coming.

[Update]

So in Canada, when it's time to renew your license plate, you are given a sticker to put in the top right corner of the plate. As most have license plate covers, this involves removing the cover to get at the plate to put the sticker on.
Usually this involves removing two screws and two small bolts to do.

My mother called me this morning asking if I would do friend two a favour. She had called my mother to ask where is the best place to take her car to have the sticker installed. My mother just told her that Wayne always does this for me and only takes a minute. The friend was shocked and actually said " Wayne will do that for you?"

I drove over and replaced the sticker. Just for my own curiosity, I timed myself, and with all said and done, including cleaning the whole shebang, it took me seven minutes. I wasn't rushing either.

Now at this point I was seething inside as I couldn't figure out why one of her own son's wouldn't have just done that. The one son actually lives in the building that he owns and is charging his mother rent for.

She invited me in for a coffee, and at that point I learned that she is also expected to be in charge of the building when her son and his wife go traveling, which is quite often. Now this woman knows jack about building maintenance and gets quite stressed out during these times.

I also found out that if she doesn't do it right (according to her son) and hires the wrong tradesmen or whatnot, he will get very mad at her when he returns from his vacation. I am seeing elder abuse for the very first time with my own eyes, and I get sick to my stomach just thinking about it.

I would talk to the son if he was around, but would probably end up in jail for throwing him right through a wall.

It's a sad world out there, and although I've known this family for quite a few years, I had no idea this was going on. How many more families are holding these dark secrets that appear to world as just a normal family.

Puts me in one of those moods if you know what I mean, that just want's to slap someone around until they cry, but I think that would only come back to haunt those that I am trying to protect.

Some day's I just hate people...

This is an absolute disgrace.....unfortunantly we are seeing it more and more these days, and Im ashamed to say its my generation that is responsible. :shk:

Its happened a couple of times over here in Australia too, where coniving (dont know if thats spelt right) have taken advantage of their elderly parents. It really takes the lowest scum on earth to do this

A giant social experiment has failed

Divorce and a 2 wage income social system has destroyed the bulk of people, even the kids who didn't suffer either fate are surrounded by peers who have... 80% in America Divorce rate, 80% of non divorced both parents worked.

They do not know their parents, all they know is their parents provide money, displaced Dad sends checks and buys things on infrequent visits. Mom is working all day, family dinners are rare, actual bonding time rare.

The Greed... the stupid concept that you are always supposed to be self pleasured... combined with kids that never actually truely became friends with or cared much for their parents.

It's hard to elaborate, many, many kids don't actually know their parents or one of their parents...

It's not Money they need...

They seek self pleasure because they desperately need love so they need more and more money to be happy... by consuming, by going out etc, etc...

They really want Love, not in gesture of two parents working all the time to write checks or hand out credit cards... but being there, they are void inside, sad, sad... angry

Angry they never got a real family or had it and lost it or had it but never had time aside from an hr before bed...

On a level they fail and then take for revenge.