Men that are virgins.

I am one 28 years old, never kissed a woman either, seriosuly. never been to a night club.

So share with me, don't be scared, who is a virgin here or when did you lose yours?

God bless you.

[edit on 30-7-2009 by JesusisTruth]

I lost mine a few months after I turned 17.

reply to post by JesusisTruth


I lost mine at 15
oops--no is that illegal ??
Think it was 16

Neeeeeeevermind.
^_^

My post would be the same as someone else who already posted (ahem UK), so that's not exciting.

It's not a bad thing to wait, I just didn't.

Everyone is different.

[edit on 7/30/2009 by ravenshadow13]

Originally posted by ravenshadow13
Neeeeeeevermind.
^_^

My post would be the same as someone else who already posted (ahem UK), so that's not exciting.

It's not a bad thing to wait, I just didn't.

Everyone is different.

[edit on 7/30/2009 by ravenshadow13]

Hey ravenshadow

I was 15 years old when I lost mine. She was 15 too. It was a first for both of us.

As ravenshadow said, Waiting is not a bad thing. When you are ready you are ready.

I lost mine at 15 but it was not by choice. I would of prefer to wait for someone special.

There is no hurry, when you meet the right person, the temptation will be irresistable.

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You are right. When you meet the right person... Well, you just cannot resist each other... Love will come...All in good time.



[edit on 30-7-2009 by gimme_some_truth]

I was 19. Really tried to hold out, and I honestly probably wasn't mentally mature enough for it at that point either, come to think of it.

I think sex is extremely important though, and something that one can always work on and improve upon. To be honest, the sex I had when I was 19 isn't even in the same genre as in my mid twenties, and I only expect it to get better with age and experience.

Having said that, its important to give yourself boundaries. There may be wrong ages but there is no right age to start. Do it when you're comfortable with the idea of such an act.

I will say that I think a lot of people get too wrapped up in the gravity of sexual experience. At the end of the day, its a wonderful thing and something people should really feel more free about. There's nothing evil about it, although in the wrong situation, it can get a little.... uh, awkward.

16 the first time, all physical no emotion.

But when you find someone special or someone with a close kin mentally it will be an experience full of passion and joy for both of you that can't be described.

19 being when I experienced that with my "2nd".

I took a class in college that about 400 people took once a week in an auditorium just to boost their grade. It was called Problems in Personal Adjustment. The instructor (a Psychiatrist) had a speaker, one of his patients, who was 28 and spoke about his inability to ever get a relationship going, though he thought someone he was seeing might be the one. The audience laughed and the instructor gave the definite impression that still being a virgin at 28 was very abnormal and anyone having difficulties forming a physical relationship after the age of 21 should be seeking therapy. I'm not sure I agree with the therapy part. It just seems to me that a little more self-confidence needs to be gained and a little more assertive action needs to be taken when with your date. If it does not work, then so what.

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Well I think that the OP may be religious (a few clues =) ). Many of my religious friends have opted to wait until marriage.

reply to post by JesusisTruth

Maybe you should try goin to a nightclub you know ??
Its an experience you've never tried and you never know, you may enjoy it
New experiences are the essence of life---trying things that you've never done before. It makes you grow as a person.
You seem a nice guy to me, so please have some fun and let your hair down a bit .
You're 28 and say you've never kissed a girl.
I'm sure there's plenty of nice girls out there that you could meet.
and I'm sure that kissing a girl for the very first time would bring you such pleasure.
You must think about sex to have done this thread ??
Sex is an amazing God given experience------losing your virginity is something very few people forget.
Everyone is different, some people start sexual activity quite young, and others , like yourself, prefer to hold back.
Either way, its cool .
But at 28, you should be livin life to the max.
Get to that nightclub, meet a girl, experience that first kiss .
Its all out there-------

I'm still a virgin with Earthly women.

I did, however, get lucky with a reptilian woman the other night.....

[atsimg]http://files.abovetopsecret.com/images/member/b2c4c80bc1be.jpg[/atsimg]

Ummmm......T&C?

-Dev

I was only just 18.999999 when I lost mine

Also, OP, you should try going to a nightclub. You dont have to hook up with anyone (if you knew me you would probably laugh at me saying that ) or even drink. Just go have some fun.

But I always say try before you buy too

You're not missing out on anything by not going to a nite club JIT- been to one you've been to them all, lol

Maybe someone cute at church?


Mine went missing when I was 15- still haven't found it

I felt the need to add this...

I do think there are some sets of people who are not sexually compatible. Not that either of them are bad, but some reactions, no matter how formulated, end up working out.

That's why I don't think its necessarily wrong to experiment a little bit. I honestly think that relationships, while not entirely about sex, can be greatly improved or ruined by it.

This isn't the olden days where it was all about chauvinist ideals, and it mattered only if the guy got what was his. Lets be honest, as a man, we are not all that hard to figure out. Women can be, and they expect to get as much out of it as you.

My point: I think that good sex is imperative to a fully functioning relationship, and if you go in wondering how its going to be and taking the plunge, well, I'd be scared.

I don't mean to tell you to go against your ideals, I just think you should think long and hard about a set standard of morals you have for yourself and the future with a person you may spend the rest of your life with.

Wow!!


I know you are a good Christian boy and whatnot..... but even big Jeezy said be fruitful and multiply.


28???? You must have forearms like Popeye by now


I kid....I kid...

[edit on 7/31/09 by BlackOps719]

If its your choice to have never kissed a girl/woman by now, then good on you for doing so well... However, if it is not your choice and you want to experience something, there are many ways it can be done.

-Haribo

One believer to another: one of the greatest gifts you can give a future spouse is your purity. Avoiding immorality is an important aspect of keeping the Lord's commandments, and so an essential aspect of worship towards our Maker & Redeemer.

More generally: I believe the so-called 'sexual revolution' has caused epidemics of loneliness, heart-ache and depression through serial broken unions, to say nothing of rampant STDs. Endless dissatisfaction, always seeking 'something better'. Broken homes. Broken children.

As with many things in life, the hard way is by far the best. Mutual, exclusive, life-long commitment to one person brings a depth to a relationship that cannot be imitated or even fathomed by a person who has rejected it.

Admittedly I was very fortunate in that Christ taught me his way before I tried my own. Many only stop to consider their deep need of a truly exclusive relationship after finding out for themselves trial and error doesn't actually fulfill a restless soul. Fortunately, as Christ said, he didn't come to call the righteous, but sinners, and he specializes in restoration (-which I too needed in many areas of my life). His way remains open to all.

JiT, don't fall for the empty promises of satisfaction. Persevere. Go on waiting till you meet a life-companion, a soul-mate, and after the wedding and throughout life you'll be able to experience a depth of mutual commitment and union beyond what many dream possible, believing such a life is the stuff of fairy-tales.

God bless.