Teen commits suicide over 'sexting' pics

This is really sad. My thoughts and prayers go out this girl and her family.

Girls are doing this, and they are becoming more and more younger.
Not only are they opening themselves up for humiliation but also criminal charges and possible life long stigma labeled on them if they are under the legal age limit of consent of age in their state.

Many states are charging these young girls with child pornography crimes.

Also, a lot of these girls do not do this based on their own opinions and wants, many of these girls are being coaxed, harassed, black mailed, and intimidated to take nudes for their boyfriends or "boys"/men on the internet.


There's a video that's going around on the internet for a while now of a young girl doing all kinds of inappropriate things, she was naive, and the web cam chat room she was in opened her up to this, and a man told her he had her address which he got from facebook and that he'd hurt her parents and so on so she did all these really horrible things, that I would think ould be considered a type of rape as their emotional and physical acts done that typical rape consists of.

The kicker is, she still does webchats on blogtv, her parents hate her, the school has ridiculed and scolded her and so on but have done nothing or tried to do anything to the people who did this and are still circulating the video and photos and the other sad thing is she so naive and messed up from neglect of her parents is she'll probably do it again.



Schools should focus a little more on the emotional I feel, more and more teens are dealing with mental illness or depression due to circumstance, if we brought in some courses in about self respect, healthy self esteem, healthy coping skills and so on it may make them a little better prepared on more open and willing to speak about their problems.

Even then some girls just wont get it too naive, too willing and needy of acceptance for their boyfriends and men.
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My heart goes out to her family.

That boy...one day it will hit him what he has done and I almost pity him for when it does.

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Yup, and the cases keep getting sadder and sadder.

That brother who posted them photos is a rite *snip* !!!
He prob thought that he would boost his social status and at the same time destroy hers. he will have to live with the fact that he has destroyed her familys life forever.

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Mod Edit: Vulgarity and the Automatic ATS Censors

[edit on 5/19/2009 by maria_stardust]

Originally posted by thedog
reply to post by schrodingers dog

 

Not to offend, but as a person of only 18 (and I am not asking for pity) I have lost 4 friends in one year, in which one case was due to suicide.

I personally think your opinion of me or at least my words as being non compassionate is rather blind, when on the contrary I am trying to be understanding to such a situation.

I am sorry for your loss. It is tough. This life is tough for many. We get trapped in our subjective views of the world; it is important to realize that emotional pain can be worse than physical pain.

I am not blind to whatever measure of compassion you feel you have. All I saw was you associating something "dumb" with her final act of despair. The knee-jerk reaction to judge someone's tolerance to emotional pain is typical of people who think their life philosophy is holier than thou.

You are no stranger to loss, so act like it.

Suicide in teens is a very big concern.

what I dont understand, though, is why are kids today allowed to do what they want with technowledgy, with no oversight, no parental guidance, nothing.

Texting and things can be heavily limited by parents. Every major company out there has parental controls.

I would never let my child(if i had one) roam freely on their phone. Simply setting rules and following up on them(you can request detailed billing statements from every company as well, or for that matter, LOOK AT THEIR PHONE!)

This starts, as does everything else, with the parents. Step up and do your freaking job.

I am always profoundly saddened over the loss of a life so young,especially if it's a sucicide.

The mind of a teen-girl isn't always stable or rational but rather it feeds on emotions and is fueled by desires...she probably felt she'd be SO stigmatized by her peers that she'd simply never live it down.
Teen girls can also be vicious little vipers and again,it's just so sad.

It's truly hard to police all this as a parent but I agree that it must be tried at least...

Recently,I saw first hand how yong women are "dating via sex-ting" and honestly it made me so sorry that they feel they have to resort to this in order to be desired...I was told "Everybody does it,it's no big deal!"

Sorry,it really sorta' is...at a party recently,a rather drunk young guy I know was showinf a lot of totally over the top nude pics of his ex around to anyone who wanted to take a look...I actually did go out on a limb and tell him that it wasn't cool or classy to be dis-ing her in such a way.

It's my biggest fear anymore that the ONE TIME I totally muck up un-intentionally that it will be blasted all over f-ing YouTube for the world to judge and comment upon.

I wish her family peace.




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This was a woman, not a child. She was considered a legal adult in most places. Old enough to be responsible for a credit rating, old enough to vote, old enough to marry, old enough to join the military and be killed. Why doesn't anyone feel she was old enough to know better?

When I was in school we had pictures. We could have easily taken nudes and given them to our boyfriends who could have easily made copies and passed them around the school. Instant photos have been around for years so it seems this could have been happening for a very long time before my high school years... yet it didn't.

Why is that other generations were able to understand the consequences of giving nude photos away in school, but for some reason this generation can't figure out? I'm not a prude by any means, but I knew that if I gave anyone a nude photo in school that it could possibly end up all over campus. What's so hard to figure out?

It's to bad this woman killed herself because people in school were making fun of her. But it's also to bad that an 18 year old woman was unable to understand the possible consequences of giving away nude pics.
Yes young people do stupid things, I know I did and I got made fun of afterwards. But I wouldn't have given away a nude photo and not expected to be called a slut for it at some point.

Once upon a time when a person did something potentially embarrassing they didn't give pictures so someone, or in many cases, put it on the internet themselves. When you open yourself up like that it is going to be abused. When I was in high school, I remember photocopied pics being hung up, videos popping up of people that they"didn't think it would get out", IT ALWAYS GETS OUT. The only way to prevent it is to not take pictures doing stupid crap to being with. Yes, I did some "bad" things in my youth, I was also smart enough to not take pics or video of me doing it.

Yes, death is sad, but she was an 18 yrs girl not 8. She killed herself because she was embarassed about nude pics she took.

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people are dumb ... really ... thats why darwin was right ...


well..she could win a darwin award ...


darwinawards.com

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I just can't believe some of the post in this thread...

Perhaps it is a dumb act to commit suicide, but the person who DO commit it don't have to be dumb in anyway.
It's not dumb to be depressed for gods sake.
It's not dumb to be physically ill.

For a man to commit suicide there need to be some deep emotions involved. Emotions that the individual can't handle and needs help.

This story was really sad, and my condolences to her mother.

Sure she made a mistake to send her a nude picture, but she did that in good faith of her former boyfriend.

How would she know, all in love and all, that he would make the absurd act to send the pic to every girl in her school??

Is it her fault her ex boyfriend have done this?

BAH.

Teenagers lack of empathy and sympathy makes me sick.

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It isn't her fault her boyfriend sent the pictures to others but it is her fault for giving the pictures to her boyfriend. She had no way of knowing that he "would" forward the pictures, but at her age she should have known that he "could". I had boyfriends in high school too, more than one told me "he loved me" and none got naked photos.

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Well yeah.

The people who make cars also know that the owner of that car might drink and drive and kill someone. Is it the car constructors fault then?

Or take weapons for instance.

Or the well known court case of Pirate Bay.

Ofc, she "should" know that he could. But some people are more trustful than others. She happen to be one of those who put her faith in trust and that boy instead of being careful.

Love have a tendency to blind you from some things that would go under the category of common sense.

So, ofc. She did a dumb thing. But that doesn't mean SHE is dumb. And that is what I was reacting to.

You said it best. It was not only the sexting, it probably was also the breakup with her boyfriend and other underlying issues which led to her tragic demise. Suicide is a complex issue which cannot be exclusively attributed to just one stressful incident in one's life.

Of course, the media prefers to simplify and exploit the issue, catering more to the problem than the solution.

Originally posted by Republican08Its hard to go to the police, and exploit yourself even further in this scenario. I'd assume you would feel trapped. poor thing
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Go to the police? If she was under 18 when the pictures were taken then YES it would be a crime for her boyfriend to hand them out, but it is ALSO a crime for her to have taken them and sent them to the boyfriend.

If the girls were underage (and they probably were) it would be illega because it would be corrupting a minor, but I don't see the girl in question being in a position to do much about it.

People have to warn their teenagers, not lecture them but really warn them about what can happen, and they can NEVER take it back, not even 30 years from now. Even if they truly "trust" their boyfriend (haha) if it is out there phones can be stolen, computers hacked, pictures can and WILL leak. I remember warning my nieces of that when they were young teens.

[edit on 19-5-2009 by Sonya610]

Back in May of 2008, Jessie made appearances on news channels discussing her experience from 'sexting' and how just one sent photo turned into their worst nightmare. She was teased, harassed, mocked and tortured incessantly over her picture by kids near her home, school and elsewhere. Kids threw objects at her and called her horrible names.

www.postchronicle.com...

Almost a year before her suicide she was on the news discussing her experience/torture with the photos and "sexting" on the news. So, no one knew that she was not dealing with the situation well?! From her mother to the school and everyone that saw the news stories should have known there was a problem, at least with Jesse. Since Jesse just turned 18, and she discussed this issue over a year ago in the media, she definately would've been underage at the time, and the girls that distributed the photos are citing as being 16 in the op article. Everyone that sent the photos could be tried for distributing child porn and be labeled a sex offender.

it is impossible for a girl to recover from this ... she always would be remebered in every place she had gone ...


but, she created the own problem, the reality today is that, there are tons of pics and videos of girlfriends ... I just dont know how dumb people could be ... I thought after the first ones, people would be more careful, but no, this girls just dont think ... well, sorry, darwin awards is there waiting for you

People should know better than to take naked pics or videos of themselves these days. Still, she shouldn't have killed herself, she could have sued the guy for defamation.

Originally posted by Akezzon
I just can't believe some of the post in this thread...

Perhaps it is a dumb act to commit suicide, but the person who DO commit it don't have to be dumb in anyway.

Hi akezzon,

Just to clarify ( as i were one of those that used the word dumb) i want to make it clear that we are by comparative standards ALL dumb at 18 so her case , and shortsightedness, isn't as strange as some make it out to be.

It's not dumb to be depressed for gods sake.
It's not dumb to be physically ill.
For a man to commit suicide there need to be some deep emotions involved. Emotions that the individual can't handle and needs help.

No it isn't dumb to be either of those things and there are more than half a million self inflicted injuries ( well people who have to see a doctor) in the US per year with more than thirty thousand not reaching the doctor or not trying to. Women make up only about 20% of the 30 odd thousands suicides so once again if we say suicide is 'dumb' it may only prove that men are quite a bit more stupid; big surprise there..... ( )

Since this was clearly not a attempted suicide ( hanging is something men tend to do) she had her mind made up and without , as far as i know, choosing the usual method of trying to get some attention by staging a half hearted attempt beforehand. The fact that she did so after coming from from the funeral of a boy that also commited suicide ( they let her go????) is however a indication that the parents had any idea how bad things were for her.

Teenagers lack of empathy and sympathy makes me sick.

Truly a sad story but empathy is not something kids learn at school so once again we should investigate what's happening, or in most cases not so much, in our homes. I suppose it's too easy to blame the parents for not doing more or something different but if anything i'm 100% sure they feel deeply responsible for their failure to save their daughter; it's not often that life rewards our failures with such severe punishment...

We can all hope that a large number of children in that school figured out exactly how much our words can hurt each other.

Stellar

PS: Sorry if the numbers of suicides&details seems insensitive but it does not say much good if one in 600 Americans injures themselves each year in a attempted ( althought mostly half heartedly) suicides.

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That was one heck of a reply.

Well, I was more amazed about the attitude more than the word "dumb".
And when I say attitude I don't mean YOU specifically.

But I was sad to see that we ATS:ers have the lack of understanding of this girl just because she made the first mistake.
I felt like some laughed it the story. And that was why I got "aggrovated". =)

Cheers