why the hell can my sister steal my things and get a ayw with it

arr sorry but my sister keeps stealing my things jewellery, make up even get this pens :shk:
so when i found nearly all my jewellery in her room one day i tell my mummand what does she do have a go at me because i should not go in her room :bash:
but she went in my room and stole my things.

so now when ever my family goes out i have to sneek into her room and take back my own things like some common thief even though they are MINE

what the hell thats my stuff.

and resently i brought some COTTON on ebay and it never came i end up takeing the seller on paypal demanding my money back because they did not send it and lo and behold (youve rpobally guessed the outcome) i fine this cotton in her room.
i have a go at this poor seller and she stole my post so now im having to send everything to my fiancee because she steels my stuff.
what would she even want cotton for she doesnt even do anything that involves sewing and the cotton was still in there packets

i cant even move out because 1 i cant afford a house or rent at the moment especially witht the credit crunch and even if i could i wouldnt beable to because my dads really ill and im the only one who can take him to the hospital because my mother can not get off her ass and get a driving licence arrrrrr

rant over:bnghd::bnghd::bnghd::bnghd::bnghd::bnghd::bnghd:

One question- Is your sister not too old, to understand your seriousness?

Because, if your sister is just a kid or a teenager, she would love to play with things, and so, you can talk to her gently regarding this. Explain yourself clearly.

On the other hand, if she is grown up and in the age of understand the difference between fun and serious, then talk to her in a firm tone.

shes just turned 15.

if i talk to her shes starts crying and yelling then scratchs and bites an hits me.
then complains to mum and then mum has a go at me saying her room is her privacy and i should respect it

reply to post by kerrichin


Look at her age, she is growing up and will understand. Some kids take a long time to change their childish nature. My adivce for you is to talk to her, and sort things out.

Change the doorknob on the door to your room to one that locks. Its easy to do.

Problem solved in a non-confrontational way. Domestic Tranquility Index stabilized.

LOL i feel for you Im one of 6 girls and WHAT a NIGHTARE! Being the eldest of the 6... My suff was always taken,

Now a days they just come borrow and never bring it back,I have to go round there houses and get them myself,

reply to post by kerrichin


You should feel lucky you have your own room. I shared mine with two brothers, and they also brought in friends. If anything went missing, I could not tell who did it!

Fifteen is old enough to know better. I think you need to talk to her woman to woman, as she knows right from wrong. If she were to steal from a store, they would ship her off to juvenile detention at that age. She is not a baby, and she needs to respect others property.

Get a lock installed for your door. Your parents may not want you to do that, but it will show them there is a serious problem. Also, stop sneaking into your sister's room. It is not any better than what she is doing. Two wrongs do not make a right.

I'd say, because she is taking you mail and has no real need for it, she is doing this just to tick you off.

I'd get a lock on my door too, although she could pick the lock if she tried, it's not that hard

next time your mum yells at you for going into her room, yell louder than her!

tell her that it's obvious she it going into your room and taking things, or just take something she loves a lot and hide it (or ruin it)

Edit to add: take something she really loves and tell her that she'll only get it back if she never goes into your room again, and that if you notice anything missing you'll take that cherished thing and wreck it.



Roswell.

[edit on 22/3/2009 by roswell1]

Sounds like your sis and my sis should get together and bake cookies.
To this day if my sis comes over I hide all things I have that are important or valuable to me.She snoops around if I leave her alone so I have to be smart.

My sister doesn't live with me, but when I got out with her sometimes, I find her stealing little things from shops like makeup, tweezers etc.

Is this normal!?

She won't listen to me, and if I tell my dad, well she's be dead. And she would never forgive me.

I think it's just a phase, that was a few months ago, she might have changed by now.

Also is it normal for teenage girls to change a LOT in personality every 2 weeks you see them? haha

reply to post by _Phoenix_


Shoplifting is a phase in some teens as I dealt with troubled boys who would steal items too. She needs to get caught at an early age and get the fear of God put in her. If she gets caught at age eighteen, she will have an arrest record follow her for the rest of her life. The conviction might be sealed, but people forget that the arrest record is public record and is never sealed or made to disappear.

It is a way to get attention, but some teens are kleptomaniacs. Does she steal any of your or her friends things?

One solution is to have a manager or small shop owner "catch" her in the act. Sometimes that is enough to stop the problem from growing into a serious one that will result in jail time and never getting a decent job in the future.

reply to post by kidflash2008


Thanks for the help. She's 15 by the way. It might be possible that kleptomaniac you mentioned has something to do with it, it did seem like she did it out of habit. She didn't do it for attention thats for sure, because she would try to do it without me noticing, then I would only realise when we get to the house that she has extra items as if by magic haha.


Edit: Deleted loooong info about my sister.

I think I probably gave way too much info about my sister, too personal, I don't wanna talk behind her back, don't want to disrespect her.

The main thing, she didnt like what she was doing, wanted to stop and and wanted to act more mature, so that's a good step I guess. I havent seen her for a couple of months, she's coming back to this country in 2 weeks, nooooooooooooooooooo, it was so peaceful .

LOL


Peace.


[edit on 22-3-2009 by _Phoenix_]