What is your definition of true love?

I believe that if you are truly in love, you value and appreciate a person's true nature, flaws and all. A person who is truly in love will not try to 'fix' or change another person's character. Obtaining a sense of identity or personal security is not part of true love in my opinion. I also don't think true love is purely emotional like so many people think.

These are just my opinions, sorry if I offended anyone. Anyway, what is your definition of true love? Would like to hear from everyone.

True love is hard to define as it can be such a personal thing you know?


I've been in love with the idea of true love a few times in my life. My past experiences have all been a piece in the puzzle of "true" love.

My partner is the puzzle complete.

True love has made me get up at 2am to make him a sandwhich when he couldn't sleep.

True love means I clean up after him whilst he has the worst case of the flu ever.

True love is when I surprise him by picking him up after work so he doesn't have to walk home alone.

True love is sacrificng my own wants and needs for him, and it not feeling like a sacrifice.

True love is being excited about seeing him after being a part for just a few hours.

True love is not being annoyed when he leaves his dirty socks beside the bed.

True love is different to different peopole, but for me it's all about not being selfish.

When you think more about someone else than you do yourself...then you know you're in love...

Love is simply an overwhelming desire to unite with someone.

"True" love might be a desire to unite with someone in a spiritual sense. I'm not really sure, though.

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Hi there:

I once took a human sexuality course while I was in college. The course teaches that there are different kinds of love. I will name what I can remember for you with a brief description of each, since I don't have my notes readily available at this current time.

There are several kinds of love, and these are the types:

Compassionate Love - This type of love is also known as infactuation or lust. You can be very attracted to the individual, and usually find yourself having daydreams about the individual; especially erotic daydreams. This Love can also be like a Romantic Love, where you buy your mate roses, take them out to dinner and the movies, and cuddle up to watch a movie on the couch.

Empty Love - This love speaks for itself. It is empty, and virtually not love at all. There is usually no emotion, and no attraction. Some people tell eachother that they Love one another, and really don't mean it at all. This kind of relationship may be strictly sexual.

Companionate Love - This type of Love is likely to be two bestfriends who have known one another for quite some time, and have become aquainted and comfortable with one another. Before the relationship occurs, it usually begins as a friendship and a Friendship Love, where each individual cares about the other one prior to becoming involved.

Friendship Love - This type of Love is the Love you would have towards your friends, or your family. You buy them gifts at Christmas time. You want to give them a hug before they leave. You would never let harm come their way.

True Love - This kind of Love is usually a combination of Compassionate or Romantic Love, Companionate Love, and Friendship Love.

What I have found is all people have pepeeves, and dislikes. Since no one is actually perfect (because perfection differs in every person's eyes), and perfection is basically non-existent(except when you look at life as a whole; then it is all perfect), people can create unrealistic expectations for eachother.
When True Love is actually present in the relationship, these expectations are still going to occur; they don't go away. The actual Love that exists for each person will help allow the couple overcome these obsticles in their relationship, allowing a bond to occur, but it doesn't always eliminate them(obsticles).; being different is what makes us unique, and it gives each individual their own persona. Sometimes, in a relationship, it is good for change. Problems that occur have to be perceived openly, without allowing ego and pride become these huge barriers in the overall outlook and situation. It is important to know that it doesn't make you weak by changing little things about yourself for people we Love. We change always anyways. Every little moment we are able to take in, every experience, can change our whole outlook on all things in life, at any given time. This doesn't make you indifferent or a liar if you liked one thing about your lover one day, and then the next day you dislike that very same thing.

If your partner dislikes something, then it is always good to start observing the problem by way of empathy. Put yourself in his/her place, and observe yourself; and I urge them to do the same. If you are truly in Love, then you will do all that it takes to comfort each other.

Peace!

P.S.

I heard a joke once, and its a little bit funny. "Why did my wife spend all these years changing me, and now she wants a divorce because she says I'm not the same guy she married?"

I agree with everything you said about true love OP .....
I would only add that it is not the fluttery feeling in the stomach thing (butterflys)(This is lust and is temporary)
True love is something so comfortable that you feel like you are home ....as in with them it is home even if your living in a tent lol ..

i dont think anybody can truly answer this question because the term love means different things to different people. some people equate love with money and power some with how much a person spends on them and some with how much time they spend with the person. then other use emotional markers. i think its personal like asking someone what their most favorite thing is in the whole world. for me its being able to share my days with my female counterpart.

I beleive that we dont find true love until we 'truly' love ourselves inside and out and then once you truly love yourself you know the exact true love you seek.Its everything oneself is but in the opposite sex.
In other words

Twinflame...People think a Soul Mate is that but we have 1000's of Soul Mates.

A Twinflame is you.
2 Bodies that share 1 Soul.

Its a big ole world out there with all them Soul Mates running about who we connect with everytime we bump into one

Honey, I decided that just once in my life I want to have sex with like 25 guys, and that would bring me so much pleasure.

And then you say, sure honey, that is no problem, because as you know I love you unconditionally, and do you want me to tape this for you or can I assist in any way, make a lunch for the guys, get the condoms or anything?

And if you can't say that. Well the discussion on TRUE LOVE is kinda moot, cause you are always thinking from your own self interest. Not many humans are capable of true love.

"True Love, is the souls recognition of its counterpoint in another".
...wait; that's from Wedding Crashers.. it goes something like that.

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True Love is growth.

True Love is acceptance.

True Love is mutual respect.

True Love is not going to bed angry.

True Love is not needing each other, but wanting each other.

True Love is unconditional.

True Love knows no limits.


Someone already mentioned Puzzle Pieces - that's all I think we are. Puzzle pieces mixed up in all these different boxes, searching for the piece that fits perfectly.


- Carrot

What is your definition of true love?

True love is evil hurt(s).

When there is no room for evil, y'all will have true love. Thank you.

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