Met a girl last night.... Want opinions.

Hi BTS! This is my first post here (BTS) so here it goes. I was at trivia last night with a few buddies over at a sports bar near my house. Towards the end of night and after a few pitchers we were tabbing out and the hostess came over to our table and started talking. Well anyway to make a long story short we started talking for a while and we exchanged numbers.

Should I call her or text her? How long should I wait? Lastly, should we what is a good idea for a first date.... Please help!

BTW I havn't dated for 4 years after my fiance cheated on me with my best friend. She is the first in a while and I like her a lot please help

Don't do anything we suggest.

Be yourself and do what you want to do.

Do you want to call her? Then call her.

Don't make the mistake of acting like a totally different person while dating because some magazine article or a friend of a friend said its the right way to act.

I am sure she wanted to exchange numbers for a reason. Go with that and know she obviously is interested so just be yourself !!!!

Good Luck and may you find true love from a real woman who knows cheating is not an option

Definately call her-I'ts more personal.For your first date I'd go to the flicks and then for something to eat.Middle of the road price wise. I'm a chick and would be more than cool with that.Have fun!! .

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Should I wait the standard 3 days or is that all a load of ****? Oh weird she just sent me a text. Thanks for your help. I'm 24 but still quite in noob in dating. Only had 2 girlfriends in my life lol both very long term.

Read this book while you are dating or before or if it doesn't work because of something you did.

www.amazon.com...=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1235153326&sr=1-1

This book got me a wife.

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ok I took your advise. So I called her and I got a date tuesday! Thanks for the post!

Before your date:

Print out a bunch of our posts. Enough to fill s decent sized binder.
Organize them by topic, with little tabs.

Once your date is moving along nicely, say:
"I'd like you to meet my friends", as you hand her the binder.
Spend the rest of your date reading through your hard copy of ATS/BTS.

Things should progress swimmingly from there!

Another option:
Be yourself!

Congrats! Let us know how it went!

All you gotta do is shown within your avatar, when she's talking about the weather, suprise her by closing your eyes, opening your mouth and try to kiss her. Her reaction might be to kick you in the balls, but usually that's a good sign! Trust me! So all you gotta do is try again!

And if she calls the police, then it means she cares THAT much about you!



[edit on 20-2-2009 by _Phoenix_]

Dude, call her whenever you feel like you wanna call her. There's really no rule. As long as you don't act needy and try to chat for 5 hours the first time you call.

Make it short and sweet. Make your plans with her and end the convo. Say you gotta go do xyz and hang up this way you will seem important lol.

BTW, I'm against traditional first dates such as Dinner and a movie. It's lame in my opinion. reason I'm against it is because if you go watch a movie, it does not allow you to get good conversation in. And with dinner it basically puts all the pressure on you to be her entertainment. So if you run outta things to say you're gonna be in an uncomfortable silence. Do something where there is external stimuli or entertainment.

Some things I have done on first dates is invited the person window shopping with me, or go do something fun like miniature golf or whatever you think would be fun. Be playful and fun.

Make any and every excuse to get some light physical contact with her. Playfully bump her while you're walking, high five her for anything, et cetera et cetera. You get the idea.

Last but not least; Don't put too much pressure on yourself. Drop all expectations and be comfortable with her. Talk to her as if she is an old friend and this will create a comfortable feeling of familiarity.


[edit on 2/20/2009 by thehumbleone]

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I know some people think it's crazy to do something different on a first date haha, I mean why not go to a theme park for example? rollercoaster rides etc That sounds like fun to me! And fun takes out the awkward first date feeling too!

And there are a lot of opportunities for the light physical contact you talk of, like holding hands when scared etc. haha


[edit on 20-2-2009 by _Phoenix_]

Originally posted by Anonymous ATS
Read this book while you are dating or before or if it doesn't work because of something you did.

www.amazon.com...=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1235153326&sr=1-1

This book got me a wife.

good suggestion. Every man should read that book.

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Yeah for sure. Themepark is like a thousand times better than dinner and date.

Plus different = exciting. At the least she will remember you as someone who took her on a unique first date.

Originally posted by thehumbleone
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Yeah for sure. Themepark is like a thousand times better than dinner and date.

Plus different = exciting. At the least she will remember you as someone who took her on a unique first date.

Yes unique is good, plus it's usually great fun no matter what, unless your REALLY bad with girls or she hates themeparks haha.

By the way is it me or is there a higher than average amount of pretty girls at theme parks, well at least here in London it seems so, strange.

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haha yeah it does seem like that. I get scared a lot of them are jail bait though. lol

mate do the whole flowers thing and box of chocolates. Haha girls still like those kinds of things and it shows there is a romantic side of you to be discovered.

Wow I appreciate all of the replies! Thank you

So things are good we went to a dinner then hung out at her house for a while. I'm surprised of the amount of ladies men here on ATS/BTS . BTW I will check out that book one of the posters mentioned.

Thanks again.

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That book is certainly a step in the right direction, however your strides don't end there. Knowing what to do/say is completely different from actually doing/saying it.

Sounds like you're already head-over-heals for this girl and you don't even know her. The only advice I'll give is this: For every girl you meet, don't expect anything to come out of it. This sense of indifference is sexy and keeps you from seeming desperate.

-Dev

Originally posted by Wethesheeple
Hi BTS! This is my first post here (BTS) so here it goes. I was at trivia last night with a few buddies over at a sports bar near my house. Towards the end of night and after a few pitchers we were tabbing out and the hostess came over to our table and started talking. Well anyway to make a long story short we started talking for a while and we exchanged numbers.

Should I call her or text her? How long should I wait? Lastly, should we what is a good idea for a first date.... Please help!

BTW I havn't dated for 4 years after my fiance cheated on me with my best friend. She is the first in a while and I like her a lot please help

Whatever you do, don't look desperate!

Pencil her into your already busy life, don't make it seem like you're willing to drop everything just to be with her.

Invite her to join in something that you've already planned for yourself.