Question about dreams.

I friend long ago said to me, "Do you ever notice that you never get to do what you're trying to do in your dream?" As soon as he said it, I realised I'd thought of it before, and it happens every time.

For example, a childhood dream I remember I'd won a submarine (I know.. lol) We were all partying on this submarine, but things kept diverting me away from the party, or the place I wanted to be in the party on the submarine. I kept trying to get there, and finally, I was on my way, and whadda you know? I've woken up.

This literally happens every single time for me, every clear dream anyway, and it bugs me.

Why does my brain always stop me from doing the things I want to do in the dream? I mean very very occasionally it'll get what I want, but it never turns out as good as it should have done, or something is wrong with it.

I've asked a few people about this since, and they've all said they get it too.

Do you? And why do you think that is?

I've had similar situations but I have also lucid dreamed a handful of times and when I am practicing meditating regularly and keeping myself on the path so to speak I can habitually wake up to some extent in my dreams. What's really wild is becoming lucid but not having control over the outside dream world.

Your dreams are simply you,
as awfully new age-y as that sounds, but that is what it is. So you can figure out what that means for you by thinking about it a little more on your own.

This was my favorite experience both in terms of waking up in dreaming and preventing something:
I was walking along some fence in an apartment complex thinking I was going to a barbecue on one of the many patios I was walking by but as soon as I walked inside where I thought the bbq was it turned into a studio set where a movie was being filmed. That didn't really make any sense to me so I sorta freaked out and turned to leave really fast and as I was rushing to leave I realized that it had to be a dream, so I stopped and wondered what I wanted to do.
Aha, wouldn't this be a wild story, so I say to myself, "Ok, jesus and buddha and god and whatever/whoever else are in the room that just held a movie set."
And I turn around to face it and there's this golden light coming from the door into the room, so I walk over to it to look in and this little imp creature holding a mask jumps out
and I knew he would be there, and I knew it was just me putting him there, that behind the mask he was holding up I'd find some aspect of myself and it was totally an available choice of mine to just shove him aside, I knew he wouldn't have resisted because I knew I was dreaming him
Instead I woke up scared.

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It really is an odd thing. I've had lucid dreams a few times too, also to some extent been able to manipulate them (choosing to fly for example) but even knowing I'm dreaming and getting myself flying, something goes wrong, and i find it hard to fly and start falling back to earth, or struggling to keep myself aloft.

That's the odd thing, no matter what it is, it seems impossible for things to go as you want them to in the dream. Something always happens first which ends up diverting you away from that it is, then you wake up before you get the chance to do what it was you wanted to do!

Very odd, I've asked a lot of people if they get it too, all have said they do! Weird!

I have the exact same kind of experience. My dreams usually involve some kind of quest or journey or trip or whatever you want to call it, and at the end of this period of travel I find something, usually anyway, something I want desperately, and I always seem to wake up just as I reach it, or at least I can't remember what happens after I reach it.

Perhaps this is a reflection of the "Life is a journey, not a destination." philosophy.

This doesn't happen to me, but I don't really have a fear of failure or uncertain futures.

hy :-)

i dream everynight the future of the next day..
in real.. and it happen like i dream it.. and i cant choose..

what do you think about that?

Nia Wind

Originally posted by GodForbid
Why does my brain always stop me from doing the things I want to do in the dream?

Do you mean you are aware that you are dreaming, but you can't do anything you want?

Anyways, in more than one dream I was consciously aware, and didn't wake up right away. I could even walk where I wanted to. What I couldn't do was fly. I don't really understand that. Is it because I am imagination deficient?

Originally posted by NW111
hy :-)

i dream everynight the future of the next day..
in real.. and it happen like i dream it.. and i cant choose..

what do you think about that?

Nia Wind

I think you should provide some proof! Should be quite easy.

Originally posted by TheMayMelancholies
I have the exact same kind of experience. My dreams usually involve some kind of quest or journey or trip or whatever you want to call it, and at the end of this period of travel I find something, usually anyway, something I want desperately, and I always seem to wake up just as I reach it, or at least I can't remember what happens after I reach it.

Perhaps this is a reflection of the "Life is a journey, not a destination." philosophy.

It really is strange. It's not like I have fear of failure or anything like someone else suggested. it just happens. I just wake up and think "Damn! I was so close!"

Originally posted by flyindevil

Originally posted by GodForbid
Why does my brain always stop me from doing the things I want to do in the dream?

Do you mean you are aware that you are dreaming, but you can't do anything you want?

Anyways, in more than one dream I was consciously aware, and didn't wake up right away. I could even walk where I wanted to. What I couldn't do was fly. I don't really understand that. Is it because I am imagination deficient?

No, all I meant was that my brain makes the dreams, so why does it make this happen?

Originally posted by GodForbid
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I've had lucid dreams a few times too, also to some extent been able to manipulate them (choosing to fly for example) but even knowing I'm dreaming and getting myself flying, something goes wrong, and i find it hard to fly and start falling back to earth, or struggling to keep myself aloft.

Lucid dreaming = a dream where you're consciously aware, and like I said, it even happens with those!

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I had a dream once that there was a war going on and I ran into a field with my three dogs hiding from the guys who were shooting and burning down buildings. I took my dogs down this path in the field until we reached a tv with an open portal like screen (I don't even watch tv). I knew the guys were coming after me to kill me and my dogs, so I tried to put my dogs through, but they would just go right through to the other side as if it wasn't a portal, but just a broken tv. Then I went into it and ended up in a ginormous toy store where everyone I had ever known was playing with toys (this is my view that no one knows what is going on, they are all distracted with their "toys"). They kept on trying to get me to play too, but I knew I had to get back to save my dogs, but eventually after searching and searching for a way out, I gave into the pressure of everyone telling me "it's so fun!" and I started playing with toys too. I was having so much fun on the outside, but on the inside I felt horrible. I never found a way out. It was so sad, but then I woke up and realized my dogs were still alive and that made me feel a little better.

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It may be because your brain is doing work creating long-term memories and associations between newly learned things from the previous day with current knowledge. At night is when these things happen. So, I think it's somewhat on auto-pilot and it appears as a dream and hard to control. But, I also believe, and I can't think of any specific evidence for this, that it's our subconscious right hemisphere displaying it's thoughts. That's why when I started interpreting my dreams I found it to be very enlightening about myself or things I was going through. One reason I believe this is because the left hemisphere is the dominant controlling part of ego wakefulness. During sleep, it relinquishes control. I think maybe at that time, the subconscious takes control and does (lives) what it personally likes to do.

There have been scientific experiments done that show that the two hemispheres are almost like two completely different people with different likes and dislikes. Google the "alien hand" experiment. ("Alien" here does not mean ET's).

[edit on 22-1-2009 by TheSingularity]

Definetly. The most frustrating example for me is dreaming of younger days when I played soccer... and preparing for a soccer game that never happens. Sometimes the preparation part can last an hour even, but the game never starts. Sometimes I'll even go lucid and I'll just sit there waiting for the game to start, trying to even will the dream to move to the beginning of the game, it basically never does.

I really do wonder sometimes who the "god" of the dream is. In fact this is what I'm focusing on right now as I begin to also get more serious about my practices.

Originally posted by Novise
I really do wonder sometimes who the "god" of the dream is. In fact this is what I'm focusing on right now as I begin to also get more serious about my practices.

You're the god. You're so much of the god that if you think "maybe I'm not the god" you will have no control until you say "maybe I am the god", and when you say "I AM THE GOD" you can do anything your mind can comprehend.

That happens to me as well.

I think it may be that you dream of something you'd really like to do in real life, but may be afraid of doing or just don't believe you can do, this could be a fantasy or whatever, and in the dream you stop yourself. If you can change your feelings and let go of the fear or whatever is controlling your thoughts, you may find the dreams can progress into achieving the desired outcome.

Sometimes the dream gets interrupted by the phone ringing, right when it finally gets to the good part. Why is that?

Reply to Reddupo:

I really want to believe that. I guess some believe the unconcious mind (or something else outside of the dreamer's concious control) to be the god of the dream. My experiences over the past few months have certainly pointed to more limitations, having to follow the plotline and stay in the same environment, this is happening more and more to me.

A few nights ago I tried to swing my arm at someone and couldn't do it. I thought to myself "This is my dream I should be able to swing my arm." So I started yelling, "This is my dream!" over and over but then I woke up

So I'm definetly working to take control again, and stop slaving away to plotlines and environments, but this is new for me... I've been operating under the presumptions of a limited environment, a mere playground I'm lucky to get to play on, for a long time now.

Will be trying to dream under the assumption that I am the god of the dream, and saying "I am the god" and things like this to try and realize this properly. It really does make more sense than the idea that dreams are limited just like our waking existence. It never has made sense to my why my limitations seemed to grow (on their own, as I felt conciously neutral in this situation and just an observer) as my dreaming ability improved.

edit: and of course thanks for explaining it that way, it really does make more sense now and I will certainly have a record of my experiences in trying to overcome the limitations. I have never really tried to tackle the limitations head on before.

[edit on 23-1-2009 by Novise]

Originally posted by NW111
hy :-)

i dream everynight the future of the next day..
in real.. and it happen like i dream it.. and i cant choose..

what do you think about that?

Nia Wind

Exactly the same (not every night, but often).

I researched about it and it's called precognition. Don't worry, many of us have it .

Usually the majority of precognitive experiences happen within a forty-eight hour period prior to the future event, most often it is within twenty-four hours. In rare cases precognitive experiences occur months or even years before the actual event takes place. Severe emotional shock seems to be a major factor in precognition. By a ratio of four-to-one, most concern unhappy events, such as death and dying, illness, accidents, and natural disasters. Intimacy is also a major factor, 80 to 85 percent of such experiences involve a spouse, family member or friend with whom the individual has close emotional ties.

www.themystica.com...

I don't have very many lucid dreams. I always seem to be content just following the pre-set plot of the dream.

Within the past few years, the closest I've gotten to lucid dreaming is being able to rewind and jump to different parts of my dream, as if it were a movie. I don't think I've ever been able to do whatever I feel like (such as flying), at least, not that I can remember.

It is sort of depressing. I tried for awhile to write down my dreams after waking up, but I gave up after awhile just because I was too tried to reach for the pen.

@ GodForbid

how shall i get a proof? i have no cameras in my dreams




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