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Originally posted by soldiermom
reply to post by blowfishdl
Thanks for your reply. The whole situation is a bit overwhelming to say the least but I have to clarify that the 504 Plan wouldn't require him to be placed in spec. ed. I would never agree to that! It would require his teacher to modify the way she interacts with and, I guess on a certain level, the way she teaches him; i.e. more time for certain assignments, and using different methods for teaching him.
I realize that teacher's have larger classes than they used to and it's hard for them to go one-on-one with individual students. I'm not looking for her or anyone else to coddle him, just to see things from a different perspective when it comes to kids like him. He's a good boy and until this year always made good grades. His grades have improved since he started taking the medication and is back to A's and B's with the exception of one C.
The reason I mention that the teacher could be part of the problem is because when a situation arises between my son and another student such as talking during class time, she automatically assumes it's my son.
When he tries to tell whomever it is talking to him to be quiet he gets in trouble. But, if he tell her that someone is bothering him, he gets in trouble for tattling. There has to be some middle ground there.
Don't get me wrong, my son is no angel. I know he talks when he's not supposed to on occasion and in general misbehaves at times but, he's a 7 y.o. boy. Boys by and large usually do talk out of turn and can be rowdy as opposed to girls. I just think that she's labeled him and whenever something goes wrong now, the finger is automatically pointed at him.
My doctor said Strattera is not a controlled substance like some of the other drugs on the market and that's why she placed him on it. I do watch for certain tendencies very closely though.
You have the same opinion my friend does in that he's not ADD but rather ADHD. Our doctor has a differing opinion. My friend seems to think his impulsivity is the main problem but I don't know how you go about curbing that.
My husband and I have discussed counseling but don't feel a need for it yet. Like I said earlier, I think it would go a long way in helping his behavior if she brought good behavior to light and not just the negative.
He's very frustrated right now and tries really hard to do his best but I wonder sometimes if teachers really try to understand little boys and their behavior.
Thanks for the advice. He won't fall by the wayside as long as I'm around. I want him to have the best life possible and I'll help him any way I can.
Kudo's to you for persevering. It's a tall hurdle to clear when you have this condition.
Originally posted by soldiermom
I'm calling Monday morning to set up a meeting. My friend said if I needed for her to call in as an advocate she would do it. She's someone to have in your corner on an issue like this.
Now, I have another question. My children are transfer students to this school and always have been. My concern now is if I ask for a 504 Plan, will they make me send my kids to the school district we live in because they will classify him as a special needs child?
This is a very tricky course. Obviously, I want what's best for him and that's why he's a transfer student. That's where they will have me over a barrel. I send my kids to this school because their curriculum is head and shoulders over the school district we live in.
Maybe I won't have to worry about it. It's the school I graduated from and I know a lot of the administration and the superintendent is a former classmate from high school and college.
I'll have to keep my fingers crossed that this doesn't become an issue.
Thanks for your reply and the advice. It is duly noted. I need more help with this than I first thought.
[edit on 11/26/2008 by soldiermom]