A friend of mine died of cancer today: It is a blessing to know you're terminal....

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It is sad to loose someone and if they have been suffering, it is a blessing to know that they are suffering no more. I lost my grandmother a month ago. I miss her to pieces but I would not have wanted her to suffer any longer. My condolences for your loss. ~hugs~

My condolences, Asmeone. As others have said, it is never easy to lose someone we care about, even if they have been suffering.

And thank you for taking the opportunity to write about how destructive our pathological fear and denial of death is. It is good to hear when someone is able, as your friend did, to come to terms with the inevitability of their own death and not spend their last moments in the sometimes brutalizing struggle for life at all costs that society would have us make.

I'm sincerely sorry to hear about your friend,my father retired at 62 one week later he made a Drs appointment and found out he had cancer,very sad and dibilitating disease he lived for 12 more years,we all wanted for him to live forever he did well till the end,I can only imagine the pain he endured,I often wonder if I would want to know the day I died,but would be far worse was living and hoping you'll die

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I just want to say it was brave and kind of you to share this online. You've really given us something to reflect on, something profound in the midst of your sorrow. So thanks.

Shalom

I'm sorry to hear of your loss. Hit me up if you need to talk there's some good souls on here if you ever wanna chat about it.

Additionally your right, the thought of death alone is much worst than the process itself. I know a 97 year old man who we don't know how much longer he's going to live and nearly died the other day.

Surely enough today he's sitting at the table drinking coffee with a mind as sharp as the day he was 20. Life is amazing you know, you can never predict it no matter how hard you try.

Inevitably we all pass on to the next life. It is best to not live in fear and embrace the present as well as the future.

I am truly sorry for your loss. I am glad that your friends suffering has come to an end, but sorry he had to go so soon. A few nights ago I had a dream that I was going to die in a short amount of time. Since then I have been trying to live life to the fullest and show more love to family and friends. Never waste a tragedy, learn from it.