Why is it that when you make eye contact with certain people they leave you feeling really scared?

There are some people that do leave me feeling in such way. I think it's because I'm not used to their characteristics. But all in all, we are all people and I don't think we should fear each other. That's what I like to think.

There's this guy that hangs right outside of his apartment. He always sitting on a chair, smoking, talking on the phone, has ear piercings and he looked like trouble. Just that vibe you can get from him. Every morning I have to walk by him. So there I was walking within his direction, so I look at him and say "hey". Now, he did look like he had some serious attitude going on, but in my head, he's just a guy. Just like me. For 3 days, i've been saying hey to him. then he later asked if i was going to school. then I said oh no, just going out.
I feel you can overcome your scared feeling. I feel I have. it really helps the day go by easier. whether a hard days work or just through bad traffic. I'd like to see that we are all the same and we shouldn't fear or scare others.

I do hope you overcome your feelings.

Go to Africa and camp in the bush. Find a family of silverback gorillas and try and stare down the alpha male. See where that gets ya.

Dooley,

You might be uncomfortable because those particular people might be demonized. That would explain the irrational fear and sense that they can see right through you.

Some 30 years ago when I first became a Christian, I was working at the phone company and a new girl started there as a temp employee. She wanted to go to break with me for some reason, and she just gave me the creeps and fear like I had never felt before, and when she looked at me, I had to look away - and when she smiled, it was so evil - like the devil was smiling at me.

Anyway, as I looked away from her as we were sitting there, and then looked back, I suddenly couldn't see her. She was black (not her skin color) - but its like she was blacked out so that I could not see her at all. Then an instant later, she was there again.

I happened to mention it to a friend of mine at work who was also a Christian and his jaw dropped. He said he had heard of that before - that when someone had a demon indwelled in them, they sometimes had that effect of being blacked out.

I have no proof of it and have never researched it, but I believe she was demonized as probably your customer might be.

You might want to offer up a prayer before your delivery and ask God to protect you with a big angel just in case.

Jesus be with you.

reply to post by Sonya610

Exactly. You know when a person is making sexual advances at you, true, but just because a person looks at you or smiles at you, doesn't mean they want to jump into bed with you. Only a filthy minded person goes around and accuses every shady-looking character of being a predator. Maybe they just had a bad hair day or are going through a depression? Then someone comes along and kicks them down even further...based on a "feeling" they got?

What narcissism and self-righteousness.

I have a friend who goes to this gas station up the street, occasionally, to get coffee, milk, etc. There's a guy who works there, usually at night, who claims to see auras and just "know" people by looking into their eyes. He's a little "eccentric", for the most part. One day she went with her son(18) who was embarrassingly parading around with his shirt off. (She'd lectured him before going to the store, but he was determined to try to "impress the ladies"...and kept it off.) She went to the counter with some items and said to the guy, "I need these and put ten in gas for the car next to the kid with no shirt on.". The guy gave a creepy look to his associate and raised his eyebrows, which is when she realized, OMG...no. She said to the guy, disgustedly, "He's my son." To which the guy said, "Yeah right, that's not the vision I got." Her mouth just dropped. She was appalled. I know my friend. I know her son. The guy was wrong and WAY out of line. Her son thought it was hilarious but she will forever be mortified that this sick-minded man was so polluted that he mistook a mother and her CHILD for some kind of cradle-robbing. Sicko. She's never gone back since. I told her she needs to tell the guy's boss on him but she's too embarrassed and humiliated.

People who see only wickedness when they look into someone's eyes, are seeing their own reflection.

reading the OP just gave me the chills.

When I was in the 6th grade I was also a paper boy. I delivered the Oregon Journal (now defunct) and the Sunday Oregonian in the wee hours of the morning once a week.

Because it was an evening paper, I pretty much knew and liked most of the people on my route. Was a pretty nice gig and kept me in quarters

Once a month I had to go door to door and collect for the paper. It was a strange system where I turned in my receipts to my route manager and he gave me a percentage of what I managed to collect. I could never really tell how they arrived at the number. All I knew is that on the rare occasion that I could collect from the deadbeats I seemed to make more money than usual. like I said, strange system.

Well, there was this little brown house that I always delivered to that I had seen someone peek at me a few times, but had never got them to answer the door when it came time to collection. One day in the winter, completely wet, I was out door to door with my pad asking the people for money when that lady from the brown house finally answered the door.

Like the OP said, she didn't look too strange, but her eyes terrified me instantly. She had a huge fake smile and asked me to come in. I was petrified and didn't want to come in to her house. Of course I was collecting money so like a zombie I walked on in. All I remember was her being really acrobatic and jumping all over the place talking to me, and giving me some really strange candy along with the check she owed. The candy looked like someone had tried to make a home made version of the brach's candy with the brown/white/pink sectioned square. She wanted me to eat it in front of her to see how good it was, but my face has always been a window to my soul and I must have looked ready to run. I eventually left and against my better judgment tasted the candy. It tasted terrible, enough to make you sick so I spit it out and threw it on the side of the road. I always seemed to see her after that whenever I delivered the paper, but she would just peer around the side of her window, glaring at me. I stopped giving her papers after a bit because she scared me and she never called and complained.

I know now as an adult that she was probably just a lonely old woman that tried to relate to her paper boy, but like the OP, she terrified me. I had a ton of older people on my route that I really enjoyed talking to, so it wasn't that. That woman just terrified me and I always felt that I dodged a bullet there.

Originally posted by justgeneric
Our entire lives are spent learning what and when to be afraid and HOW to react to the fear in order to prevent pain, injury etc etc even if it's a supposed pain or injury and not a factual possibility.

An aware human being understands what fear is and where it comes from and will not easily play the games of life where everything is fear based.

Tolerance and love.

What you send out comes back. The fear you feel when looking into certain people's eyes is your instincts warning you. You dont want to revel in the fear and allow it to grow. Follow your heart and try not to think selfishly. Try to figure out why your feeling this fear, especially if this same person keeps coming into your space and bothering you. If needed remove yourself rather than trying to control this person. Send love to this person.

There are different sides of people in the spiritual realms. In other words, there are different types of aware people who have different ideals. (that should be common sense) Empathy and other spiritual abilities gives us a very clear view into a person objections, ideas, motives ect. and what we see may scare us or delight us greatly. And others are just interesting or netrual. But, since they can sense us too.. Anyone see what im saying?

Being aware is like turning on a giant spotlight and others can point us out especially easier. Because we are extending our engergies out, like flexing a spiritual muscle for aware humans.

But more importantly, people that have energies that do not feel right or disturb and drain us are just people who we need to stay away from if possible. If your normally a gentle and loving person, you will notice how quick you feel angrered, offended and sickened by certain people. That is an attack and some of those people do not understand this.. It is their engery that is very low. Or in some people's cases, the energy is too high and it will disturb you then too. Welcome to the start of the universal consciousness. Learn to trust yourself and its very important to follow your true heart of hearts. Be discriminative.

Hey now, iv been told my entire life that iv got 'that look' some would call it the 'dad' look.. I'm only 24, and not a dad I can just look at people and scare the crap out of them without trying, forget about it if I'm actually angry(men mostly, Iv only gotten angry with a few women... There's certainly nothing supernatural about me.. some people just have a naturally intimidating presence i suppose. Iv always been proud of this feat.. Its deflected more than a few potentially fatal encounters iv had with people and women have always liked me so yeah, nothing bad about it unless you're the one I'm staring down

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I agree...I've learned to manage my empathy and the auras over many years of practice now.

There were some on here that may want to re-read my original post (or not LMAO) but no where in there did I say the bus man's intentions of approach were sexual in ANY way...give me a big ole break K?

The point is that I am well within my rights to refuse to share my space with someone who disturbs me...or in the bus man's case makes me physically sick. So I should be a bleeding heart and suffer to be PC??? Uhmmm no. Besides the bus had more than a few completely empty seats he could have very easily sat on his own but seemed to only show interest in occupied areas. And it was not just women who reacted negatively to him actually most were male.

It was not a sexual thing at all...he KNEW he was a creeper. I mentioned him smiling before he got off the bus...it was not a pleasant smile it was likely the slimiest and most contorted smile I have ever seen. Definitely he was "wrong" as was everything he exuded.

You wanna let him sit next to you hey be my guest...but not me

Many people are susceptible to p others vibes and as was mentioned sometimes they are not aware they give off a vibe at all.

I try to be conscious of it but not ruled by it.

*sigh* This is a great post and I think the input has been quite good.

There's so much we still don't know.

Great info coming out of this thread

The last time anyone made me feel "intimidated" just by looking into my eyes, was when I was 12.

You grow up.

You gain wisdom and understanding,
which very often takes the place of fear.

The fear people feel is inside of themselves. You can make a mean face and cause people to fear. You can tell yourself you're "aware" of projecting your "energies", if it makes you feel special, that's fine, but don't call it "instincts" and rely on it, especially when another person's real "feelings" could be at stake. Once you jab a person with a stick, you cannot unjab them. It's gonna hurt and it's gonna leave a mark.

Originally posted by Sonya610

Originally posted by mmariebored
reply to post by justgeneric

 

I feel bad for the guy. You never know, he may have been tortured and harassed by "demons" and you just made his day a thousand times worse.
Some people think they know everything based on a "feeling" they get and they don't care who they crush, emotionally, to see to their OWN comfort.

If I thought the guy was being overly sexual, I would have told him to sit somewhere else too. But if he just seemed dark, thats different. He could be having a hard time and he doesn't need one more rejection.

Just to clarify, this is the post my comment was replying to.

Before people go getting all excited.

Cool thread.

I suspect what we have here is a combination of more than a single visual / emotional phenomena.

Socio-psychological displays of strength and aggression in some.
Mentally orientated Self reinforcement for a few leading to the first in my list.
'Psychic manipulation' with the odd one or two leading to the second.
Shyness in others.

... and even one account of a visual symptom of dissociative / Multiple personality disorder in the case of our gun wielding crazy.

All very good fun indeed.
However one stands out to me...

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Justgeneric,

A few quick questions if I may...

Boringly to start with but how long ago did you encounter this man, what time of day was it and what was the weather like at the time?
(possibly irrelevant yes... but please stay with me on this one)

How did you 'first' notice the man on the bus?
Did you personally watch him approach and board the bus or was it something else?
(A change in other people's attitudes for instance)

Do you remember if there was anything 'obviously' threatening with regards to his behaviour apart from just generic sliminess?

Did you look him directly in the eyes and if so was it then that you felt ill or was it simply something associated with his appearance or your perception of his appearance which made you feel poorly?
How long did it take you to begin to feel ill?

How did the Man appear to you visually?
Was there ANYTHING unusual you noticed about him with either his appearance or presence (and here i am interested in both)?
If there was something unusual about the man do you think that these characteristics were properties of the man himself or somehow related to your own perception?

What smell could you associate with your encounter with him?
If you did percieve some form of smell what would you associate it with? Would that association be emotional in nature or would it be an abstract/intellectual association?

What did its voice sound like?
Do you remember anything specific with regards to your hearing at the time?

Thank you in advance..


Yeah, you may have guessed that i have more than just a simple passing interest in this one.
I've been waiting for something along these lines to crop up for quite some time.

Absence.

Originally posted by justgeneric
but no where in there did I say the bus man's intentions of approach were sexual in ANY way...give me a big ole break K?

I don't think anyone accused you of saying it. I said it. Usually when strangers approach in such an overt way they want something. Sexual advances are the first thing to come to mind on a bus, and in my mind that would be the most annoying and intolerable. Though perhaps the guy was selling something, recruiting members for a cult, or even maybe a shy person that was trying to bust out of his shell by talking to strangers.

He obvously sought interaction with others on the bus for whatever reason. I would be wondering why.

Originally posted by Elemensa
Yes i can totally empathize with you there friend. Often when i lock eyes with some people they turn around in disgust ( am i really that ugly :puz

I know it seems sad but i try to avoid eye contact.

awww bless - i have that problem, kinda....see, I like good eye contact, I can't stand it when people beat around the bush and avoid it, because I find it rude... however, back to the point, lol! I get told off for locking eye contact, people don't like me for it, gah!

...oh well!

Thanks OP

I have had a few experiences in my life (now 47), and like you have had a rare experience every few years where looking at a person has caused all sorts of fight-or-flight responses in me.

I don't know if that is just my projection (that is, i'm experiencing my own deep-seated and denied fear, that is catalysed by the person i make eye contact with for some reason), or if it my Perception (I can read the other person's soul and see the terrifying darkness within). either way, (and I am open to a myriad of other ways), my response was to "get the hell out of there", as fast as possible.

Once it happened in the Metro in Paris, and i saw a rather rough-looking moroccan, i just caught his eye for a tiny moment, but that was enough to make my heart beat in my ears and a tremendous urge to RUN!

Another time was different, I was at London Gatwick airport waiting for a friend, and saw this small baby in the arms of a woman. Now I know I have seen a lot of scifi but this woman looked like a Bajoran from star trek (very flattened face, odd nose), and her baby, well tha was the weird thing, it looked like it had an abnormally huge head, like some boffin intellectual, and very very fine white hair. it looked directly at me. At that moment i felt all my energy drain, and I had to drive home, forcing myself to stay awake. I had to sleep for several hours after that (it was mid afternoon and I was in my early 30s - not prone at that time for an afternoon nap).

Those experiences were two of a few others.

anyone else had these experiences?

I do notice that when I am out in a crowd of people, that I do seem to generate a lot of stares and doubletakes. My wife and friends have commented on this on more than one occasion.

I get that "Rosemary's Baby" feeling, like everyone else is in on the secret and I'm an outsider.

Oddly enough (or perhaps synchronicity), I had just this experience last night at the grocery store. When it happened, my second thought was this thread.

Originally posted by KOGDOG

Originally posted by ...and justice for some
CUT... avoid eye contact and touching or just brushing up against people i don't know.CUT...

Eye contact is not a problem.... it's when "they" touch me that I feel sick. Are you a "child of God"? If so... then the "children of the Devil" will always know who you are and let you know who "they" are. There are different "gifts/talents"...
1 Cor. 12:7 "But the manifestation of the Spirit is given to each one for the profit of all: ... 12:10... to another discerning of spirits...
Does the above "gift" describe what is being discussed here?

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What?!! It's like you just threw up on the page...and want someone to decipher it for you...

OP, good post!!!

[edit on 16-9-2008 by daddymax]

I have one experience that sticks out to me on this topic. There was this guy who was friends with my father. He was a deacon I think and he was supposedly a "healer" and a claimed that "god spoke to him" and he "knows things", etc.

My dad invited him to dinner once, to discuss god,spirituality, etc. He blessed the house and tried to do his mind reading crap on me. I wasn't intimidated by him....but there was something about him that I just didn't like. It was his eyes. Something about his eyes just completely turned me off. My godmother got the same feeling. Some years later he ended up yelling at my father about him not "doing gods will" or something of that nature. My father never spoke to him again. He used to do healing seminars and eventually got kicked out of group for being to weird. Never heard from him again. I was just like, "Told you so".

I agree with the other posters who say to trust your instincts..... but don't drive yourself nuts with it.

it is called a protection mechanism of individual secuirty. Men or women stair at each other intensly when they fear or are concerned about any invidual that cross their paths.

I somtimes stair at people right in their faces to be scared of me so they understand that i am aggressive and voilent, I only do it to those i find who will say somthing to me or may do somthing to me.

When you have a fear of those starin at you, you put you rhead down, however when you do this, this acknowleges to the oppsite person you are scared of them and that they can contorl you.

So, you need at times if possible to stair back so show they can not take contorl of your mind which woulc make you fear the them.
In doin so you become a target.
It is not advisable to stair at people coming out of your home though because that will cause conflict.

Originally posted by Freenrgy2
I do notice that when I am out in a crowd of people, that I do seem to generate a lot of stares and doubletakes. My wife and friends have commented on this on more than one occasion.

I get that "Rosemary's Baby" feeling, like everyone else is in on the secret and I'm an outsider.

I get this all the time myself!!! There is nothing strange or out of the ordinary about the way I look either. I'm pretty plain....not extremely good looking...not ugly either. (I think HAHA!)

I do wonder what generates this type of response from people. I also get it from young kids and babies.

I get approached by strangers a lot too. They just want to chat me up most of the time. At parties usually the person who doesn't know anyone, or is very shy will come talk to me. I always thought of it as people just thinking of me as a "safe" person to talk to, if that makes any sense.

I can also flip the tables and make people run for the hills if I want to. Especially if I'm in a bad mood. A lot of it must be about body language.