The Colonel's pissed.

So, ok, everything was goiing as well as it could be when I get this email. Guess from who. My best friends' (a girl) boyfriend. WTF! Its a joke email about Bush since he knows I hate Bush.

But, I'm pissed that he got my email inthe first place---which I know he got from mina, the girl. In any event, I respond to him with "How the hell did you get my email address?" But, after that I was a bit cordial b/c it was my best friends b-friend.

In any event, I wasn't expecting a response---but I got one. he's talking about how everything is wonderful and they had an afternoon stroll this past weekend and crap like that and I should come with them next time.

WTF! LIKE I GO ON FRIGGIN AFTERNOON STROLLS! WHO THE HELL DOES HE THINK I AM! I REALLY NEED TO SMACK HIM UPSIDE THE HEAD!HIS MONKEY ASS SHOULDN'T EVEN BE SENDING ME EMAIL!

WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE!

Originally posted by Colonel
So, ok, everything was goiing as well as it could be when I get this email. Guess from who. My best friends' (a girl) boyfriend. WTF! Its a joke email about Bush since he knows I hate Bush.

But, I'm pissed that he got my email inthe first place---which I know he got from mina, the girl. In any event, I respond to him with "How the hell did you get my email address?" But, after that I was a bit cordial b/c it was my best friends b-friend.

In any event, I wasn't expecting a response---but I got one. he's talking about how everything is wonderful and they had an afternoon stroll this past weekend and crap like that and I should come with them next time.

WTF! LIKE I GO ON FRIGGIN AFTERNOON STROLLS! WHO THE HELL DOES HE THINK I AM! I REALLY NEED TO SMACK HIM UPSIDE THE HEAD!HIS MONKEY ASS SHOULDN'T EVEN BE SENDING ME EMAIL!

WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE!

I'm not exactly clear on what the problem is here. Do you not like this guy or something? Or do you like your best friend a little more than you'd like to or something?

I mean I don't know you or them personally so I can't judge character or anything, but it seems like you're getting kinda pissed over nothing.

It seems to me that he just wanted to send you a joke email about bush. He probably really likes the girl (your best friend) and realizes that if it is to work out between the two of them in the long run, he'll need to be friends with you as well, since you and her are so tight. Think about it, it's very difficult to be with someone if you don't get along with their best friend, family, etc.

Chill, I get this alot since my best friend is a guy...the females he dates usually try to befriend me. I tolerate it, but like you I find it annoying. I can't understand why they think I'm supposed to be buddy-buddy with them because I'm best friends with him. I just nod and smile. So basically don't get ya boxers in a twist. If your best friend is anything like mine--you won't have to deal with it that long. Just let him kiss your ass for a few brownie points. No harm.

CF you got angry just cos he asked you a question.:bnghd: Cf you gotta chill out more

Sounds like an irritiating E-mail to me. However most emails are irritiating.

Colonel chill out man. The boy friend is trying to be nice to you. You should give him a chance. I am not saying you should become best friends but give him a chance.

Originally posted by ilovepizza
Colonel chill out man. The boy friend is trying to be nice to you. You should give him a chance. I am not saying you should become best friends but give him a chance.

Exactly CF you shouldnt blow your top dude!

Drunk, who is CF??????

CF is Colonel Fury as he is called on other message boards.

Colonel goes to other message boards. How dare he betray ATS j/k colonel

Whoops slip of the tongue should have said "used to visit":bnghd:

Originally posted by mOjOm

I'm not exactly clear on what the problem is here. Do you not like this guy or something? Or do you like your best friend a little more than you'd like to or something?

I mean I don't know you or them personally so I can't judge character or anything, but it seems like you're getting kinda pissed over nothing.

It seems to me that he just wanted to send you a joke email about bush. He probably really likes the girl (your best friend) and realizes that if it is to work out between the two of them in the long run, he'll need to be friends with you as well, since you and her are so tight. Think about it, it's very difficult to be with someone if you don't get along with their best friend, family, etc.

Well, the thing is me and this girl used to hang out ALL the time---until I got married. Then, she started to hate my wife who inturn hated her but they'd never met. It was pretty hard to deal with.

Then, the next thng I know, she gets this new geeky guy and starts hanging out with him ALL the time. OK, i'm pissed at that. Now, I haven't seen her in 4 months and she lives a few blocks away.

My wife is happy that I don't see her tho.

We need the rant forum back.

ummm..Colonel aren't you always pissed??? seems like you're mad all the time.

but I think you might be just feeling a bit jealous here. If you wife doesn't approve of your best friend and hasn't even met her yet, and you haven't seen her in months then I would have to say she is no longer really your best friend.

the b/f is just checking you out, he wants to make you sure you are not his competition in any way. You can certainly understand why he would feel threatened wouldn't you?

but if you are this girl are really best friends and would like to continue your friendship, I see this as the perfect opportunity to do so. Your wife might feel different to this girl if she meets her with her b/f. And she will also feel better of the situation if she sees that you are not jealous of this girl's b/f and are actually trying to be nice to him.

Originally posted by Colonel

Originally posted by mOjOm

I'm not exactly clear on what the problem is here. Do you not like this guy or something? Or do you like your best friend a little more than you'd like to or something?

I mean I don't know you or them personally so I can't judge character or anything, but it seems like you're getting kinda pissed over nothing.

It seems to me that he just wanted to send you a joke email about bush. He probably really likes the girl (your best friend) and realizes that if it is to work out between the two of them in the long run, he'll need to be friends with you as well, since you and her are so tight. Think about it, it's very difficult to be with someone if you don't get along with their best friend, family, etc.

Well, the thing is me and this girl used to hang out ALL the time---until I got married. Then, she started to hate my wife who inturn hated her but they'd never met. It was pretty hard to deal with.

Then, the next thng I know, she gets this new geeky guy and starts hanging out with him ALL the time. OK, i'm pissed at that. Now, I haven't seen her in 4 months and she lives a few blocks away.

My wife is happy that I don't see her tho.

Hmm, you want, I can take care of him.....

Originally posted by Colonel
Well, the thing is me and this girl used to hang out ALL the time---until I got married. Then, she started to hate my wife who inturn hated her but they'd never met. It was pretty hard to deal with.

Then, the next thng I know, she gets this new geeky guy and starts hanging out with him ALL the time. OK, i'm pissed at that. Now, I haven't seen her in 4 months and she lives a few blocks away.

My wife is happy that I don't see her tho.

That is pretty typical of how it works though. Jealousy can be a sneaky little bastard sometimes. Even when there is no reason for anyone to feel that way, it often creeps in anyway.

Another thing you have to figure on is the fact that any one person can really only be devoted to just one other person at one time. That is just basic math and percentages there. Someone gets to recieve the higher percentage of your attention, which means all the rest must therefor get less. You've made your choice in choosing your wife and now your Best Friend has to adjust. Your wife should actually quit the whole jealousy thing since she has you, but ya know how that goes.

Your friend now has a void that was once filled by you though. So while it may suck that she's not around much, you can't really blame her too much, she's just trying to find someone to help fill the loss you once filled. Out of respect for each other and the lives you both are choosing, you really only have one choice which is to take a step back and be like a silent partner until things find a comfort zone. If you're lucky, eventually everything will become stable and your friendship can still be a part of your lives. However, for that to happen, everyone will need to get along with everyone else at some point. I wish you luck. Try not to let it cause more trouble than is needed.

I suppose you all are right but I prefer SpittinCobra's answer, altho I cannot entertain his suggestion.

I can't understand why they think I'm supposed to be buddy-buddy with them because I'm best friends with him

Worldwatcher's exactly correct....he's sizing you up, maybe even subconsciously....

Originally posted by Gazrok

I can't understand why they think I'm supposed to be buddy-buddy with them because I'm best friends with him

Worldwatcher's exactly correct....he's sizing you up, maybe even subconsciously....

Well, I don't know why. We've already met. I'm better looking, more muscular, smarter, more laid back---hell, SHE even told me he was a geek! The only reason she even landed this dude was BECAUSE I got married.

I mean, he ain't bad, tho. I could deal with him outside of her but SHE explicitly told me that she doesn't want that.

Originally posted by Gazrok

I can't understand why they think I'm supposed to be buddy-buddy with them because I'm best friends with him

Worldwatcher's exactly correct....he's sizing you up, maybe even subconsciously....

Even if he is, who cares? If that is in fact the case then it's just his own insecurity that is the cause of it and his efforts will only result in him wasting his time and energy for no reason. Colonel has already made his choice and sealed the deal by marriage to his wife. So unless there is some cheating going on in secret here, Colonel doesn't pose a threat to the relationship between them. If this guy continues thinking so and becomes a jealous idiot, fighting an invisible enemy, it will only work against him anyway.

In fact, it may very well be that he likes this girl a lot and wants it to go further. He might just be checking out the possible pitfalls which could arise as a way to ensure he doesn't get hurt later on, should he pursue the relationship further. This could just be smart thinking on his part. As anyone who has been in a serious relationship would agree, it's always a good idea to do a little planning before throwing caution to the wind, only to find yourself heartbroken a short distance down the road.