Glamour Magazine: 8 sex and love things men are right about

1. When it comes to sex what's done is done.
2. Abandon a sinking (relation)ship.
3. More sex does lead to better sex.
4. You don't need to talk everything to death. (

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5. And sometimes it's fine to be completely quiet.
6. It's OK (and, dare we say it, a good thing) to check out other people.
7. Video games can bring you closer. (who wrote this freakin' list?)
8. It's sex, not the Psychic Network.

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My comments in parenthesis, I'll leave the rest alone for now.

Peace

Very interesting list there Doc. I agree 100%, except for this one..

7. Video games can bring you closer.

What the hell?
Closer to divorce. Period.
Video games are the one thing I would not tolerate. I'm sure there are THOUSANDS of women who would agree. The moment a man replaces his woman with gaming, is the moment she replaces him.
Enough said.

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and thus why internet porn is so popular.

But your right AD video games should not come between people in a relationship. Video games should be used sparingly and quietly enjoyed when someone is allone or when a woman is out shoping or getting a pedicure or manicure or her hair done or a day at the spa or out tanning or having a ladies night out.

Certanly us men should be more sensitive and not play video games.

THe woman I am seeing ...I dont play video games but she got a bit upset when I got my amateur radio room fixed up with new carpet and goodies.
Repaired my antennas too. I am on the air..world wide.!!!

The look was like..your going to spend more time with your radios and computer than with me.

So I said I would compromise...I would give up my radio room...if she gave up Oprah, Dr Phil and the others..Maury Povich too!!

She said..ok...

I said, first I want her to take a lie detector test !!!

I am not into jumping through hoops for a womans insecuritys.

It works both ways..not just one.

Oh..I dont think a whole lot of that list of the OP's post. I also dont think alot of Glamour magazine.

Thanks,
Orangetom



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awww lol, see this is why men who love to game need a woman who does too. I am one of those rare females who is all for gaming.

My husband and I play video games together often and it has only helped bring us closer. It's more interactive than say watching a DVD like vegetables, not saying a word to each other. We talk, laugh and just have fun. It's great.

I also like to look at it like this - The more time YOU spend with your man the less he will with someone else, hence it is important to take an interest in his interests ... and vice versa of course

Originally posted by orangetom1999

Oh..I dont think a whole lot of that list of the OP's post. I also dont think alot of Glamour magazine.

I agree orangetom, I am not a woman who buys into the garbage that is beauty magazines. They are more often than not full of utter nonsense.


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wait hold up AD, it's very possible to be a gamer and be in a relationship... that's like me saying i wouldn't tolerate a girl doing something she would like to do when i'm not with her, like when she's doing her nail's or playing with her hair in front of the mear or something

stop hating

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Thank you ImJaded...gives me hope to know that there are women out here that dont buy into this stuff from these magazines.

But I must be as fair as I can here...I find Maxim and GQ et al..to be no better.

Thanks,
Orangetom



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Originally posted by Roland Deschain
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wait hold up AD, it's very possible to be a gamer and be in a relationship... that's like me saying i wouldn't tolerate a girl doing something she would like to do when i'm not with her, like when she's doing her nail's or playing with her hair in front of the mear or something

stop hating

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I see the flip side of the coin there buddy..
and it's not about doing something you like, and allowing her to do the same for equal time. Like I'mJaded pointed out, it can work if they both like to do it.
I'm talking about those men who do nothing else, some even without a job, they just game all day and half the night. Like teenagers they are.
You aren't going to keep a woman that way.
Roland, I'm not hating the playa's just hating the game.
Do you guys even remember what you did before video games were mainstream?

:shk:

Awww..Love #7 - Man and I play games together all the time, in fact we met on a popular MMO and have been toegther for almost three years now.

Any hobby that you share can bring you closer though. We just happen to like gaming.

* logs out for couples raiding*

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Ok AD, i can agree with that. I think it's safe to say that if you're older than 25 and still gaming heavily w/o a job you have a problem. I thought you were speaking on all gamers, even the light ones.

I'm one of those gaming nerds that you're talking about. The ones that play video games as often as they can, and for as long as they can, least wise I used to.

I have some very strong beliefs about the entire gaming and dating thing.

A good woman is easily a thousand times more important and enjoyable then any video game EVER. End of story.

This doesn't mean however that video games should be cut completely out. They are still a viable source of recreation.

Basically, video games are good in the proper amounts, depending on what kind of video game it is. MMORPG's like World of Warcraft need to be kept in check more then others because they do have a tendency to swallow your time up.


On the other side of things, I can see why some guys choose video games over girls. Video games can be much easier to deal with, and WAY less complicated.
I suppose they see things this way because they've never really been in a good relationship before, or just don't want to take the risk.

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Originally posted by Dr Love

4. You don't need to talk everything to death. (

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Funny

I had one of the IT guys in my office fixing my computer the other day, he wanted to know exactly what problems I was experiencing, so I told him, and then he said...ok I understand now.... and I kept talking.... and he said.... ok I understand now...and I said...Ok, I'm a woman and I'm talking too much.....I'll shut up now

BTW
He said I was a wonderful woman and he liked me very much he just needed a minute of quiet to think

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Ummmmmmmmm.
My woman is a gamer chick and we get along great?

lol lol Jensouth,

Years ago I was with a woman and I was attempting to locate the problem in here AM/FM cassette player. I had all my tools out in her car and attempting to pick the broken pieces of Cassette tape from out of her player. She came and sat down in the passengers side and proceeded to go on talking at a good pace. I was trying to concentrate on my labors. Finally she got up in a huff and said she would be inside when I finished.
She did not seem to comprehend that I am not a guy who multitasks. I need my concentration time and space when doing certain kinds of work. If you cannot help in some manner...with the task..dont say anything and definitely dont try to distract.

To me this is an attempt at hijacking. Taking my concentration and trying to substitute my beliefs and value systems with her's and for her ego needs.....no matter how innocent it looks and appears on the surface.

Another time at work in the middle of the night..graveyard shift. We had a woman working with us. We were using a special tool called a Hy Torq.
This is a very powerful tool with a short range of motion. It is just that within this range of short motion it is very very powerful and used to torque up nuts and bolts to thousands of foot pounds of torque. If not used correctly, knowlegably, and in a safe manner it is also a dangerous and deadly machine. A woman was working with me and a younger guy. It is difficult to properly and safely set up this tool. All she had to do was hit the button when we told her to do so and the machine would do the rest. So we would torque one and then grunt and groan as we set up the next bolt and nut to torque to over 2,700 foot pounds. We had done about five of these things, had built up a good head of steam in our efforts, and were making good progress. But she had gotten bored just pushing the button and proceeded to begin talking..about who knows what. Talk talk talk talk. and more talk talk talk talk...while we were grunting and groaning setting up the next one.
Jensouth..this is the kind of machine ..that when you operate it...everyone needs to be on the same page...and paying attention..safety equipment on.....or one can get badly hurt or killed. You'd better dammed well know what you are doing in setting it up and be very sure when you give the command to "Go!!"
I finally looked over at her between grunts and groans of setting up...and simply called her name..and said.."Shut up." I looked at my other mate and he threw his hands up and said..nothing.
The job took a different more serious tone the rest of the night. Now mind you Jensouth..I could have been more diplomatic...but I am not generally like that when grunting and groaning in my difficult labors..sometimes you just have to be focused...no substitutes acceptable or accepted. I was the team leader on this job and responsible not only for this job but everyones safety. I dont mind a bit of lightness and levity on the job however this job in this tight hole took alot out of one. But she was not very diplomatic nor subtle when attempting to substitute her needs and requirements for our dangerous tasks in which we were all involved.
Sometimes you just have to draw the bloody line..not because she was a female..for I have done this with males too. I'll cut them off and in the blink of an eye when they try such nonsense.

I do not socially function well like this and when doing certain kinds of work. I have no intrest in it. Thats just me...it is the way I am... I make no apologies for it.

While at times I can look back on it with some humor ...at the time it was anything but funny.

Thanks,
Orangetom


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You know Orange Tom, unlike some women, I seem to know when I'm talking too much. I know it's a problem we all suffer from, and I will gladly try to be quiet..unless I'm mad, then forget it That's when I talk the most! I'm not above talking to myself when I'm all alone....talk, talk, talk

It seems this list was written by a man for men. I happen to agree with most of the list (not the gaming, though). It's been my experience as a female that if you adopt the attitude mentioned in the article that you're "not acting like a woman". ???!!!
If I let my man have quiet time, he gets nervous; asking "what's wrong? are you mad at me?" LOL. I just don't happen to believe that every moment needs to be filled with sound. If there's nothing to be discussed, enjoy the silence. I don't know why that makes men nervous when they obviously don't want to hear a woman yammering all day.
When I'm trying to repair something around the house and a guy comes up and starts offering advice (unsolicited and unnecessary), I just hand him the tool(s) and let him do it. I'd much rather go fix a glass of iced tea and some sandwiches than crawling under the house with the spiders to wrestle with some rusted sewage pipe. But hey, if their testosterone level makes them better qualified to wrestle rusted sewage pipes, may the best man fix the toilet.
Men also don't expect (or like) the same attitude from a woman about sex that they exhibit. If you leave with a "thanks for the snack" attitude rather than insisting on cuddling, having pillow talk, etc., a man will get defensive and insecure. They want their "report card" and it better be "A+, baby".
Unless a woman is also into gaming, that one can be a huge relationship killer. My ex is 52 years old, lives at home with his mother and spends all his spare time with RPG's. He spends his visitation weekends teaching our son to be a gamer because he can't find anyone his own age to play with him. Pathetic, really. I guess gaming could bring a couple closer together if they didn't have any kids that needed ignoring.

LOL LOL LOL,

Gets tool kit ready for Whitewave.. a large glass of iced tea as well!!!

Blink my eyes too!!! Promises not to talk her to death while she flashdances me through my maintenance problems.

I dont know..I am just not into gaming and RPG I think it is called.(Role Playing Games??) I reckon I live and work to much in reality to care for this nonsense. Games are ok with me...as they can often tell you alot about how a person thinks, values, and will react. I am just not into alot of that artificial stuff as a lifestyle.
I hear the guys at work speaking of a game called EverQuest...I think it is that game. I am not sure if it is a RPG or not. When they go down this rabid trail ..I disconnect..go somewhere else....not intrested.

I remember workking on some hydraulic valves in the overhead of a of a special compartment on a nuclear submarine. The guys standing watch in this room were monitoring specifically the status of the Nuclear Reactor. The whole time I was in there working...they were talking about what I later learned was a role playing game called Dungeons and Dragons. The whole experience was to me very strange for some guys monitoring a reactor. Left me with a weird feeling. NOt sure why...probably because it seemed they were more attentive to talking about the game than the reactor status.
Makes you folks feel warm and fuzzy ..doesnt it!!??

I am not intrested in Bush Gardens, Kings Dominion, or Disney World. To me they too are RPGs. Nothing there that I cannot learn or experience from the web.

You know..I used to want to take a trip on an ocean liner...you know...the Love Boat and all that sort of stuff. Then I worked on some of them in this shipyard...cured me quickly of the Love Boat virus.

Women yammering does not make me nervous. I just leave as I dont care to hear alot of it unless they have something important to say. Same thing with a bunch of guys talking about sports gods and Phat Yams while drinking suds...not my cup of iced tea. No thanks. I'm gone when I hear this drivel from a bunch of guys.

My limit now days is a game of chess once in a while.

Men also don't expect (or like) the same attitude from a woman about sex that they exhibit.

I dont think this applies to many of the women now days. They are very aggressive and very much like a man in this department. They are actually taking alot of the work and risk out of the chase for many men. I would say that many of the men now days dont know enough to know the difference in what you are describing Whitewave. The women are very aggressive. I have determined that for many of the younger women ...sex is thier greatest asset. Outside of that many of them dont have any other real skills. Expenses..yes..real skills no. Hence the aggression in this department.

Thanks,
Orangetom