My girlfriend wants to be a stripper...

Before any of us can give you a really honest answer, post some pictures of her in a stripper attire and we could give some better advice.

All I have to say is: There are thigns money can't buy

Originally posted by Perfectenemy05
My girlfriend of 4 years is talking about becoming a stripper. We had always talked about it because of crazy amounts of money should could quite possibly make. She is ok with it, and I am about 90% of with it.

What do you guys think? Would you ever let your significant other partake something like that? We are not hurting for money, but she goes to school, and currently works full-time and is totally stressed constantly. This is a job where she (and I) could live with more money in our pockets, and she could make her own hours, be in great shape, and raise her confidence.

Let me know what you guys think.

[edit on 8-4-2008 by Perfectenemy05]

never date a stripper... ever

Hey, Perfectenemy05

I think I may be in somewhat of a similar situation to yourself. My girlfriend occasionally does modelling and has recently applied to Playboy and a couple of other well known magazines in order to become a model for them.

My personal take on this is: she's wanted to do this well before me, it means a lot to her and she's got her heart set on it. I honestly couldn't deny her it and live with myself. Obviously, there is something of a gap between posing for a professional photographer and working a pole in a nightclub, but I think there are enough similarities.

The only advice I would really give is to make sure your girlfriend is looking to work at a reputable place. Relatively speaking, of course. Some strip joints are little better than preview prostitution rings, whereas others make it very clear that there is a look but don't touch policy.

I would guess you've got a fairly good relationship since you've been together for for years, so I would suggest the best thing to do would be to help her attain this and support her. And if you feel the green-eyed monster coming on, just remember - they can only look, but you also get to do much more than just touch

Hope that helps!

If your prepared for her to "CHANGE"... probably for the worse.

Ends dont justify the means. Doesnt that you have the cash its how you got it. Sorry to say man though strippers are at the bottom of the social ladder above hookers. But each to their own....just becareful a lot of bad stuff happens in those places. i used to see this girl who was a stripper she was a wild one...had a few skeletons..

[edit on 15-6-2008 by q_ball]

you like her grinding her bottom on another mans you know what. Well if you can live with her getting other guys turned on on a day to day basis it is your choice. But personally I would never be a sucker to choice like this.

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I had a girlfriend once that was an ex-stripper, which is ok because someone's past is their past... but your current girlfriend wants to *become* a stripper, and you're 90% peachy with the idea.

Dude.

Get your head checked.

Seriously.

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are you cool with her cheating on you? because she's going to.

this isn't a deal where "well maybe she will give into temptation...blah blah blah" this is a deal where your girlfriend is willing to take her clothes off for other men and you are willing to let her. in fact you're basically pimping her out.

not all women cheat. but in this situation, yours will. so just keep that in mind.

if that isn't a problem for you though, i say it's a splendid idea. make sure you're getting your cut of the money though because you'll need it. for when she leaves you for some 300 pound 50 year old used car lot owner she meets at her job. and for all that penicillin you're gonna need.

Originally posted by Slothrop
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are you cool with her cheating on you? because she's going to.

I love the idea that your giving out advice since your dating two girls and stringing one of them along because your not man enough to tell one of them that you've already made up your mind as to which one you want to be with..

www.belowtopsecret.com...

Your something else LOL

Slid a credit card between her butt-cheaks, if she accepts she's ready to be a stripper, if she declines, then she's not. That's what I do.

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Why are you even asking this question? Of course you should have her strip! They don't make as much money as they like to let on, but it's a lot more than she'd make doing any other job that requires no actual qualifications.

Hell, while you're at it, I suggest that you get her to get into the escort business and get yourself a job as her bodyguard. They make real money.

This is hands down the craziest thread I've ever read. Like everyone on here is saying this man's girlfriend should take her clothes off and mimic (and possibly perform) sexual acts for money. This is absolutely ridiculous.

No man who loves a woman would ever, ever, EVER want her to do anything like this.

As for her, as the OP says she 'wants' to strip...There are 3 kinds of women who become strippers. Those who will die without constant attention, those who will die without a constant stream of easy money, and those who can't live without both.

This whole situation is messed the eff up.

Just an update, she never became a stripper...not due to anything that either of us felt...it was just a topic that got lost among the millions of other issue dictating our lives.

However, reading all of your comments I think you all very much misunderstood our relationship as a couple and our intention.

Like I said in my OP we are not hurting for money nor are we swimming in it. We are just "stable" I guess you can say.

It would have fit her agenda, she would be able to have more disposable income, and she would have been fit and confident.

The possibility of her "turning tricks" or whatever you guys kept spouting is determined on how strong our relationship is...and dont ya think it was pretty strong in the first place for us to be talking about her possibly partaking in a job that is cliche for being a dirty, sick, drug infested place?

Second, what is this huge disgust for strippers? I am not defending them on any sexual level, all I am saying is for a young, confident woman this job (with the right mindset) could be a very good way to earn a living for a short period of time. Now, I will agree that any woman wanting to make it a career does have issues both on the inside and outside. However, for a temporary gig it seems like a pretty sweet one.

"How could you take your clothes off in front of other men and dance around"

I think its extremely beautiful watching (non sexual) a woman on stage like that, even tho I know a lot of guys go there for the sexual stimulation.

Every club I have been too I have never witnessed any sexual favors being performed, nor have i seen drug use (i know it would be hard to tell) but every girl I have talked to seemed sober except for maybe a couple border lines.

All in all it seems like there is no sexual abuse, no super heavy drug use (not anymore than the guy in the next cube popping pain killers all day) and no girls turning tricks.

I think a lot of you seem to have a warped perception to what goes on in those clubs...but thats just my opinion

And stop asking for her picture...for crying out loud

Originally posted by Perfectenemy05
I think a lot of you seem to have a warped perception to what goes on in those clubs...but thats just my opinion

And stop asking for her picture...for crying out loud

I think most of the replies here where spot on! I have no doubt that most strippers are hookers! Look man, I know much of what goes on in these places. And to think that doesnt go on is a bit naive. I would say about 20% of those girls are not being paided for some type of sexual encounter.
Yet the other 80% are lazy hoes who will not work a normal job for money.
Its to easy and to fast to make 300-1000$ bucks a night giving hand jobs, or Blow jobs for easy fast cash.

Your fooling yourself if you dont think it happens.
And I defend most these girls in here. But to defend them, they must know that most those girls give them a bad name. And I stick up for the girls who have the strenght to put up with this realm.
Its all perverted and warped to begin with. And its something set lose upon this earth to lower the standard.

I dont go into strip clubs anymore.. But in my younger days when I was in a rock band.. Strippers and I went hand in hand..
Ive dated more than my fair share of them.. And all of them ended up on drugs, and ended up becomming hookers.

And um you kinda asked for what you get here man.. You say your girlfriend was thinking about being a stripper.. Guys ask for her pics..
Thats something you had better get use too!! LOL

Otherwise just scrap the whole damn thread, and say it was a mistake for you to even bring it up.

Its a can of worms you opened up.. Deal with it.

P.S- Dont take it the wrong way.. You and your lady seem like nice enough people, I wish you luck and stuff.. But most people in this world are not as warm and caring as most..

[edit on 2-9-2008 by zysin5]

Just wondering what came of this situation. As I now face the exact same one

Come on man use your common sense!

Ask yourself: If you just met your girlfriend today and you knew nothing about her (assuming she was a stripper already), would you want to date her?

I for one think she is the luckiest future stripper ever!
She'll be able to make cash, party, salt away her earnings and live off of the dOPe that sits at home every night thinking this is a good idea. Eventually she can slip into prostitution and drugs, declining into an angry manipulative witch that will pawn all of your stuff while you are at work and blame you for pushing her into something you can never understand. Next she will steal your wallet and run off with a slimy pimp named Lenny who will use her until he finds somebody elses girlfriend to take care of.
After all of that you will have about six months to get your credit cards paid off and get your checking account back into the black and one day there's a knock at the door. Your loving but now emaciated and angry girl with sores on her face will profess her undying devotion and say that if you REALLY loved her, you would forgive her. Besides it's really all your fault and you need to make it up to her.
Got any cash?


Run screaming man.

Run screaming