Murder/Suicide has now directly touched MY family! What will YOU do, when it touches yours?

Originally posted by FRIGHTENER
After reading about the tragedy in lightseeker's family, I have to tell
about the tragedy in my family...
On March 5, 07, my beautiful, young cousin (Bridget Ann DeCleene, 21)
was stalked, abducted by force, held over night against her will, and
shot to death twice with a 12 gauge shotgun! It happened in Sycamore,
Illinois.

Thats preety crazy i hope the guy gets it happen to him back have the found the dude u rekon?

Originally posted by FRIGHTENER
Oh, dear God!
I cry when I think of the horrors she suffered that night, ALL NIGHT, at
the hands of such a human monster, YOU KNOW????
No-one came to save her as she screamed for mercy; single seconds
must have lasted hours.......
When he was finished with her, (God help us all),
the 'man' who did this (robert bevington, 63) then set his place on fire,
and shot himself to death! We have been dealt such a devastating blow
by this cowardly act of spite, or lust, or evil, that it's hard to recover.

thats quit insane? to get over it or not to have to suffer he kills himself thats preety sad? but what happend to your cousin i cannot imagine thats very bad to be i nthat situation for anyone shouldent be there are some bad people out there what can we do? ay

reply to post by SaadAdam


Thanks for your input, Saad.

Stalking is one of those things that the law can't really do much about...
But I WOULD HAVE!!!

Just the thought of a sick old 'man' , slobbering over my cousin, makes
me come un-glued!

My beloved Pit-Bull, "Shredder" died just after Bridget was cruely
murdered;;; I like to think he's attacking that sicko, for eternity......
That dog of mine was FRIGHTENING! 85 pounds, all muscle & teeth!

Originally posted by FRIGHTENER

After reading about the tragedy in lightseeker's family, I have to tell
about the tragedy in my family...

On March 5, 07, my beautiful, young cousin (Bridget Ann DeCleene, 21)
was stalked, abducted by force, held over night against her will, and
shot to death twice with a 12 gauge shotgun! It happened in Sycamore,
Illinois.

Oh, dear God!

I cry when I think of the horrors she suffered that night, ALL NIGHT, at
the hands of such a human monster, YOU KNOW????

No-one came to save her as she screamed for mercy; single seconds
must have lasted hours.......

When he was finished with her, (God help us all),

the 'man' who did this (robert bevington, 63) then set his place on fire,
and shot himself to death! We have been dealt such a devastating blow
by this cowardly act of spite, or lust, or evil, that it's hard to recover.

Since I am very new here, I don't know how to add links, or qoutes, or
sources; but here is one: sycamorepd.com

Under "press center" 'Murder/Suicide investigation', and 'bodies in fire
identified'. Plus my friends tell me to just Google her name.

Because the Sycamore Police knew about this man stalking Bridget,
anger & blame were directed at them...and her father moved the family
to Aurora, to avoid this sick individual, but 'bevington' found her.

Nothing can fill the black hole in our family. Society does not stop,
for murder, the way it should.

It used to be something that happened "somewhere else"; or "to
someone else". Not any more.

Do you have a family member who is experiencing ANY type of
"wierd" advances, emails, phone calls, unwanted visits, or other abnormal
behavior from an outsider? if you do, then

TAKE ACTION NOW!!! Or you could end up very sorry, like lightseeker
and me.

As the family soldier, my kin thought it best not to tell me about this 'man'
who was stalking Bridget, because they were afraid of what I might have
"done to him". . . . . . .

All I can say to that is: yes, be afraid, for I feed a wood-chipper to make
my living;AFTER cutting it all up with a large chainsaw!

But that's just me. And calm as a cuke.

What might YOU do ? upon learning of such a person threatening your
loved one? Or as you gather, upon news she is "MISSING"? or when the
local detectives arrive to say "We need her dental records, for identi-
fication" ? Or when they say "Yes, her stalker is responsible for her
murder" ???????

Awaiting response; to educate myself on how to best protect my family.
I am Godfather to several children in my family, and would love to start
a group of like-minded Godfathers and family members, dedicated to
identifying and 'eliminating' threats like these to good families everywhere
ONE WAY or ANOTHER; ya know?

reply to post by FRIGHTENER


I feel for you from the bottom of my heart - many years ago my mother and I were stabbed and left for dead by a man not unlike robert bevington....we survived after weeks in intensive care but had to flee the city we lived in because the police were not given the authority to go after him properly - it was considered a "domestic dispute", an interesting euphemism for attempted murder- and he continued to search for us to finish the job...we moved clear across the country and started over anonymously - ...laws have changed somewhat since then but not enough to prevent tragedy and it is women who most often suffer the brunt of this kind violence....

My faith has been the saving grace in my life...so lean on yours, brother, and never let go....you WILL see Bridgett again and that is TRUTH....

hugs
realshanti

one other thing - the police told us that if we had used a gun to stop him permanently once he was inside our house, there would have been no charges filed against us....hindsight is twenty-twenty....so my advice to everyone is learn how to defend yourselves responsibly...become skilled and don't be a victim...

My family too has experienced this. MMurder/Suicide.
I have a pretty good idea what you went through, but how you felt is another story. We all bleed, but drain in different ways.

originally posted by: rcwj75
Now for my final view. Our society is to blame for people of this nature. We know they are sick twisted careless people, yet we make excuses for them, and society as a whole could care less...UNLESS...they happen to be or know the victim. Its amazing how Americans look the other way unless it involves them, then everyone else should jump to their aid.

this does not happen and is not true in my life. I too am a victim of murder/suicide but am treated as though I am the perpetrator everywhere I go. The police officers who investigated the case were very kind and compassionate to me to the point that I wanted to work for the police. I have interviewed for several law enforcement positions but I am ostracized for doing so. Can you tell me from your experience, are law enforcement adverse toward employing victims?

In this scenerio I'm sure many knew this scumbag was a danger...No I don't mean the family I mean just people.....its amazing how many know what people around them are capable of but don't want to get involved. We lost the true meaning of neighbors in most places and the true meaning of friendship....in America these days its all about "ME" and MONEY...after that MIGHT come family....we have lost our way to allow scum like this to walk free or to live at all.

I perceive that I am ostracized in many different ways because I am a victim. Society treats me as an outcast when individuals find out that I am a victim either because they think that I or the victims did something to deserve being murdered or they reject me in an effort to insulate themselves from the idea of murder/suicide. The idea that society is generally compassionate is false. There are compassionate individuals but they are few and far between.

I am religious, and love the LORD...and to forgive is a great trait...but very tough. Its an ongoing conflict in life to kill/punish someone who destroyed your world or harmed your family. Its moments like those that test faith, test morals, etc....

1) The only reason that I have survived my ordeals is because of my faith. I find solace in the fact that the family members who died were both saved. Whenever I find myself suffering, I am relieved of my suffering when I pray to God to send his love to my family members who I believe are in heaven. I know that the love that God showers them with is greater than any suffering that they experienced during their deaths because I, myself, have experienced that supernatural love on occasion.
2) Although I believe that I have forgiven the perpetrators, I still struggle with anger and resentment. I am relieved of that suffering though when I verbally testify to God that I forgive them. I thank and praise God that I don't have to avenge myself or my family members. God repays them better than I ever could. I pray that he does repay them and then I leave it at that. Those prayers relieve me of any desire to exact revenge. I also ask God to remind me to praise him every time I find my despairing over the ordeals.
3) I believe that victims experience mental, emotional and spiritual wounds as a result of the murder/suicide. Verbally forgiving the individuals responsible for the crimes and trusting God to avenge me and the victims has helped to heal my wounds. I still feel sorrow and anger from time to time but my feelings are fickle and are of no indication of my level of forgiveness. I believe the fact that I trust God to avenge me and the victims is the definition of forgiveness.