Steve-o needs some Help-o

I'd like to thank ya for the advice folks ....... I'm tryin' to do all this so I could be able to better my social skillz and have interesting "chats" with the person I care for alote ........ ya folks should know who I'm talkin' about

Originally posted by steve-o
ya folks should know who I'm talkin' about

SimiusDei???



Bro, you know you don't gotta be all "social master" and such when you call me.

Just talk to me like I'm Hector. That's good enuff for me.





Oh,



Wait




You weren't talkin about me huh?







I'm gonna go old school as hell here for a second....but....

just chillax

That should be good enough for the lady.

Jasn

reply to post by SimiusDei


Hahaahahaha..... pretty funny .... but ya know who I'm talkin' about "Hector" ....... I feel weird 'cause she's gonna see and read this stuff in the mornin' ........ but to be real with the rest of ya folks on BTS ...... I'm doin' all this for her, I tried to keep her "hidden" so it won't turn into the

reply to post by SimiusDei


'HECTOR Delectable' from Silence of the Lambs. lololol

Now I'm a sick puppy. roflmaooooo

~Ducky~

reply to post by SpeakerofTruth


I'm not suggesting he be someone he's not. Just that he imitate some of the behaviours that an outgoing person exhibits. It can be as simple as giving the cashier at the grocery store a big smile and chit chatting with them while they're ringing up your purchases. After a while, it becomes comfortable. Not everyone is born with good social skills, but they can be gained through practice.

Fake it til you make it can work - I'm living proof. I still need time by myself and a break from people or I can get a little wiggy, but I more than hold my own in social situations. I've gone from being the shy person that doesn't talk to anyone to the person everyone wants to invite to their party because they love me and my fun, outgoing personality.



[edit on 15-12-2007 by Duzey]

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Are you a sagittarious or libran...

(Did I just ask that??!?! give my head a shake!)

~Ducky~

reply to post by TheDuckster


Leo, RAWR!

And a fairly typical one at that.

reply to post by Duzey


AHH... a fellow 'fire child'...BRAVO!!!

I'm a Sagitarius...hmmm..what's the date now..looking at my bottom right screen: Dec. 15/07.

My Birthday is on the 17th.

Two days time.

~Ducky~

reply to post by TheDuckster


It's still the 14th here.

My sister is a Sag too, just a couple days after yours.

Happy birthday in two days (three for me)!!!

reply to post by Duzey


Thanks Babes....

Wish your sister a FABULOUS day from me!!!!!!

~Ducky~

reply to post by steve-o



This may sound really simple steve-o, but its rock solid buddy.

Be yourself, dont give a *circumvention of censor* about what anyone thinks of you.
Talk if you feel like talking, listen if your a good listener, crack a joke if your good at remembering jokes.
Pick a subject that you know a lot about but dont hog the conversation, let others add their thoughts.
Smile and make and hold eye contact, dont fidget.
But most of all, be yourself, you've proven to be a good friend to many people here, do the same in RL and you'll be sweet mate.


mojo's got your back, remember that.

reply to post by mojo4sale


Mojo?
Remember a while back I was telling you about 'pod-casting?'

What is the best way to podcast.

Audacity?

If someone could direct me to the best links out there, I'd cough up a good podcast by tomorrow.

Steve-O.

Let me try to find out the best way to podcast...and I swear to you buddy...I'll show you HOW easy it is to overcome your shyness.

Mojo? What say you my friend? Ask around...whatever...tell me the best/easiest way to podcast!

~Ducky~

Originally posted by Duzey
It can be as simple as giving the cashier at the grocery store a big smile and chit chatting with them while they're ringing up your purchases. After a while, it becomes comfortable. Not everyone is born with good social skills, but they can be gained through practice.

Very good advice, Duzey. Steve-o, listen to Duzey here, this technique really works. It's what I did some years back. Now I can't help but make small talk with anyone, even those at the bus-stop.

oh Steve..my best buddy..what can I say here.
Lots of good advice has already been given to you.
I will tell you this though.
Before i became a member here, I was very shy, hardly spoke to anyone..and I definitely have no great friends to speak of in real life.
That being said,testing the waters here on ATS, watching how people act virtually, was a start for me.I know Jasn is going to jump my ass for saying that.But it's true.As for AccessDenied being just an online persona..not true.Lori is AccessDenied and vice versa...there is no difference from me on ATS and me in Real life..except I have far more good friends and "Family" here.I like that.
When I went to New York, it was so easy for me to talk with Bill, Mark, Stephen, lombozo, and the other Mods that were there, as well as taking the entire trip with Ducky..because I had spoken with them online first.It broke the Ice.
You have already taken the step of breaking the Ice Steve.Just go with the flow, and always be yourself.You are loved for the way you are, and always will be.
When I see you In New York..you won't be shy.Not around me.Iam going to give you a big hug, then put my arm around you,and drag you into a restaurant for lunch.I want to hear all about how school is..and see some of the sketches you haven't posted.We will have fun..I promise you that.
And I'll take pics to prove it!
Love ya buddy..
Firestar

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Your a Angel.

( edit coz i couldnt even put three words together without stuffin' up. )





[edit on 15/12/07 by mojo4sale]

Originally posted by Duzey
I used to be pretty shy and self-conscious.

My advice to you is to 'fake it until you make it'. Just act like an outgoing person would. It'll feel weird at first, but it will become second nature after a while.

Ditto. The other technique I heard of is "adopt a persona."

Now... it may sound weird, but a lot of movie stars/tv stars/public performers (like Renfaire performers) are VERY different in private... and the reason this is so is that they've sort of invented a "persona" that's the "public them."

It can't be TOO different from you (in other words, for me a successful alternate persona would have to be a 'friendly, nutty professor' -- I simply can't "pass" as a 'dumb blonde' because I slip out of character after about 15 seconds.)

Think of a tv/advertising/movie/cartoon character who's like you but has some of the characteristics you like. Then ask yourself "what would XXXX do/say?"

Might not work for you, but it does for some others.

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And you are a gem..my sweet little
love you too Mojo!

reply to post by AccessDenied


Aww....thanks AD ........ I promise ya that I won't get shy ....... I'm tryin' to do all this to better myself as a human being so I won't mess up when I'm talkin' with my girl SS ........ see ya later Firestar !!!!!!!

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Sweet! Then we will have a great time!!!

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Yeehee !!!!! I'm lookin' foward to that in '08 ...... I'm gonna try bein' less nervous when I talk to poeple ......... ...... if only I were "normal" ...........