Not sure what to do with the gf

Again, thanks for the replies and I apologize for not commenting on every one of them but, I did read them all.

And since Sunday, when I pretty much told her to chose, I haven't seen any of the things that bothered me.

Anyway, no more jealousy and no more getting upset. I understand what you all mean by it just makes the matter worse. So, that is out the window.





[edit on 26-9-2007 by JelloFaust]

So how's it going?

Reading the posts you made and looking between the lines a bit, let me ask you...

What would you do if you found out she was making it with the ex?

It's something you should probably consider.

First, have you asked her directly - 'did you...?' If not, then I suggest that you don't want to know what you -already know-, inside.

Good luck, and remember, there are lots better chicks out there who will not lie and cheat on you.

Hmm, turns out that they went to dinner last night, again.

And if she was making it with him, I'd have done what I did last night a lot sooner.

She ended up telling me she wants to just be friends. Hmmm. I told her that I love her, but not as a friend, as a partner. And that she either wants me as her partner or she doesn't. She either has to be 100% or nothing. That I'm not going to be her friend, because it will just hurt me, because I don't see her as a friend. So, "No, I will not be your friend."

Then she went on to say that she wants to not have to tell me what she does, who she sees et cetera. In other words, she wants the single life again and still have me there when she wants a boyfriend, or more simply, 'friends with benefits'.

I told her no, I still don't want to be your 'friend', it'll just give me false hope.

I go to sleep and she texts me this morning telling me to give her another chance, that she won't continue hurting me. (Sounds like a crock of s***) and that she loves me as her partner. I told her, "But you don't want me as your boyfriend." and she told me because I don't let her do what she wants to do. I told her that I can't compromise on the basics, and no, I can't be your friend.

So... I'm doing pretty good

Thanks for the help, guys and gals

Well at least it is a choice one way or the other, and that is good. Sorry you couldnt salvage it but sometimes that happens, it will take time but youll get over it. But seriously you do need to learn to trust in my opinion and be less insecure, this to will come in time. And in closing just a final thought "You have to love yourself before anyone else can love you."
Good luck man and nothing but the best in your future relationships.

Wow, nice resolution. I don't think that girl was worth your time and worry. Like someone above me said, there are plenty more fish in the sea, so don't sweat it. Plus, you get to enjoy the benefits of being single.