I do not have bi-polar, I do how ever suffer from post traumatic stress disorder[untreated]. I left my wife of 12 years 2 years ago. She has severe
Bi-polar.
We have 3 kids my oldest son has been diagnosed with add and a learning disability. I don't agree that he had add but he for sure has a learning
disability he turns 14 in Nov and he can barely read even though enormous effort has been made to teach him. His behavior is IMHO normal yet they
want us to give him a add treatment. He is not very popular in his own peer group, except for the girls, but he really gets along and easily makes
friend with adults. He is very mechanical I have already taught him how to take computers apart and but them back together, these things come very
natural to him, as a child we world give him a broken vcr and a screwdriver and have at it boy this would keep him occupied for days.
My second son has been diagnosed with bi-polar plus ADHD since he was 8 he is now 12. Now unlike his older brother "book" learning for him has not
been difficult he has been reading well since he was 6 or 7, but socially he is a walking disaster. He really has no friends he acts out buy invading
peoples personal space and person. He touches people in there no no spots. Its like he gets so excited when he is in group settings that he can't
control himself, he has acted out this way since he was a toddler. He is overly silly, Im sure its a attempt to be funny so people will like him but
its almost like he can't control what he is doing. He is not mechanical like his brother, he is very artistic and talented. He is also the most
stubborn person I think I have ever met. He gets into power struggles with teachers at school, I know where he is coming from because I did the same
thing when I was young. Basically if the teacher is not entertaining enough he gets bored and refuses to do his work, we have problems like this for
the whole school year then the next year he gets a good teacher and he does great. He is medicated but at this time Im not sure what he is on, the
doctors change what they give him every few months, I will explain why I don't know what he is long more later in this post. His hand writing was
terrible, it was like he would retrace every symbol he would write till his words almost resembled a bar code some line were faint some were bold.
The doctors put him of Abilify and within a week his hand writing went from scribbling to almost perfect. However it seems that every effective
treatment program he went on after some time had little or no effect, so then he would get a new program.
Ok my wife
She is diagnosed with severe bi-polar disorder, she is on SSI disability, and she is pending a divorce with me. She is walking
disaster zone, she is a screaming fit waiting to happen for no apparent reason. For example we arrived at our house with another couple, w were
laughing and having a great time, we got out of the car walked threw the front door, walked threw the living room into the kitchen and by the time she
got to the kitchen she was red-faced and screaming like a banshee and throwing things around for No reason other than the kids were excited to see
her. A complete and total change in mood in a 10 second time frame. I have hundreds if not thousands of these stories about her. Im gonna tell of
some history between us, in 1999 I left her because she was cheating on me. She is always trying to start her life over, she honestly believe that
her happiness lies with "others" or "somebody" so its easy to see why she is pending a divorce. I took her back some 6 months latter, my main
reason for doing this was the kids deserved some normalcy in there lives. Now in Oct it will be 2 years since I left her, she was having a affair
with a 30 something year old guy that could never hold a job and when he did work he worked at gas stations making $7 a hour, and for some reason she
thought he could provide her with the lifestyle and security that I provided her...lol this was a delusional joke. I staid with her about 2 years
longer than I should have because I knew as soon as I left her life with this person would fall apart and she would hound me about getting back
together. Now thank god she has turned lesbian and she lives with a x-con meth junky creature that if I posted a pic would harm your computer.
However the guy she cheated on me with has a girlfriend she is also one of my wifes best friends/lover......is now living with me...
my wife
cannot deal that my life has completely flourished since I left her....no matter how much money I made while we were together we were always broke
could barley able to pay bills have fun...ect..ect because of her idiotic way of living life....I get about 25 calls a week from her and about 80% of
these calls she is screaming at me, most of the time there is no reason for it. To the point that I have shied away from relationships because I feel
she would ruin them. The girl thats living with me I consider a friend and thats as far as it goes....and she knows and has lived life with this
situation
ok my point in all of this is that bi-polar sucks, there is no cure, there is only treatment that only is effective for a short time. Major studies
are needed to understand this illness. I can't write how much I have suffered because of the person and illness, the burdens I have had and continue
to bear. So if all the doctors want to try something new with her...by all means go right ahead, my own sanity and personal well being is at stake
had has been since the first day I met her.
sorry about rambling on
[edit on 5-9-2007 by LDragonFire]