He only dates pretty white people.

You know, there's a lot of caucasian men who will only date Asians too. A man likes what a man likes......doesn't make him a bad person or racist.

Remember that saying about fish in the sea?

Peace

dang i thought all men loved asian broads!!!! anyway ugh shallow dudes it sucks there are so many out there. but sooner or later they will learn. looks go away ..a killer personality doesnt!
find someone else!

That's an extremely crappy situation you have there. I can remember my school days and how much it would hurt me when the same thing happened to me. I had a best friend that happened to be my object of affection, with many things in common as well. Yet he'd go for my friends and not me. One day I found out the reason. He didn't want to date me because I looked like a 'lesbian'.

..is there a stereotypical look associated with lesbians? I had short hair, if THAT was what he was referring to.

Anyways long story short I grew up and look different. He regrets it, and frankly, I believe I am too good for a man like that.

It's kinda like trial and error. I have met many shallow people in my life, but I've also met many wonderful people. Let him have his hamburgers and eat them too. He's missing out on the tastiest food in all the land. STEAK.

You = steak.

I will start this out by saying, yes guys are shallow.

If you two have been friends and never sent any signals o eachother, there is no reson for him to think of you otherwise. (Common you're a woman. You know his feelings by his body language. This is not the interent you are talking about.)

You asked him a simple question and he gave you a simple answer. Yes that could be a very hurtful and depressing answer. He is not being rude or hurtful, because he is not thinking of you the same way as you are to him.

If you to have dated than the ball was rolling and he just didn't communicate his lack of loyalty.

Don't forget guy are not like women and women are not like guys.

Once I got that through my head, things got alot better.

That was my view of it.

Good Luck

The type of women men like, the type of men women like are hardwired into our brains at a early age. The first girl you ever go doey eyed at as a kid, the freaks who enjoyed their spanking from mom a little too much.

How many of us have seen the long haired, ugly, weirdo who would look better as a whino dating the supermodel?

The race thing is hardwired into a lot of people by their parents. Blacks should only date blacks, white-white, asian-asian, etc. Or maybe the gentalmen just prefer's blonds.

Personally I'm no gentleman, I prefer redheads, and brunetts.

PS All men love Asian women that's goes into the DNA of asian women. They were designed by god for sin. But they also seemed to be designed by god to love idiots and not me.

[edit on 3-5-2007 by Royal76]

Originally posted by Royal76
The race thing is hardwired into a lot of people by their parents. Blacks should only date blacks, white-white, asian-asian, etc. Or maybe the gentalmen just prefer's blonds.

Personally I'm no gentleman, I prefer redheads, and brunetts.

I would have to agree on both statements!

Dear OP,

This is neither the first nor last time you will run into this phenomenon. People are fickle creatures. Roll with the punches. Chances are something better is heading your way.

I think you've answered your own question about this guy ~ he's shallow.

Chin up. Onward.

RRex13

I'm white american but have always thought that asian women are very beautiful. I've never had the chance to date an asian woman because they are far and few between in my area. If I had a choice I would choose an asian woman but it's too late for me now. We all have are preferance and I'm quite picky as I like slim women of about 100-120#'s tops.

Originally posted by Paresthesia

Why? Why? Whyyyyy??

Because some guys have a certain type they go for, I myself limit it to just attractive females 21+

BUT

Life sucks, what can I say?
You could get invovled, maybe be happy for a few weeks maybe months, then its over and you feel like crap, and you wasted time, but I suppose it could be better than regretting it, I mean if you try and you get burned, you might learn, wow that was a really gay rhyming thing going on there.

Um... I haven't posted on this site in quite awhile, and came in today
just to have a look around with no intention of posting, until I read this
thread. So, I hope you don't mind if I offer my two cents:

There are a lot of well meaning, passionate, and compassionate opinions/
advice posted on this topic. Something which you usually don't see in
a lot of online forums.

However, I noticed that there is one thing no one seems to have commented
on, unless I missed it, and that's the fact that:

Ya' didn't TELL HIM!! You didn't TELL him how you feel, so how on earth
is he supposed to know? I mean, you're best friends, etc... AND! you had
the opportunity to tell him, and didn't take it. This man is obviously not
a mind reader, and most guys don't think to consider what we may think
is the obvious.

If you REALLY care for this person, as much as you say you do, and you
haven't already, then you need to TELL HIM!!

Life is too wonderful to be skulking around in some emotional shadow,
afraid to let someone know you love them. So what, if he doesn't respond
the way you hope, at least you will have told him, and you will know once
and for all where you stand.

Girrrrl! Please! Snap out of it, and go get yo' man! *wink*

Ok, first of all hugs to you. I know it hurts, however just a piece of advice my mother gave me and I shared with my daughter; lovers/boyfriends come and go, you will have several, good friends are forever. It may be that he doesn't realize how you feel or he may value your friendship too much to risk losing it. Only way to find out is to ask him. If it turns out that you two are only destined to be good friends it is still a good thing friends, good friends are worth their weight in gold.

If he truly is that shallow then you are far better off without him. You are a beautiful smart young lady. I've no doubt that you can do far better then him. You're young yet there will be Mr. Wonderful for you and you'll be better able to appreciate him after this.

Now, go ask him but be prepared for either answer. Good Luck.

Paresthesia I am sorry to hear that your friend dose not feel the same way you do. But in my experience the people of the opposite sex who I choose to be friends with aren't people that I would consider being anything more then just friends with.

If your friend was so shallow would he be friends with you ?

Which women I find to be attractive has nothing to with reasoning and some of the time there personality's. Expect for physical appearance Asian women are the same as there Caucasian counterparts and yet I am simply not attracted to Asian women. People don't get to chose who there attracted to.

Originally posted by Dr Love
You know, there's a lot of caucasian men who will only date Asians too. A man likes what a man likes......doesn't make him a bad person or racist.

Remember that saying about fish in the sea?

Peace

You've gotta take that answer in... It's coming from "DR.LOVE" From all people.. A guy likes, what's a guy likes.. LMao.. It's a crack!

PS ~ A previous poster has a good point. Nothing ruins a good friendship faster than sex.

im white and no offence but i fhis anything like me asians just dont do it for me . asian girls are some of the coolest people to hang around but just because they are cool and you get along with them doesnt mean you want to have a relationship with them.

Let's try looking at it from another view.

I know of a chinese girl who would only conisder marring a chinese male with a culture similar to hers.

The reason was because she loved her culture and was most comfortable with someone who shares her culture.

There is nothing wrong with that, just someone who is most comfortable in a surrounding that they know, love or is faimilar with.

Me? I am more advantures, and I dislike all human cultures, some more than others, I would not put culture or race as a criteria for choosing a mate.

Originally posted by MrRobarto
im white and no offence but i fhis anything like me asians just dont do it for me

. asian girls are some of the coolest people to hang around but just because they are cool and you get along with them doesnt mean you want to have a relationship with them.

This is exactly the type of person that's causing me to write rants like this; the white people that generalise all asians or all blacks or all hispanics. We are people too! We have our own personalities.

"asians just dont do it for me"

What the hell?! We're not dogs. How can you possibly say that every asian on the entire planet 'just won't do it for you'.

Shouldn't one be able to look past the physical? I just don't get it! It bothers me that if I had the same exact personality but was born with rounder eyes, bigger ass, bigger boobs, a skinnier nose, thinner lips, blonde hair and a couple shades of skin tone lighter, I'd be getting the priveleges that my white friends are getting.

If I truly love someone, I will look past their ethnicity, culture, physical appearance. I don't care if they're black, white, or pink with blue polka dots. I just don't care!! Everyone's human!! Am I being too difficult? Or am I just too open-minded for my own good?

I know you can't help who you like, which is why I said this rant was more for my benefit than anyone else's; I'm not preaching acceptance. I'm expressing the view from the side that's being discriminated against. Now I'm understanding more that you can't help discriminating me. So I suppose I'll just have to be content with that.

--

Thank all you people again! I totally feel better. In fact, I'm not even worrying about it at all. I guess acceptance and freeing one's mind of prejudice comes with maturity. Being a minority can be tough when your peers' maturities are that of Pre-K students.

:shk:

Originally posted by Paresthesia
This is exactly the type of person that's causing me to write rants like this; the white people that generalise all asians or all blacks or all hispanics. We are people too! We have our own personalities.

..and not all the 'white people' make generalisations about asian, hispanics or blacks. We are people too! etc.

"asians just dont do it for me"

What the hell?! We're not dogs. How can you possibly say that every asian on the entire planet 'just won't do it for you'.

It's not unusual for people to reduce the opposite sex to being no more than animals. Lots of men do this.. thats why we always hear 'bitches' on the radio.

Shouldn't one be able to look past the physical?

Yes.

I just don't get it! It bothers me that if I had the same exact personality but was born with rounder eyes, bigger ass, bigger boobs, a skinnier nose, thinner lips, blonde hair and a couple shades of skin tone lighter, I'd be getting the priveleges that my white friends are getting.

Is the boy you like sexually attractive at all..? Or are you just interested in his personality?
Why are all your white friends blonde with boobs and arses and skinny noses? Only 6% of whites are naturally blonde. You really shouldn't make generalisations about white chicks. Maybe you should just get brunette white friends.. it sounds like he only likes cheerleader types.
[not that all cheereaders are blonde of course.. ]

I know you can't help who you like, which is why I said this rant was more for my benefit than anyone else's; I'm not preaching acceptance. I'm expressing the view from the side that's being discriminated against.

If it makes you feel better I have a male [white] friend who's with an asian girl and a blonde friend who is being 'discriminated against' [subjective] even though they're perfect for eachother. The asian chick seems to be just going with him to annoy her father.. her parents have refused to meet him because he's white.

Alls.. 'fair' in love and war.

[edit on 5-5-2007 by riley]

Oh, sorry. That was my bad. I didn't mean to stereotype all white people as being prejudiced; I meant people who discriminate in general.

I guess you're right.

Perhaps it's for the better.

Originally posted by Paresthesia
Oh, sorry. That was my bad. I didn't mean to stereotype all white people as being prejudiced; I meant people who discriminate in general.

I was just being pedantic as some here have been more serious on that issue than others. Some people are shallow. If it's not your race it'll be your eyes.. If it's not your hair colour it'll be your cup size. You might just have to wait for him to outgrow his blonde fetish.

On the other hand you could just go blonde yourself. Most are dye jobs anyway.