Thinking of someone than seeing them shortly after.

I have been experiencing something odd the past few years... I'll start to think of someone who I haven't seen for a long time, than all of a sudden a few days later I will spot them in the most unusual spot, for example, like pulling up to a stop light beside them, seeing them in a grocery store, pulling in behind them at a fast food restauant. It kind of makes me crazy in a way because it makes me feel I have some sort of control in the direction my reality goes. So now I be careful of what I think about. If I start to think of something I don't want to happen it makes me worry because I am afraid it will happen... for instance, if I start to picture my girlfriend being with another man I know I try to force than thought away, but I seem to have trouble with it, especially that thought. It bugs me so bad to the point where I'm nervous about her ending up with this man I know. Why do I think of this non-stop? why won't it go away? It really does bug me because some of my visions have some true. Does anyone else experience this?

I experience things like that every know and then, and when it happens I start thinking the same as you, then I think about it and realise that just because it happens sometimes doesn't mean anything - it's simply coincidence. I mean I was thinking about a girl I used to sit with in class when I was 10, and then a few days later I saw her in a bakers - but she lives locally, so just because I happened to see her after I'd thought about her doesn't mean I can make people appear. You see what I mean?

I think you just need to sit down and think about it all rationally and you'll realise you have nothing to worry about with your girlfriend.

If you thinking about your GF being with another man (cheating) the chances are is that it's already happened, or will happen.
Maybe not the same person, but still.

I don't know about other people, but I tend to "know" if something happened, or is going to happen, you just feel/know it.
Pretty hard to explain... if there is a male "friend" that she talks to all the time, and always says that he's just a "friend", look into it.
Migth be nothing, or migth be something.

I'm not trying to get on your nervs here, just being straigth up.
Always assume the worst, I guess, that way you won't be as surprised if something does happen.

nevertheless, good luck to you!

And like the other poster said, it could be just a coincidence.

I had a few ex girlfriends in my past that ,through my dreams, I knew were going out with other guys behind my back.If you start to get more than one nightmare about seeing her with a strange guy out some place then that is a good sign that something similar to the nightmare has really happened.I have seen the proof of this more than once.Another unusual "coincidence" that makes me wonder about the power of the mind.Just a few hours ago I had the strange urge to seek out music videos by an old group called Heart.So I went to youtube and was totally obsessed with trying to find a certain song but I really did not know why or which song I was searching for until I found it and it was called "crazy on you".I have not heard that song for about 15 years but I just had to heer it for some strange reason.Then about 1 hour ago ,I was watching TV.A really funny comedy movie and all of a sudden that same song started playing in the movie which totally freaked me out! This was a song that I really liked when I was a kid too but I have not heard it for so long,somehow I knew ahead of time that it would be played on TV and no I did not see any commercials earlier so it was really a strange coincidence.

I just want to add again, before you make the guy even more paranoid, that he is probably just over thinking things. If you have problems with your girlfriend talk to her about it, you won't feel any better for bottling it up.
I know things like this can play on your mind like hell, but if you talk things out it will get better


Remember, keep it rational!

Stuff like that happens to me a lot, but mostly with my family especially my sister. I'll be sitting at home, or heck I can even be at work, and it'll pop in my head that I need to call my sister. No particular reason just need to call her. So I call her and she answers with, "How did you know to call?" Or it'll pop in my head that I need to call my mom and when I call her she'll say "I can't even talk about you without you calling!" It works in reverse for my sister too though. If I think about her for a minute she'll call me. As for friends and people I know from high school, I'll usually get a feeling I'm going to run into them a day or two ahead of time. It's quite handy when I know I'm going to be running into my ex! I make sure not to wear my lounging clothes to the store on those days.

Now, when it comes to visualizing your gf with another guy that's where it gets tricky. It's possible that you just have an overactive imagination when it comes to her. I get mental images sometimes of my hubby cheating on me, but I know for a fact he's not. So it's possible you're just tormenting yourself and you need to quit. However, it's also possible that it has happened or will happen. Without knowing you and your gf and seeing how you react to each other on a daily basis, no one on these forums can tell you which it is. They can guess, but ultimately they can't possibly know since they don't know you in real life. My suggestion is to talk to her and see how she reacts. I'm assuming you know her well enough to know if she's lying to you or hiding something, so why not just tell her that these disturbing images keep popping in your head and you want to talk to her about it. Then tell her you keep seeing images of her with someone else. See how reacts. Then talk about it and maybe you'll figure out why you keep seeing these images.

Well, think about all the times you were thinking about someone and didn't see them... Does it add up?

I've had the same exact thing, especially with a close friend, family members and thinking about someone you haven't seen in a while and then suddenly there they are! More often than not it's just coincidence, especially if you live in the same area where you'll bound to bump into each other. However I do think there is a case for this being more than just coincidence if it continually happens. We hardly know everything about how the human brain works so perhaps this is some untapped phenomenon.

As for your girlfriend, it's very likely that you're worrying too much since these other things have happened; coupled with your fears they're getting the better of you. If there is cause for concern and you're not satisified with what people have said then talk to her. If she's reasonable she'll be understandable and set you straight. I doubt you have anything to worry about.

Yes, it is very true I think too much, and yes I do live in a small town so some of it could just be coincidence, no need in stressing myself out over it!
What about unwanted visions and unwanted thoughts, why must we think of them, and why do we got to be tortored by them, wish I knew a way to get them out of my head! some form of meditation perhaps?

I've been trying to figure out the same thing... I've noticed though that if I try to fight the unwanted visions and thoughts they become stronger and I all but obsess over them, but if I just acknowledge that they are there and then move on they go away much more quickly. Perhaps you could try that?

That's just using your reality creation ability.

You think about someone and then completely forget about it. Your subconscious (except in cases of conflict with your conscious) will ensure that you will meet that person soon. It happens to me often to. Especially when talking to others about someone else. They just appear or call out of the blue.