Anorexics/Bulimics getting the wrong kind of Support

Originally posted by nextguyinline
The girls who post on this sites are caring people, and I would suspect, and expect, that if any person involved in the practices of the site, posts about a problem they are having with the practices, then the rest of the community will be there to give them the proper guidance to get help.

For example, a poster posts something like:

"Hi, I've been puking for 3 weeks now, and today I woke up with a splitting migrain that hasn't gone away. I feel weak, and lethargic and my gut is cramping as well."

I am inclined to believe that the community would tell this poster to go to the doctor. If the poster was doing this covertly, there may not be anyone to tell this too. In fact, there isn't. These practices are inherently done out of view and knowledge, of others who don't practice. These girls aren't proud, there ashamed of these practices. It's a vicious circle, and current philosphy on the matter is that these practices are an avenue of control. I'm getting carried away, so I'll end it here.

We need to balance the factors here. Should we protect the health of one girl, or should we allow thousands or tens of thousands of others to be enabled in their illness? In that light, it seems self-evident that as a matter of policy we can't allow this to happen.

Originally posted by nextguyinline
I am inclined to believe that the community would tell this poster to go to the doctor. If the poster was doing this covertly, there may not be anyone to tell this too. In fact, there isn't. These practices are inherently done out of view and knowledge, of others who don't practice. These girls aren't proud, there ashamed of these practices. It's a vicious circle, and current philosphy on the matter is that these practices are an avenue of control. I'm getting carried away, so I'll end it here.

The problem is if you read something like that then read what the other women were posting you would see that they do not tell the original poster to go seek medical treatment. But they themselves will support the person and tell them ways to try and help themselves.

The doctor is the last person that these young women want to go to. If they are found out they fear that they will have to go through rehabilitation. These girls have the insight to know that what they are doing is dangerous however they also know that if they are discovered in this cycle of self destruction they may be forced to go seek treatment and like annother poster said the psychologist will get buttloads of money and these girls will be no better off thain they are right at this moment.

it's sad to think about knowing someone that has gone through this that there are these communities out there giving this "thinspiration" to others. Giving tips like to use a spoon to encorage vomiting, and how to hide this from the people that care about them.

I have seen posts my ex wife has written which she tells of her dismay about a blogring member that has been found out that had to go to rehab. Instead of saying, I hope she gets the help she needs. She says "Lets all prey that she makes it out soon to come back to the group"

These girls don't want to get better untill that magic number is flashing at them from either the bathroom scale or the clothing isle.

I dont want to sound gay but guys suffer from this as well...In high school junior year I weighed 186 and when senior year rolled around I went all the way down to 130...no im an even 160...and plan to stay in the area...I thought that if I saw skinny girls as hot the would probably see skinny guys the same so I didnt eat for days at a time and ran about 8 miles a day to lose the weight...but Im over it now and am what I think to be healthy...by the way I am 5ft 11inches if you were wondering

Originally posted by Uisge Baugh
I dont want to sound gay but guys suffer from this as well...In high school junior year I weighed 186 and when senior year rolled around I went all the way down to 130...no im an even 160...and plan to stay in the area...I thought that if I saw skinny girls as hot the would probably see skinny guys the same so I didnt eat for days at a time and ran about 8 miles a day to lose the weight...but Im over it now and am what I think to be healthy...by the way I am 5ft 11inches if you were wondering

Thanks for the Reply Uisge Baugh, I know that this does affect men as well. Also it is just as dangerous. I don't discount men in this at all but it is primaraly a womans disorder. But yes men are affected.