I need some advise...

I met this girl who almost too good to be true. She's cool, likes sports, actually plays real video games RPG's, etc. She's quite possibly the hotest woman I have ever met. But she thinks she's average to plain. She has such a low opinion of her self that its kind of turn off.

I've told her how special she is but she thinks I'm full of it. I not sure how to go from here.

Help....

Are you sure that this girl isn't just fishing for compliments? Not accusing, just asking if it's possible?

Tell 'er I said, HOLLAH!










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and...

I dont see how to help you I guess just show her that you love her, do special crap for her and all that cheese whiz.


ps: GOT PICS?!?


haha i kid

No one is perfect. Enjoy the good parts of her. If there is a self esteem issue, maybe it will go away with time. You can be encouraging and supportive, but you can't make her change.

Are there any cultural issue at play here? Some cultures encourage one to be overly self-effacing.

Was she abused in the past? Past issues could affect the way she sees herself now.

Over time you might discover something that helps you to understand her feelings or behaviours.

I have the same problem. I couldn't fix mine however. She was a 20 out of 10, but she never believes me. I just learned to accept that she needs to be told how important she is to me every day, and that usually works. Just one thing, don't sound like you are saying it to shut her up, say it like you mean it, mine comes from the heart, and she loves it every time.

All girls are somewhat insecure about themselves. I wouldn't go so far as to say she's fishing for compliments because that just sounds selfish. More like ... she needs the assurance that you really think highly of her even though she might not think so highly of herself.

Thought there was something wrong with them. But this one is different. If she had a positive out look on herself she would probably be a model. Probably wouldn't want anything to do with me then though

The most I can get out of her is that both her parents are dead, she was raised by a bible thumping grandma.

I'm just trying to bring her out of her shell. She's such a good person she could be hideous and still be beautiful. She's a far better woman than I deserve.

Originally posted by Royal76
She's a far better woman than I deserve.

She has such a low opinion of her self that its kind of turn off.

Irony!