Abuse (control issues)

No problem..nothing to be sorry about..I can respect that you only talk about this with a selective group.

Thanks,
Orangetom

Originally posted by orangetom1999
No problem..nothing to be sorry about..I can respect that you only talk about this with a selective group.

Thanks,
Orangetom

Yes exactly, although I can say that the experience taught me a lot about dwelling on fear and hatred - and letting all of it go...

Originally posted by millerman
Angela

I think I know what you mean and maybe the word you were looking for was "handle"

Some women are kind of like a "wild child" and they need a strong man that can handle all their.... stuff! ;-)

Sort of like a "taming of the shrew" type deal

But the make-up sex is always worth it trust me!!

LOL - yep.
It's like I want him to be better than me, stronger, more capable... but at the same time, it has to be an even ground - like we each have our strong points that compliment one another. I need to be needed, but I don't want a 'needy' man. I want a man that can put his foot down and keep me in line, yet I don't want a 'controling' man.
I guess I could go on and on... but bottom line, I guess I need a person like myself. Strong and yet willing to give - but give in strength not weakness.

Originally posted by AngelaLadyS

Originally posted by millerman
Angela

I think I know what you mean and maybe the word you were looking for was "handle"

Some women are kind of like a "wild child" and they need a strong man that can handle all their.... stuff! ;-)

Sort of like a "taming of the shrew" type deal

But the make-up sex is always worth it trust me!!

LOL - yep.
It's like I want him to be better than me, stronger, more capable... but at the same time, it has to be an even ground - like we each have our strong points that compliment one another. I need to be needed, but I don't want a 'needy' man. I want a man that can put his foot down and keep me in line, yet I don't want a 'controling' man.
I guess I could go on and on... but bottom line, I guess I need a person like myself. Strong and yet willing to give - but give in strength not weakness.

Well, sounds good hun where do I sign up??

:p

LOL, thanks for offering to sign up. lol
I wonder what would happen if a woman put up a list of 'wants' and 'don't wants' and a list of questions for men to fill out....
OH! I guess that's what that whole singles dating thing on-line is all about. Too funny!

Anyone ever try anything like that?

Originally posted by AngelaLadyS
LOL, thanks for offering to sign up. lol
I wonder what would happen if a woman put up a list of 'wants' and 'don't wants' and a list of questions for men to fill out....
OH! I guess that's what that whole singles dating thing on-line is all about. Too funny!

Anyone ever try anything like that?

I don't use chat or online services to meet people, I prefer the challenge of meeting people IRL.... (plus I don't trust women on the internet )

Yeah I agree with millerman, the whole idea of meeting people online is sort of, well, pathetic IMO. It takes away from the challenge and thrill of doing things the usual way. Plus like he said, I wouldn't want to end up with aunt butch, even if we did match each other on those 29 proven levels of compatibility.

Men who control women are so far out of control themselves they think that having control over another person makes them strong and gives them that bit of control that they lack. These kind of men actually seek out relationships where they are the more dominant party-this is all relationships, be they friends or partners.

To remain fair, women can fit this catagory too!

Agreed Westpoint23, plus a woman can string you along endlessly while you try to negotiate a meeting.... and anything you do or say online can be used against you later!

It's just not a good scene for men IMHO, as the women have all the power....

I was kind of thinking that if you have to go oneline to meat someone ... well, there might be 'something wrong'?

I mean, I meat people every day. I can't go to the grosery store without at least one conversation with a stranger.

But still wondering if anyone here has ever done it? (And what's the point if the person is 1/2 way across the world.)

I was kind of thinking that if you have to go oneline to meat someone ... well, there might be 'something wrong'?

Well maybe I'm being sexist here but if you're a normal looking girl or above then you shouldn't have any problems, but for some guys, well, it can be a bit hard. I know some guys that look normal, but they just don't have what it takes to meet someone face to face, personality wise that is.

Originally posted by AngelaLadyS
I was kind of thinking that if you have to go oneline to meat someone ... well, there might be 'something wrong'?

I mean, I meat people every day. I can't go to the grosery store without at least one conversation with a stranger.

Exactly Angela! It's much more fun and gratifying to go out in public and flirt with the attractive people all around. It's just a matter of getting past your shyness and learning how to make it a fun and adventurous thing... and then you don't need to rely on the internet any more, which as I mentioned can be somewhat of a minefield for men....

Originally posted by WestPoint23
Well maybe I'm being sexist here but if you're a normal looking girl or above then you shouldn't have any problems, but for some guys, well, it can be a bit hard. I know some guys that look normal, but they just don't have what it takes to meet someone face to face, personality wise that is.

True about the women.
As far as the guys... I think the biggest part is not being afraid to come up to us. That would probably translate into confidence.
The personality? I'll admit I like many different personalities. Even the jerky player types... I like the challange.

The personality? I'll admit I like many different personalities. Even the jerky player types... I like the challange.

Oh we jerky player types like a good challenge once in awhile too, especially if we cant get what we want from a certain female. I have to admit, sometimes I enjoy the rush and challenge of going after a girl who is playing hard to get or who is... what's the word, hmm... strong willed, instead of just getting with someone who offers up no resistance. Notice that I said sometimes, there come a point though...

Originally posted by WestPoint23

The personality? I'll admit I like many different personalities. Even the jerky player types... I like the challange.

Oh we jerky player types like a good challenge once in awhile too, especially if we cant get what we want from a certain female. I have to admit, sometimes I enjoy the rush and challenge of going after a girl who is playing hard to get or who is... what's the word, hmm... strong willed, instead of just getting with someone who offers up no resistance. Notice that I said sometimes, there come a point though...

LOL yep!

There's hard to get - and then there's impossible to get! That's the point where I tend to give up and move on.....

Ya know, I've never 'played' a game... weather it be hard to get or what ever. But
all men seem to translate my eye contact and smiling and good manors as flirting.

Originally posted by AngelaLadyS
Ya know, I've never 'played' a game... weather it be hard to get or what ever. But
all men seem to translate my eye contact and smiling and good manors as flirting.

ROFLMAO!!!

ALL women flirt, ALL women play the game (and men too)

It'd be pretty hard to hook up if people didn't!

ALL women flirt, ALL women play the game (and men too)

Once again we are in complete agreement here. The predictable "...what? I wasn't trying to flirt or give out signals..." is usually followed by a "uh huh sure" from Westy. Not saying women flirt all the time but they do flirt and sometimes try to be cutesy about it when you naturally respond in kind.

Try being married to a shellshocked Marine.

Although we have lots of love between us, let me tell you i have had to be strong all my married days to counteract the domination that goes on in my house.

Basically, i do what i want when i want and nobody can dictate what i can and cannot do. Talk about locking horns!!! I can out-yell, out-scream and outdo this sargeant anyday

I've learned to live my life one day at a time with someone i love but we get on each others nerves quite often. One thing is for sure. I cant dominate him and he cant dominate me. He's a Leo and I'm an Aquarian- total opposites.
We love each other...to death.

DG that was a funny post, I cant picture a Marine sergeant getting out yelled and out screamed by his wife without laughing. The military guys I know would kill if I were to say something like that in front of their buddies. But we all know it's true, in an argument, we cant win, it's best to cut our losses and start agreeing I say.


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