Why are guys so jealous?

I have a wonderful lady and I love her like crazy. For her birthday our female employees pooled some money and bought her a massage. I was happy for her, she does so much for everyone else and rarely has time to do things for herself. It's called "The Raindrop Massage", they use 9 different essential oils dripped slowly while being massaged. It must feel awesome.
As my GF was talking about it to her friends, most of them said "and Gary (me) is going to let you go alone for that?". To me it's a non-issue but these women knew for a fact that their guy wouldn't let them go alone and have a massage.
One of the women works at a video store and her boyfriend sometimes sits in his car across the street watching her just in case she gets too friendly with a guy customer.
What's wrong with guys these days? They're so untrusting and say and do such stupid stuff that they drive their lady away. And then they say "See, I couldn't trust her."

Guys, if your lady says she loves you give her some respect. Not trusting her and treating her like a child is just going to make her leave eventually anyway.
Then there are the guys that pretty much keep a woman captive, alienate her from her friends and family, don't let her do anything without him.... :bash:
Those ladies normally either leave, get beat up by him, or die by his hands. That statement isn't from any statistics that I read, just things I've observed going on around me.

Come on guys, lighten up. She's with you for a reason. Be her equal and you will have the best relationship you've ever had.

But on the other hand, I also know a couple where the lady beats the guy so bad that he cries. They're married but don't have any kids. He takes all of that and doesn't leave her.

I'm a guy, but I know I'll never understand guys.... LOL
Lets hear some comments......

Personally speaking that massage would have to be a no go, unless the person giving the massage was a female, sorry I may trust the woman but I’m a guy and I don't trust other guys. I know what I’d be trying to do in that situation.

As for jealousy over all, well I think its ok for guys to be a little jealous but not to the point of being an abusive control freak, you know the ones who lock up their woman and beat the ... out of them for stupid stuff.

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The GF of a buddy of mine had to get a dental operation which would require her to be drugged out (sleeping) for several hours. As soon as my friend heard that he was like "I’m coming in the room too." I was chucking when I heard that but its only natural, I can understand. What did he do? Sit there for two and half hours listening to his iPod.

[edit on 25-8-2006 by WestPoint23]

Well, for myself I would have no problem at all. If she is going to recieve a professional massage, do we really need to be jealous? Is this guy just waiting to score with your girlfriend whom he has never met?

Jealousy is a problem I don't have a problem with. I am comfortable with the fact my girlfriend loves me, and I know she would not do anything to hurt me. Naive? Nope, it's the simple fact that if she found someone else I would be the first to know.

If you can not have honesty in a relationship, don't waste your time.

If you can not have honesty in a relationship, don't waste your time.

Words I live by Chissler.....

WestPoint23,
The masseur (did I spell that right?) was a guy. My GF told me that she was able to relax more and get into the relaxation of it all because she knew she wasn't going to come home to a 50 questions session.
He is a professional, that's what he does to make his living. Do you really think he's gonna keep his job by hitting on his clients every day? I don't really think so.
Plus the fact that I trust my lady with my life. Like Chissler says, "If she's fooling around, I'll be the first to know.".

It is the truth though.

You need to beable to trust your woman, if you can not then you need to look else where. If you never have doubts, then your simply lying to yourself. But in the end of the day you need to know she is there for you just as much as you are their for her.

A professional massage, geting jealous, alittle too much in my books.

A private massage from a male maybe has grounds. Men you need to fight the battles you can win.

Men you need to fight the battles you can win.

Wiser words are hard to find.....