Issue with kissing...

ok, my girl smokes and I don't. Anyway she decided to french kiss me and I HATE french kissing and on top of that she's a smoker....I mean how do I tell her I don't want to kiss without being mean and without making her feel bad for being a smoker? I wouldn't care if she smoked or not, I just don't like the french kissing and the fact that she smokes doesn't help one bit. I just feel if I tell her straight out she'll think I'm lying about it...because she's a smoker. But I just find french kissing disgusting. :shk:

goodness lol this is not going to be easy, You are just going to have to be honest and gentle,

Your going to have to come up with other ways to make her feel close to you,
Kissing after all can be used as a way of expression,

Maybe your going to have to meet her half way?

Could you get her some strong mints? Tell her that her smoking is really not doing your kissing life any good,

I think though all in all your just going to have to say that you dis like French kissing and have a darn good reason for why,

Good luck

Originally posted by laiguana
ok, my girl smokes and I don't. Anyway she decided to french kiss me and I HATE french kissing and on top of that she's a smoker....I mean how do I tell her I don't want to kiss without being mean and without making her feel bad for being a smoker? I wouldn't care if she smoked or not, I just don't like the french kissing and the fact that she smokes doesn't help one bit. I just feel if I tell her straight out she'll think I'm lying about it...because she's a smoker. But I just find french kissing disgusting. :shk:

Yikes! So you're basically telling her "Well yeah I love you and all, but I don't want to make love to your face any more"!

She'll probably be really insulted!!!

[edit on 5-8-2006 by DJDOHBOY]

how can you not like french kissing? how do you get in the mood more when making love? do you kiss when you are having sex. ? did something happen to make you not like it?


im out
-mindtrip02

Without going into detail I find the act of kissing filthy, same with the mating process. It's just filthy. Why not keep the face clean at least? How can anyone enjoy being exposed to a cesspool of bacteria and germs! Doesn't anyone read about these things? They're really nasty...

Originally posted by laiguana
Without going into detail I find the act of kissing filthy, same with the mating process. It's just filthy. Why not keep the face clean at least? How can anyone enjoy being exposed to a cesspool of bacteria and germs! Doesn't anyone read about these things? They're really nasty...

Well, if you think kissing leads to a cesspool of bacteria stay away from public toilets, doorknobs of any kind, restaurants, vehicles (your own or someone elses), stores, shoes, sinks (especially the knobs to turn them on), stoves, refridgerators, microwaves, etc., etc.

My point is you are exposed to thousands upon thousands of bacteria/germs on a daily basis. Kissing someone else is cleaner than grabbing onto the sink handles to wash your hands.

If you are that dead-set on not french-kissing your girlfriend then you need to be honest but gentle. And please come up with a better reason than germs. You can't breathe without inhaling germs. My husband has the same issue. He doesn't like kissing at all. But he knows I do, so he still kisses me we just don't make out. Perhaps that could be your solution too. Occassional kissing, but no making out.

Yea, you're going to have to face it. There are germs around you. Even now, while you are reading my post, you are breathing dead skin cells that are floating in the air. But yea, I know what you mean about the whole kissing somebody that smokes. My ex used to smoke, not that often, but still...anyway, for me smoking is the biggest turn off for me, and I just straight up told her that I didn't like her smoking and why. She understood me, but still kept on. You just have to take the bull by the horns and tell it how it is. Don't beat around the bush.

And be nice doing it.

[edit on 12-8-2006 by CalmStateOfMind]

Originally posted by laiguana
Without going into detail I find the act of kissing filthy, same with the mating process. It's just filthy. Why not keep the face clean at least? How can anyone enjoy being exposed to a cesspool of bacteria and germs! Doesn't anyone read about these things? They're really nasty...

Is your gf a bad kisser? A teeth-clicker or something? (I hate that, too. btw)


Would you like kissing if you and the partner disinfected first? You could both gargle with a high-proof alcoholic solution first, and kill of the bad germies.

Same with sex. A good antibacterial soap, lathering her up, running your hand gently, lazily up the back of her thigh. Brushing your shower-moistened lips against the tender nape of her neck, delicately kissing her collarbone . . . hands beginning to encircle her waist inquisitively . . .

Oh, um. Where were we? Yes, I think it might not be merely the hygiene issues that make you not like it. Is it something else, maybe???

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Tell her you're gay. She'll understand.

Lol. Good idea. Remind me of That movie with Mel Gibson in it where he can hear what women think.

this post seems fake to me for some reason.. he said she smokes about 10 times.. he says he doesnt care if she smokes, but is offended by her smoking.. this doesnt add up

is your gf hot?...do you want me to do the french kissing bit for you?

hey..im here to help anyway i can.

Originally posted by dr_strangecraft
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Same with sex. A good antibacterial soap, lathering her up, running your hand gently, lazily up the back of her thigh. Brushing your shower-moistened lips against the tender nape of her neck, delicately kissing her collarbone . . . hands beginning to encircle her waist inquisitively . . .

Damm you Dr....

LMAO @ Fett

In all seriouse man, what is up with you really. I have seen the pic you posted of your G/F. There has to be something other then that wrong man. :bnghd:

Originally posted by Swatman
this post seems fake to me for some reason.. he said she smokes about 10 times.. he says he doesnt care if she smokes, but is offended by her smoking.. this doesnt add up

All of his post are like that Swatman, I think it is just the way he talks or something...?

Ok buddy, couple things to tell you since you asked in general for my advice.

1) If ya don't like the girls nasty habit, throw her to the curb, get your self a new girl that doesn't reek of cigs.

2) If you find kissing repulsive, I suggest you get used to enjoying yourself in a private manor as your never going to have a relationship.

3) You don't like kissing? Either your a bad kisser or she is, how can you not?

4) How the hell can you get laid if you don't kiss!!

5) Germs?? Dude, listen.. if your making out with a girl your focus needs to be 1 hand on the chest region, another either undoing the bra or pants!!! You need to FOCUS! Don't think about germs.. honestly.. a 5th grader might say that.. I am truly at loss for words.. thinking about germs.. you should be thinking of your favorite porn star. I mean the girl infront of you... right..

6) maybe your not diggin chicks if ya know what I mean.

Could be your age. Maybe your still too young and not exactly IN LOVE. Its harder to kiss someone your not IN LOVE with. So slow down relax theres plenty of time for love. Who knows you may change one day with the right person.

Originally posted by Shar
Could be your age. Maybe your still too young and not exactly IN LOVE. Its harder to kiss someone your not IN LOVE with. So slow down relax theres plenty of time for love. Who knows you may change one day with the right person.

Please tell me your a women..

How is it hard to kiss someone you are not inlove with?? The guy thinks sex is "dirty" ... Who cares if you don't love her, I think his focus is just off, he is being selfish and not thinking about the man downstairs!

Germs.

Of course im a lady. Im just glad im not worried about the dating scene no more been happily married for sixteen years. Still i can remember not kissing every guy out there. I was very picky about who i kissed.

Guys are less picky. Unless she's repulsive, we'd probably kiss her.

Originally posted by Akraites
Guys are less picky. Unless she's repulsive, we'd probably kiss her.

And even then, well, there are a number of coefficients that can affect the final outcome. Alcohol, lonliness, just getting out of prison, all kinds of things.







Germs. Man I wouldn't have thought of that in a million years, unless a woman was a, um, professional or something. You know, those girls hanging out down by the stoplight, who keep darting into traffic to ask for directions . . .

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