I'm a Healer and Idealist:
Healers have a profound sense of idealism derived from a strong personal morality, and they conceive of the world as an ethical, honorable place.
Indeed, to understand Healers, we must understand their idealism as almost boundless and selfless, inspiring them to make extraordinary sacrifices for
someone or something they believe in. The Healer is the Prince or Princess of fairytale, the King's Champion or Defender of the Faith, like Sir
Galahad or Joan of Arc. Healers are found in only 1 percent of the general population, although, at times, their idealism leaves them feeling even
more isolated from the rest of humanity.
Carl Rogers, one of the more able exponets of the NF Idealist way presents an excellent illustration of the tortuous and convoluted rhetoric
seemingly required:
Becoming a Person means the individual moves towards being. knowingly and acceptingly, the process which he inwardly and actually is. He moves away
from being what he is not, from being a facade. he is not trying to be more than he is, with the attendant feelings of insecurity or bombastic
defensiveness. He is not trying to be less than he is, with the attendant feelings of guilt or self-depreciation. He is increasingly listening to the
deepest recesses of the psychological and emotional being, and finds himself increasingly willing to be, with greater accuracy and depth, that self
which he most truly is.
[Carl Rogers, On Becoming A Person. Boston; Houghton Mifflin, 1961, p. 176]
Although this passage is seen by other styles as at best speaking in riddles, and at worst, sheer nonsense, that same passage is revered by the NF as
elegantly expressing the Idealist way-the search for self. To the NF, their motivation in life is to pursue the self-reflective end which defies
itself: becoming. While the SPs, SJs, and NTs can go after their goals in straight forward fashion and at full throttle, the NF's search for self is
circular and thus perpetual: How can one achieve a goal when that goal is to have a goal? The NF's "truest" self is the self search of itself, or
in other words, her purpose in life is to have a purpose in life. Always becoming himself, the NF can never truly be himself, since the very act of
reaching for the self immediately puts it out of reach. One becomes oneself if and only if one does not. This paradox is the NF's burden throughout
life, and his job, quite apart from her goal, is to resolve the paradox. Most do, some do not. The ones that are happy and productive; the ones that
do not suffer.
Idealist Communication
NFs are extremely sensitive to subtleties in gestures and metaphoric behavior not always visible to other types. He is also vulnerable to adding
dimensions to communications which are not always shared or perceived by the commonly found SJs and the SPs. However these added dimensions are
understood by the NTs and playful discussions about abstract ideas are found when NFs and NTs are lucky enough to find each other.
The zeal to connect disparate ideas is why the Idealist communication is often laced with metaphors, ascribing features to people and things that
belong to other people and things - animate or inanimate, visible or invisible. NF's have no trouble saying this person is a devil, or that one is an
angel. It isn't that the first person acts like a devil, he is one; and the other person doesn't simply have the attributes of an angel, she is one.
And the sun smiles at us, a corporation is grasping, a train roars, and love is a rose. In just this way Gandi described his search for what he called
"Absolute Truth": "The little fleeting glimpses...I have been able to have or Truth can hardley convey an idea of the indescribable lustre of
Truth, a million times more intense than that of the sun we daily see with our eyes."
I guess this explains why I have such a hard time connecting with people. I only exist in 3% of the general population. Seems like there should be
more Idealists. Oh well, life's more interesting when everyone is different anyways!