Are you afraid of being alone?

I'm noticing more & more that people are anxious to start a new relationship after one ends.

I don't understand this. Is it insecurity of being by themselves? And worse, they sometimes rather be with the wrong person than be alone.

Personally, I like having my private space. I connect better when I get a break from people on a regular basis. I suppose that could also apply in a relationship. I cannot be with someone 24/7.

Yes they don't like being alone. It would seem unnatural to you if after a year of sharing a bed you go to bed by yourself one night?
People require love and compassion not just personal 'space.'
Don't you ever want of another's companionship or are you as a
watcher?

Naturally relationships are a part of human nature. So it's kindof natural for someone the broke up with someone tosearch for another person to fill the gap that they had with someone else for such a long time. Ofcourse I may be full of it, seeing I'm 16 and have yet to been in a relationship (afraid of them)

I prefer to be alone.

ppl are strange, i can be alone fer long long long periods of time and it's fun i can do lotsa mushrooms and have fun in my head or if i'm not on mushrooms i read or watch some sort of strange movie that most ppl don't like but i enjoy cuz then i dun have to listen to them complain, but i dun really like ppl that much so that could explain my liking being alone

Originally posted by Lucifer
Yes they don't like being alone. It would seem unnatural to you if after a year of sharing a bed you go to bed by yourself one night?
People require love and compassion not just personal 'space.'
Don't you ever want of another's companionship or are you as a
watcher?

Alright. Some people need their sexual sustenance maintained sooner than later.

But personally I can't simply turn off my emotional attachment for someone in an instant just because the relationship is over & start fresh with someone else.

nope. I'm naturally a pretty solitary person.

No, I'm afraid of being forgotten...
You can figure it out,
- Tass

Actually I dont have much choice when it comes to being alone, either Im "not cool enough" to date for some, or I just choose not to date idiots, its a lose - lose situation. I already told my mother to not plan on having any granchildren.

Originally posted by EWom
I prefer to be alone.

Some times it's preferable to be alone, being away to keep his thoughts for himself is necessary some times, there's a lot of peoples who are afraid of being alone and seriously i can't understand it.

Even if I'm not single, if I had to stop my relation right now I wouldn't be the next looking for an other girl... Until a long time spent to thinking...

But I still respect what's people think or do...

[Edited on 26-9-2003 by Salem]

I think that it is good to have time to be alone, to think and be by yourself. It is good, yes, to have a relationship I'm sure but everyone needs or should need time to themselves. Being alone should be more a freedom than a thing to be frightened of, though many do not see it this way.

"When you have been starving for so long, you eventually won't hunger any longer"...

So no I'm not afraid to actually be alone, when you can spend your life with someone else yet feel completely alone..I would rather be "by myself".
Magestica

wouldnt it depend on if you were the dumper or the dumpee in a relationship, as to wether you jump into another one quickly or not?

I think it has a lot to do with a " comfort level", if you're hurting and SOMEONE finds you attractive, then that can be a dstraction.

but as someone who's been dumped a few months ago, I would prefer to be alone and take the time to sort out my head for my next relationship, rather than run away from the problem

I lov being on my own, going for walks along the cliff's (Babbacombe Down's) is beautiful, no-one around at 7am only a few withs there dogs (same old people same old times).

You could be in a room filled with people and still be very alone!


I do my thinking when Im alone, and work better when no-one's around (and quicker as well).

I lov my son and partner to bit, but everyone needs their own space, once in a while!



blackwidow

I prefer to be alone too.

Luckily, I hope to never have such issues again...

However, for some people, I have seen...it's as much financial as it is personal. (at least here in the US). Two can pay the rent, utilities a lot better than one.

my cousins primary reason for getting married was financial.

It's not my reason...but I've known many couples that started out that way... I've truly found my soulmate.

Just thought it might indicate why it's a more recent trend.....

Being afraid of something that cannot be helped in many situations is not something I fear. Life is a crapshoot.

Also, many people just don't have a choice when it comes to being alone whether they like it or not. Notably the handicapped portion of the populace. Whether it be physical or mental disability, being alone with such problems happens much of the time as many regular abled people simply do not want to be around the disabled.

People that have multiple relationships and fear loneliness are something I cannot comprehend due to how life actually operates. They live in a dream world.

[Edited on 26-9-2003 by heelstone]

Yes I'm afraid of being alone.

Cuz sometime I fall asleep behind the wheel.
j/k