10 Ways to Help With Relationships

Here are 10 Ways to Help With Relationships:

1) Listen.
Actually hear what they are saying, and know thier words may only be how they are capable of expressing themselves at that moment. What they are saying, may not always be taken the way they had intended.

2) Comprimise.
This is a two way street. A relationship will only last as long as both people are able to grow, and experience new things. Learn how to chase your dreams, and do the things you want to do, and permit them the same right.

3) Look into their eyes.
When addressing eachother in the most everyday conversations, look directly into their eyes. AND, learn how to SMILE! Smile, not only with your lips, but with your eyes as well! Eyes are the windows to the soul, and your subconscious, and theirs will take more in when you look into eachothers eyes when you are talking.

4) Respect what they like, take an interest in their interests.

5) Learn how to give a REAL massage. Learn how to effectively reduce their stress. Hand massages, neck, back of head. Point is to touch them where they are not usually touched, and in a loving and caring manner.

6) When a woman wants to be a little rougher, a little more animalistic and primal in respects to ..... ..... Well, she has the right to be that way. And if she thanks him immediatley after for having done it, there will be less friction and akwardness afterwards. Being aggressive can be very healthy, as long as it is controlled, and no one gets hurt. I know tastes differ, this may not apply to you ...... yet.

7) The "Just Becauses". Flowers, candy, a favorite CD, gifts from just because and on no special day.

And, because they are so important, and incase you already forgot:

8) Listen.
Actually hear what they are saying, and know thier words may only be how they are capable of expressing themselves at that moment. What they are saying, may not always be taken the way they had intended.

9) Comprimise.
This is a two way street. A relationship will only last as long as both people are able to grow, and experience new things. Learn how to chase your dreams, and do the things you want to do, and permit them the same right.

10) Look into their eyes.
When addressing eachother in the most everyday conversations, look directly into their eyes. AND, learn how to SMILE! Smile, not only with your lips, but with your eyes as well! Eyes are the windows to the soul, and your subconscious, and theirs will take more in when you look into eachothers eyes when you are talking.


Any other REAL tricks of the trade, not for getting a new relationship, but for retaining existing relationships?

Please add on!!!!!

11) Remember
Something as small as remembering someone's favorite candy bar can mean a lot. This ties in well with the "Just because" gifts. Gifts/favors dont need to cost money; doing something for them that you know they particularly like can mean just as much as buying an expensive gift.

---Pineapple

12) Become an extension of their will. Do not try to make them an extension of your will. Don't worry. Everything in moderation ... balance. It makes for a much more healthier relationship to help them grow, and at the same time you will be growing as well.

13) Humor, optimism.

14) Try never to on them, especially while kissing them.

It's a good list, but #5 and #6 seem really out of place with the rest of the list. I think those aren't general guidelines at all. I think they're Esoteric Teacher's personal guidelines. Don't confuse the youngsters, save it for your EHarmony profile!!

Peace

nuff said

[edit on 12/8/05 by Klepto]

Originally posted by Dr Love
It's a good list, but #5 and #6 seem really out of place with the rest of the list. I think those aren't general guidelines at all. I think they're Esoteric Teacher's personal guidelines. Don't confuse the youngsters, save it for your EHarmony profile!!

Peace

"5) Learn how to give a REAL massage. Learn how to effectively reduce their stress. Hand massages, neck, back of head. Point is to touch them where they are not usually touched, and in a loving and caring manner.

6) When a woman wants to be a little rougher, a little more animalistic and primal in respects to ..... ..... Well, she has the right to be that way. And if she thanks him immediatley after for having done it, there will be less friction and akwardness afterwards. Being aggressive can be very healthy, as long as it is controlled, and no one gets hurt. I know tastes differ, this may not apply to you ...... yet. "

I think number 5 is a consistant way to practice relieving stress from someone you are in a relationship with. Unless they don't like to be touched.

As for number 6. Many relationships end because women are embarressed to try and get what they want. They expect men to be psychic and interpret all the little hints.

I think I only meant number 6 as a way to emphasize comunication concerning the intimacy of a relationship, while keeping spontinuatity.

I was not referring to being rough or angry, I was referring to not going through the same motions with eachother month after month after month after year after year after year ........

Variety can be a healthy thing. Variety in a relationship can be a struggle. How would you suggest two people can have variety after being together for years?

It has been my experience that womens' needs grow in respect to wanting new experiences.

And, no, 6 does not usually refer to most young women as well as young relationships. But, most people I know who are 30+ and have been together 10+ years, do strive to do new things.