My Lost Sister

Fellow ATSers, I am in need of your thoughts and opinions. My would be sister in law Wendy went missing in 1998. I will not go into the whole story of her disappearance,it's in the link. I have been married to Wendy's sister since early 2001 and I have had difficulty adjusting to the topic of her sister when it comes up in conversation. I do not mean that I get upset when speaking about it, I just don't know how to act and respond when my wife and her mother talk about it.
Now this brings me to a discussion I had with them last night. My mother in law believes Wendy has passed, and claims that she has "visions" and visits from Wendy on occasion. My wife wants to believe hat Wendy has passed but she can't let go and thinks she is still out there somewhere.
What I would like to know is this; obviously it is an unsolved case and Wendy has never been found but is there a good way to try to "prove" she has passed? What would be a good way of achieving this? EVP, Ouija,ETC..
I will note that her mother has tried Psychics to find her and they have all led to dead ends and sounded to made up, but she has not tried to contact her in the after life.
All thoughts and opinions are welcome on this suject, and questions about Wendy.

Truthfully, you could do a lot of emotional damage trying to use more psychic "proof." I have seen people "buy into" these things and become obsessed with them, only to crash hard when the information turns out to be wrong (as in, they ask the psychic something that only the missing person could know and after buying into all this, the psychic gives them information that proves there has been no contact.)

These things are horribly hard on people, as I'm sure you know.

People like Sylvia Browne are not to be trusted... as Randi says, "why can they tell me how happy my grandmother is and can't have her tell me the name of the church she attended all her life?"

The kindest thing you can do is to just let them talk. And check into a "grief support" group for yourself. Being the supporter can be as hard on someone as being the griever.

You are correct that most are misleading. I have seen my mother in law track down countless false leads by so called psychics. Now with that said she is going to continue to search these leads and try to make contact.
They are finally going to try to lay her to rest by having a funeral in canada, the only problem is My wife cant let go. Well, more like WONT and her mother is obsessed with afterlife contact, mostly because of that damn White noise movie. They did do group sessions for a while but they stopped.I am just trying to find a crutch or a tool to help my wife let go and her mother to stop this ghost hunt I guess.

I however am fine, but thank you Byrd. I guess I worded my post wrong. It is just hard to talk to people who have lost like that. its not like you can say, "It's ok." or "everything will be fine." The problem is when they ask for my opinion I just don't know what to say.

[edit on 23-5-2005 by Xayden]