I have a friend. . .

He has recently remarried. Is currently unemployed. Had a job as a lawyer for years. Has assets which between property and other material holdings he valuates at over 1/2 a million dollars.

He thinks (midlife. . . ) He can move ( his whole family which included s ex wives and parents) to Costa Rica and invest in real estate, and live the lavish life.

His family has always been in local politics. My family has been in building.

I can make the arguments. How do I make him see His wet dream is not reality?

All comment's welcome.
I've pointed out landlord costs, as well as infrastructure to the place he wants to go.
I have other resources, but this seems an interesting opportunity to engage the folk who still post to this forum.

originally posted by: randomtangentsrme
He has recently remarried. Is currently unemployed. Had a job as a lawyer for years. Has assets which between property and other material holdings he valuates at over 1/2 a million dollars.

He thinks (midlife. . . ) He can move ( his whole family which included s ex wives and parents) to Costa Rica and invest in real estate, and live the lavish life.

His family has always been in local politics. My family has been in building.

I can make the arguments. How do I make him see His wet dream is not reality?

All comment's welcome.
I've pointed out landlord costs, as well as infrastructure to the place he wants to go.
I have other resources, but this seems an interesting opportunity to engage the folk who still post to this forum.

I think if you are friends with this person you should respect their decisions. After all, your thoughts and feelings are not his/her life.

Some of my flight attendants who grew up there said you need to have guards to watch your house when you leave for when the crooks come in they steal everything to include the electrical wall sockets ... Just stories but I would check the present lay of the land from some people who are living there currently.

I always enjoyed my lay-overs but I never thought of retiring there.

If America has to put up with another 4 years of Kamala, moving is a good plan. Getting out of California no matter which way it goes is a good idea too.

a reply to: randomtangentsrme

Rather naive by my guess.

Especially so in this day of age and given the current geopolitical climate.

I would be pondering where he got his law degree to be honest.

a reply to: randomtangentsrme

Well, I would tell him to go there, on a 2-4 week vacation. Talk to the locals, go to different cities and towns.
Actually speak to the police as well about crime and whatnot.

I'd be doing some serious homework before just up and moving.

a reply to: chiefsmom

Actually speak to the police as well about crime and whatnot.

I'd say this advice has at best a fifty fifty chance of being either good
or bad. I wouldn't trust police any where just because they're police.

Some places the police are the crime. But OPs friend is definitely
looking to open the door to misfortune.

I had to look at your location. Good grief, your here. So am I. Ive just inherited my childhood home in California. My kids and grand kids are here, now Im stuck. Really what needs to happen is for the pendulum to swing back. Democrats have made an absolute quagmire mess out of a once wonderful state. They have ruined one of the best places on the planet.

Ive had many friends move out of state.

a reply to: andy06shake

At one point I knew where he got his law degree from. Possibly McGeorge. I never cared enough to remember.

a reply to: chiefsmom

He is taking a week long vacation there.

originally posted by: visitedbythem

Ive had many friends move out of state.

As have I. Lovely state destroyed by good intentions and bad policy.

a reply to: randomtangentsrme

Sounds like it could be a midlife crisis of sorts.

But good luck to the fellow, and his family.

a reply to: randomtangentsrme

All comments welcome you say. Well here's my last 2 sense. If this is what the dude wants to do I wouldn't stop him, unfortunately if dude realizes later he made a massive mistake well good on him too thats where you learn # from

a reply to: Brotherman

I cannot stop him.
Part of being a friend is telling your friends when you think they are making mistakes.
What they choose to do is their own business.

originally posted by: berbofthegreen

originally posted by: randomtangentsrme
He has recently remarried. Is currently unemployed. Had a job as a lawyer for years. Has assets which between property and other material holdings he valuates at over 1/2 a million dollars.

He thinks (midlife. . . ) He can move ( his whole family which included s ex wives and parents) to Costa Rica and invest in real estate, and live the lavish life.

His family has always been in local politics. My family has been in building.

I can make the arguments. How do I make him see His wet dream is not reality?

All comment's welcome.
I've pointed out landlord costs, as well as infrastructure to the place he wants to go.
I have other resources, but this seems an interesting opportunity to engage the folk who still post to this forum.

I think if you are friends with this person you should respect their decisions. After all, your thoughts and feelings are not his/her life.

Are you serious? Forgive me for asking your age?
You do not go forward in life without passing knowledge on. Or learning from others.

I can take all 3 of my kids answers on anything as fact. That however doesn't make it true.
My 5 year old can tell me one thing, while my ten year old can tell me another, but both can be factually incorrect, or correct.

Facts do not care about thoughts and feelings. This is about saving a friend from losing everything.

But you are correct, letting my friend loose his equity is the right thing to do.
Said no one before you.

a reply to: randomtangentsrme

You said you friend has a wife? Is she of sound mind?
Is their marriage a good one, or is the wife under his thumbs?
Is she allowed to have an opinion and more so, has she reached out for help with her husband's decision?

Why did your friend chose Costa Rica?
Has he ever been there, does he know someone there, or did he just see some pictures on the internet?

How old is this ex lawyer friend? Midlife crisis means he's middle aged.
Is he bipolar or has some kind of mental deficiency or lack of life experience?
If so, you must stop him dragging his family into ruin.

If however he is overworked, or had this plan forever in his head, if he has particular reasons for going there etc, all you can do is tell him that YOU think it's a bad idea, tell him why...and that's it. You can't and shouldn't stand in his and his family's way.

We just don't have enough info to give advice on this. Maybe you don't either.

I am a persin who can do extreme decisions like that, my husband whom I met thanks to one of those is like me.
I could see ourselves doing something like your friend easily.

It might freak others out, but sime people need extreme change, and usually, for those people it is the right thing to do.
Everyone is different.

I'm getting excited for your friend just reading his plan. So...🤷🏻‍♀️

With the current boarder policy taking in the dregs of the world, exporting some of what America shines at the same time is a good thing. Prepare for some culture shock, listen to the locals, remain respectful and do what you can and things will be fine. Go there thinking you are going to be the next Mafia boss or still have some growing to to do doing stupid stuff, better off staying where you are.

If in California, work on your community network if things start getting wonky. With the political direction some if it is descending down, got some lessons to learn the hard way.

a reply to: randomtangentsrme

I know what you mean some people simply refuse to listen or see sense.

Especially if they get an idea or notion stuck in their heads.

A good pal through will pull you aside and plainly tell you when a hair-brained scheme is exactly that.

Or when you need to give you're head a wobble.

I suggest if he means something to you perseverance may be the key.

originally posted by: randomtangentsrme
Lovely state destroyed by good intentions and bad policy.

I think you're half right.

a reply to: Hecate666

Yes, they Eloped after a week of dating, perhaps 2 weeks ago. I've not yet met her, I had planed to after a weekend camping- But never got a return text on my way down the hill. They had slept in. According to him, she also wants to move to Costa Rica.

He has a family friend there.

No mental deficiency to my knowledge. We are college friends who lost touch for a decade and have been back in touch for about a decade. He would be mid 40s, twice divorced. Thrice married.

Appreciate your response.
You are correct all I can do is state my concerns. I cannot nor will not stand in his way. It's his life to live.