One Third of Married Couples Sleep in Separate Bedrooms

My SO and I have been together for 18 years and are just now starting to do this, only because I apparently move around too much, kick him, and take up too much of the bed(I like snuggling up to him in my sleep and I guess I push him off the bed.) I also have a BiPap machine and still snore through the mask. He wasn't sleeping but I was. So after he talked to me about it he's out in the living room and I'm in the bedroom... he's sleeping well now, but I keep waking up reaching out for him. I'm slowly getting used to it though.

originally posted by: TheWhat
Have a quilt each it makes all the difference.

...and a king size bed

Couldn't imagine not sleeping in the same bed as my wife. Horses for courses though and couples will find what works best for them.

originally posted by: FlyersFan
This was interesting. Polling indicates 1/3 of married couples eventually opt for separate bedrooms in order to get a good nights sleep. I'm thinking there is a stigma attached and that people don't admit to this very readily. My parents did this. So did my in-laws. Both were married for over 50 years. From my observations, separate bedrooms don't lead to divorce ... they just lead to a good nights sleep.

It's called snoring...

I have to have my own space. I toss and turn endlessly due to pain in my back and hips. Constant adjustments to keep from getting too sore in one position. Plus my bladder hates me. I get up constantly to the bathroom. I never slept well with someone else in the bed. I need space and quiet.

This is not unusual as you think. Here are some reasons people may sleep in separate beds or bedrooms.

1. One snores and the other cannot sleep due to the noise.
2. One needs a firm mattress, the other needs a soft mattress. Neither can sleep on the wrong mattress.
3. One keeps stealing the covers. I mean once in a while is not a big problem, but some are major cover-stealers.
4. They cannot fit a king-size bed in the bedroom to alleviate some of the problems.

It wasn’t until modern times that couples sleep in the same bed, probably pushed by the 60’s free love thing, anyways, a California King size bed with that special mattress, you know the one with the lady jumping up and down with a glass of wine on the other side that doesn’t move. That’s what we have and have zero issues with movement or stealing of blankets or pillows. My issue is the damn roosters doodling at 4 am.

a reply to: FlyersFan

She snores and tosses and turns all night and then she started to wake me up when I snored Seperate bedrooms = better nights sleep .