originally posted by: RavenSpeaks
a reply to: Waterglass
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But on a more serious note, I worked in I.T. for some years and the system administrator was a JW . He was even an "elder" in the church. My desk was
in the same room as his , and never once did he ever proselytize . Then again, I had long hair and long beard back then, and folks often called me
Jesus. I think he may have been intimidated? Anyway ,he was an easy to work with guy, and good at his job too. He seemed like a normal dude, as far
as I could tell.
In medieval Europe, Jews were falsely accused of poisoning wells and spreading disease. During Nazi rule, Jews were again slandered. But this time
they were accused of causing the economic crisis in Germany. Both cases resulted in the Jews becoming victims of extreme prejudice, some of which is
still evident today.
People who believe myths such as those may point to examples or alleged evidence that seems to confirm their bias. And they think that anyone who
disagrees with them is ignorant.
Without knowing the facts, we make bad decisions. If we believe myths rather than facts, we will misjudge people. If we know the facts about people,
we are less likely to believe common but false assumptions about them. And once we learn that we have not been told the truth about a particular
group, we may be more likely to question assumptions that we have made about other groups of people.
Also remember that sweeping generalizations about groups of people do not apply to all individuals of that group.
If we focus too much on how different others are from us, we could conclude that such differences are flaws or defects. In effect, we would be
regarding as inferior those who are different. Once we develop this negative view of others, it becomes difficult to show empathy. Our lack of empathy
can be a symptom of a deeper problem—prejudice.
Prejudice is like a virus. It harms its victims, and people can be unaware that they are infected. People can be prejudiced not only toward those of
another nationality, race, tribe, or language but also toward those of a different religion, gender, or social class. Some judge people negatively
based on their age, education, disabilities, or physical appearance. Yet, they still feel that they are not prejudiced.
Could you be infected with prejudice? Most of us can recognize prejudice in others. But it may be difficult to see prejudice in ourselves. The truth
is that all of us are prejudiced to some degree. When people think about a group negatively and then meet someone from that group, says sociology
professor David Williams, “they will treat that person differently and honestly not know that they did it.”
On the other hand, when we empathize with someone, we become aware of just how similar we are to that person. We realize that he or she may feel the
way we feel and may react the way we react. Empathy helps us to see that all people, no matter what their background may be, are part of the human
family. The more we focus on how similar they are to us, the less likely we will be to judge them negatively (or rant against them on the internet,
expressing and fueling prejudice, hatred and contempt, adding fuel to the fire in an attempt to get others to feel the same way, consciously or
subconsciously; I'm not referring to your comment).
Empathy will also help us to respect others. If we strive to understand another person’s struggles, we are more likely to empathize rather than to
criticize.
Try to see beyond the differences and find similarities between you and people from a group you may view negatively.
Next, try to imagine yourself in their situation. Ask yourself:
- ‘How would I react if someone made me feel worthless?’ (or to bring this thread into it, if someone said the type of negative things that were
said in this thread about you; same for the other questions below)
- ‘How would I feel if others judged me before they even got to know me?’
- ‘If I were part of their group, how would I like others to treat me?’
Egotism can lead to prejudice. An egotistical person has an inflated opinion of his own worth. He views himself as superior and judges people who are
different from him as being inferior. Anyone can fall into this trap. The
Encyclopædia Britannica says: “Most [cultural] groups feel—to
varying degrees of intensity—that their way of life, their foods, dress, habits, beliefs, values, and so forth, are superior to those of other
groups.” How can we avoid this flawed way of thinking?
Bible Principle:
“With humility consider others superior to you.”—PHILIPPIANS 2:3.
What does it mean? To avoid excessive pride, we need to cultivate its opposite—humility. Humility allows us to recognize that in some areas of
life others are superior. No one group has a monopoly on all good qualities and abilities.
Consider the example of Stefan. He grew up in a Communist country but overcame his feelings of prejudice against people from non-Communist countries.
He says: “I believe that considering others as superior to you is important in counteracting prejudice. I don’t know everything. I can learn
something from every person.”
What you (as in everyone) can do:
Try to have a realistic view of yourself and remain aware of your own failings. Acknowledge that others are strong in areas where you are weak. Do not
assume that all people from a particular group have the same flaws.
Instead of drawing negative conclusions about a person who is from a particular group of people, ask yourself:
- ‘Are the traits that I dislike about that person actually bad, or are they just different?’
- ‘Could this person find faults in me?’
- ‘In what areas is this person more capable than I am?’
If you answer these questions honestly, you may not only overcome any prejudice you have but you may also find things to admire in that person.
Feelings of prejudice do not disappear quickly. Just as it takes time and effort to get rid of a virus, it takes time and effort to get rid of
prejudice. What can you do to remove prejudice from within you?
Bible Principle:
“Clothe yourselves with love, for it is a perfect bond of union.”—COLOSSIANS 3:14.
What does it mean? Doing kind things for others brings people together. The more you show your love for others, the less prejudiced you become. The
more love you feel, the less room you leave in your heart for hatred or contempt and any resulting rudeness. Showing good manners to members of that
group instead will then take less effort.
edit on 20-9-2023 by whereislogic because: (no reason given)