Can we find a sense of happiness in our life if we lost it

Sadly in life the wind of sadness can enter our lives. It's when we feel the loneliness of the road of life as we travel on to the day of awareness of our being that is most challenging.
I often wonder if we loose happiness in our life, can it return ?

a reply to: musicismagic

Sure, just treat other how you want to be treated and you will find it's quite crowded on the road of life

a reply to: musicismagic

Yes, but it will be different. And once the original is lost, it's easier to lose it again. I imagine Jordan Peterson would be the one to ask.

I soon to be on the free spirit of life to get lost on an Island in Japan. Sadness is a blind thought for me.

a reply to: musicismagic

cut the internet, read some good books, do good things to others, go in the nature … and dont panic.

a reply to: musicismagic

Sure.

Losing happiness usually means something from the past burdened you. I'd say aim to let it go and experience the present, the future might look brighter then.

The way I see it there's two ways to get rid of baggage that weighs us down. 1 is to cover it up with feel good chemicals or activities and "forget about it" or work through it. One of those will do nothing but dull the being and the other is... Well, emotional.

There's many ways to deal with sadness/happiness I'd like to think everything is a little easier when we don't burden our ability to express ourselves. We don't choose our emotions but we sure can choose what moods we express. Live in the present, maybe on your journeys you'll have an interaction or two that'll remind you of the "innocence lost" thing that often preceded losses of happiness. I hope you smile at the glorious naiveness of another instead of sharing your perspectives on a harsh reality because that's what really matters isn't it? Happiness in general, not our own.

Live in the present and share what's good.

a reply to: musicismagic

I would say 'yes'

but then I think happiness means different things to different people.
For me it means feeling content, feeling like there is nothing missing from my life.
Then there is the feeling of 'instant happiness, euphoria' , it's nice, but always short and temporary

a reply to: musicismagic

Happiness is simply a state of mind. But, yes... otherwise people wouldn't get remarried, or find a better job, home, lifestyle. You gotta believe, my Nipponese friend!

You bike, play guitar...so, you're (and me) always searching, playing, biking to new places n people. I wrote a song called " Find your Heaven is the Sky". I meant simply...the Sky is blue across the Earth everywhere. Hold your head up each day, eyes forward..and keep going.

I've been married 3 times..once for 91/2yrs...for 6 years..and lastly 30 yrs. Happiness...is where you find it! God bless MIM...and don't forget your pads n Helmet!

Guitar lesson for today: A diminished chord lowers and adds a 7th...an Augmented chord adds to the 5th.
Peace!!

a reply to: musicismagic

I think it can when you're at a point when you know you're dying /terminal, or just old age. IMO it won't before then sadly.
Yes, I'm there as well.

a reply to: musicismagic

Can we find a sense of happiness in our life if we lost it

Yes, I like to get out and walk the Earth like Caine in Kung Fu.
Guitar, Piano, flyfishing, and a job that is more enjoyable than staying home helps keep the blues away.


And not getting drunk everyday made a big difference.

But for true happiness, life needs contrast....I come here for my fair share of abuse.

a reply to: musicismagic
Happiness is always out there somewhere, in the form of new, nice people that you don’t know yet, or some new pursuit or interest that’s been waiting for you to arrive. Do that thing that you’ve been thinking about for a while. There will be a whole new happiness to get used to, but it will be good and fun.

a reply to: musicismagic

You will never be able to feel any one emotion all of the time that include happiness. Happiness will come and go. Sadness will come and go.

That’s kinda what life is, the ultimate punishment or something of the sorts. You’re born and then grow to love people more than life itself, and then for every last one of us, we then are forced to watch it all get ripped away and people one by one. It’s the one reason I could definitely understand if it turned out that the prison planet/spiritual quarantine hypothesis is true in some way…

originally posted by: musicismagic
Sadly in life the wind of sadness can enter our lives. It's when we feel the loneliness of the road of life as we travel on to the day of awareness of our being that is most challenging.
I often wonder if we loose happiness in our life, can it return ?

Most likely it will return. Be positive as you live only once. Now you can say how about many in this world who are very unfortunate and wish they' ve never been born...

originally posted by: AlexandrosTheGreat
That’s kinda what life is, the ultimate punishment or something of the sorts. You’re born and then grow to love people more than life itself, and then for every last one of us, we then are forced to watch it all get ripped away and people one by one. It’s the one reason I could definitely understand if it turned out that the prison planet/spiritual quarantine hypothesis is true in some way…

The reality of life.

Everyone we know will eventually die and one day the same will happen to us.

But is everything we are just flesh and blood?

originally posted by: ancientlight
a reply to: musicismagic

I think it can when you're at a point when you know you're dying /terminal, or just old age. IMO it won't before then sadly.
Yes, I'm there as well.

So am I. I can still find delight in many a moment and have an over all sense of peace now Ive aged enough to control my emotions for the most part but I feel damaged by life. I do want out from under the heaviness but perhaps it is universal. Maybe this is just what gaining wisdom feels like.

MIM, are you saying you have a bike ride planned on the island and you arent feeling as excited about it as you would expect... If I recall right, you are only a bit older than myself and so, you planning and capable of such a trip is really a blessing. I see so many my age incapacitated by the sedentary life or wear and tear to their bodies that your bike ride would do them in.

A couple years ago, my friend came out from scotland as a tourist and marveled at where I live on Vancouver Island so much so that she mused on retiring here. From hearing this I tried to shift my focus to seeing how beautiful this place is. I see it easily but have never been able bring myself to do the things others enjoy such as kayaking or hiking. I will be one of the elderly who gardens and sits still in the shade contemplating. But activity is better, bringing new blood.

Ive always been prone to depression so maybe it has just taken on a new set of characteristics when getting older as I see an inevitable giving way to future generations. The joy in life must be theirs now as I see in my stepdaughter with her new baby.

I do hope you, MIM, will keep us updated on your adventure. I love seeing other peoples countries especially when they do it slower than fly in, fly out.

a reply to: RAY1990

We don't choose our emotions

Respectfully, I disagree; happiness is a choice. We can face each day seeking the good that will come, or expecting the sky to fall.

There ais always something to be grateful about, even if it's just the fact that things weren't the worst case scenario. It's all in the perspective we choose to view the world through.

On my worst days I remind myself of what life was like living in a tent or the day I lost the most precious life possible and 'Things are never so bad they can't get worse, and never so good they can't get better'.

Life is too precious for me to waste anything more than a fleeting moment on the things that bring me down.

I hope your day gets better, MIM.

Happiness is being able to see the sky, smell the air and eat carne asada tacos. It might sound like something that most people take for granted, but if you have ever felt a loss of a loved one or came close to it, it changes your perspective on life. You tend to look at things different then you did before. It truly awakens you to how life is so fragile and unexpected that it all can be taken away in a second. So the little things that bring you happiness should be repeated every day.

a reply to: musicismagic
I had happiness ripped from my life 3yrs ago, when I woke from a coma just before the first covid lockdown in the UK.
My previously very strong, confident, and commanding, public speaking voice was destroyed by the tracheostomy. I was unable to walk due to painful nerve damaged feet, and my entire world seemed destroyed.

I discharged myself from hospital a couple of days before the lockdown, I wanted to end my life at home.
I bought an 8 cubic metres (at normal air pressure) cannister of 100% carbon monoxide.

When delivered, I tried breathing it to see what it tastes like, exactly the same as fresh air, so instantly I realised why it's a killer!

So, then in my small cottage it became real.
I thought about it for 24hrs, and everything came down to the 'unknown' about dying then.
I knew I could die painlessly and quickly, but fear of the unknown stopped me. I remember looking in the mirror and saying "Well you think this life is #, but it's better than if the Christians are right and there's a hell, don't mug yourself, ya prick!"
...and I released the gas into the outside air.

Since then I stopped painkillers and spent 30 months on two crutches, hard training every single day, to get used to the 'electric shock' nerve pain, and in March this year I left the house with only a walking stick for the first time!😁😁😁

I'm still massively damaged goods, and can only speak in a hoarse whisper, so I'll never be able to sing again, or even project any emotion in spoken word, and yeah I've lost much at a very deep level.
But I never feel 'sad' about my losses now, I actually just look in the mirror and say "Well #ing kill yourself then, only 400 quid for a canister of carbon monoxide, or stop whining and carry on fixing the # you can actually fix, gotta be better than an unknown afterworld!" 🤣

And I do actually laugh every time!
...not recommending my life changing strategy for everyone lol, but it certainly worked for me, and not much pisses me off now at all.
If I've got food in my belly, clothes on my back, safe roof over my head, and I am loved by a handful of humans, then my life is very much better than millions of people in the world!😁🏖️🌊🌞

originally posted by: AdultMaleHuman73
a reply to: musicismagic
I had happiness ripped from my life 3yrs ago, when I woke from a coma just before the first covid lockdown in the UK.
My previously very strong, confident, and commanding, public speaking voice was destroyed by the tracheostomy. I was unable to walk due to painful nerve damaged feet, and my entire world seemed destroyed.

I discharged myself from hospital a couple of days before the lockdown, I wanted to end my life at home.
I bought an 8 cubic metres (at normal air pressure) cannister of 100% carbon monoxide.

When delivered, I tried breathing it to see what it tastes like, exactly the same as fresh air, so instantly I realised why it's a killer!

So, then in my small cottage it became real.
I thought about it for 24hrs, and everything came down to the 'unknown' about dying then.
I knew I could die painlessly and quickly, but fear of the unknown stopped me. I remember looking in the mirror and saying "Well you think this life is #, but it's better than if the Christians are right and there's a hell, don't mug yourself, ya prick!"
...and I released the gas into the outside air.

Since then I stopped painkillers and spent 30 months on two crutches, hard training every single day, to get used to the 'electric shock' nerve pain, and in March this year I left the house with only a walking stick for the first time!😁😁😁

I'm still massively damaged goods, and can only speak in a hoarse whisper, so I'll never be able to sing again, or even project any emotion in spoken word, and yeah I've lost much at a very deep level.
But I never feel 'sad' about my losses now, I actually just look in the mirror and say "Well #ing kill yourself then, only 400 quid for a canister of carbon monoxide, or stop whining and carry on fixing the # you can actually fix, gotta be better than an unknown afterworld!" 🤣

And I do actually laugh every time!
...not recommending my life changing strategy for everyone lol, but it certainly worked for me, and not much pisses me off now at all.
If I've got food in my belly, clothes on my back, safe roof over my head, and I am loved by a handful of humans, then my life is very much better than millions of people in the world!😁🏖️🌊🌞

Really good you thought of this more rationally and ended up laughing instead of ending your life. I admire your courage by the way.

And I like very much your username. Adultmalehuman! Commonly known as man.