When You're a Victim of Stress

I don't like to hate, but now in today's world I understand surely that if you hate somebody, you still have love for them, and you still are giving attention to them - the opposite of love is the absence of love, this is when people ignore you and act like you don't exist.

I do hate bullies. Those people are willing to show a nonconformance in their performace, whatever they may be doing, and while they break whatever rule it is, they stare at you with a look of anguish on their face.

Some days by the first 15 minutes of my day I am upset at what a bully does to me. That is how bad my city in southern california has got to be in the society of obnoxiousness. Today I am driving and the person coming toward me on the other side of the road chose to drive half way out of his lane and in my lane, and he continues this all the way down the hill staring at me.

There is no way to defeat experiencing their negative foul emotions because as spiritual beings the feelings in the ether flow through our bodies, usually when these bad people leave our presence, the negative vibe will leave with the subject and we will retain our original positive vibration and aura. But when it happens 10 times a day and we start to develop stress - this is where I start losing the game. When I am already stressed and I see bullys do something wrong in order to intimate other people, I choose to break traffic laws and run all stop signs and stop lights until I have sped away from this blob of negative vibration, a person who commits foul wrong actions daily and does it to harm people. I feel like I have to run the red light and the stop sign when I am in their presence, and speed. Now I lost the game. I am hurt now, I have broken traffic laws.

I find covering your ears may help in situations like these.

a reply to: AncientStone

I feel you, and especially being in southern cali I understand and feel for you even more.
These negative people purposely seek out a way to 'ruin' another person's hour/afternoon/day whatever, in order to feel better about themselves and their lives. Obviously their lives suck and they know they can never amount to much as they don't have that drive / ability in them. So the only way to feel better about themselves is to try to bring others down to their level.
Next time try to ignore them (like you state the abscense of love) By ignoring traffic laws you are acknowledging them and handing them some power over you.

a reply to: AncientStone
I am currently weaning myself off of three high blood pressure meds.
I have lost weight, went off caffeine and am attempting to mitigate stress in my life.
I Google searched and found music that is recommended to relieve stress. While driving, I have classical music playing.
I have been leaving for work a bit earlier so that I can watch A-holes pass me and not worry about them.
Work is a bit more complicated. If I can remember to not worry so much about it, I am better off… but that is a tough thing to do.

Can I suggest that the whole world ISN'T out to get you.
This is the problem in today's society, everyone has bloody victim mentality. Perhaps the chap who jumped lanes was actually rushing to get to hospital because a loved one was in a bad way, maybe his wife had gone into labour. I propose that he WASN'T looking at you, merely paying extra attention to the road ahead as he was aware that he was a hazard at that point.
People's behaviour hasn't changed, at all in the 47 years I've been on this blue ball.
What HAS changed is people's total inability to deal with life.
Guess what, it's not always parties and roses, sometimes it's hard, for everyone.
Drop the "I'm a victim" mentality and concentrate on yourself rather than others.

when things like this happen, keep in mind that these people, are probably also affected by some sort of bullying. This is their way of passing the buck.
I have found, with great personal success that the best solution is not allow that cycle to continue in myself.
For example, if there were someone driving on the side of the road. I would stop completely, force that person to correct themselves without saying anything or making any direct action but most importantly do not move out of the way.
This is of coarse a metaphorical example which can be applied to other circumstances.
Also do not let that negative vibration transfer to you. When you run red lights or other such examples you are only passing that negative energy on to others. Take a deep breath and expel that negativity, over come it with something that brings positivity to you.
For me, just breaking that cycle brings sense of positivity in itself.

I will admit there are some circumstances in which I fail at this only to later realize I had become part of the cycle

The personal battlefield of looking down every day is stressful. One can control stress by looking up to see the birds fly freely. Our minds are set freely when the birds over us are flying in a balance of wind and strength. An inner energy of balance of mind that lets loose can give the negative flow of thoughts. Self control of positive actions.

originally posted by: shinzaun
Can I suggest that the whole world ISN'T out to get you.
This is the problem in today's society, everyone has bloody victim mentality. Perhaps the chap who jumped lanes was actually rushing to get to hospital because a loved one was in a bad way, maybe his wife had gone into labour. I propose that he WASN'T looking at you, merely paying extra attention to the road ahead as he was aware that he was a hazard at that point.
People's behaviour hasn't changed, at all in the 47 years I've been on this blue ball.
What HAS changed is people's total inability to deal with life.
Guess what, it's not always parties and roses, sometimes it's hard, for everyone.
Drop the "I'm a victim" mentality and concentrate on yourself rather than others.

Exactly.


"We cannot control the actions of other people/things. But we can control our reactions to those actions."


Being "the Victim" is an easy role to adopt because it it inherently absolves one from any responsibility for the negative attributes of the situation. But it invariably results in harm to all involved.

Responding, intelligently to a negative situation, rather than just reacting, especially if your response can derive from a place of empathy and compassion, forges a much stronger and overall, healthier, status. For All.

So bullies are people that stare at you with the wrong look on their face?

If that's all it takes you will always be a victim. Self-esteem can be had without hating others, you seem to need a whole lot more of that.

a reply to: AncientStone

When You're a Victim of Stress

I hate to advocate drugs, alcohol, violence, or insanity to anyone, but they've always worked for me......HST

originally posted by: shinzaun
Can I suggest that the whole world ISN'T out to get you.
This is the problem in today's society, everyone has bloody victim mentality. Perhaps the chap who jumped lanes was actually rushing to get to hospital because a loved one was in a bad way, maybe his wife had gone into labour. I propose that he WASN'T looking at you, merely paying extra attention to the road ahead as he was aware that he was a hazard at that point.
People's behaviour hasn't changed, at all in the 47 years I've been on this blue ball.
What HAS changed is people's total inability to deal with life.
Guess what, it's not always parties and roses, sometimes it's hard, for everyone.
Drop the "I'm a victim" mentality and concentrate on yourself rather than others.

Hey quit bullying that kid !

a reply to: AncientStone

Today I am driving and the person coming toward me on the other side of the road chose to drive half way out of his lane and in my lane, and he continues this all the way down the hill staring at me.

I ran into someone like that. Literally.

Had a person try that on me once. He thought I would stop or move over.
He was wrong.
It's amazing what a Silverado 2500 HD 4 X 4 that weighs 9200 lbs will do to a newer car, with only a slightly bent bumper on the truck.

You may feel differently when you running red lights and stop signs kills someone.

a reply to: AncientStone

a reply to: AncientStone

You are not alone with this problem.

There seems to be several dimensions occurring. 60% of the people are going about their business, acting normal and act appropriately towards you.

Then there is a segment of the population that is going about their business, acting normal and appropriately and there is an unexplained troublesome swirl and attraction from certain people that sees and knows them immediately. It is like a science fiction movie.

It does become overwhelming. There are some creepity creepities out there. Knowing there are many others experiencing this may help in your perception, management and hopefully transformation.

They want you to hurt yourself. Nothing would make them happier than to see you get hurt or in trouble. It's been said there is a spiritual war going on. It's true they destroy themselves but a new one will replace it. I know it's tough but you are so much more than these empty souled ticks, so you must survive and you deserve to flourish.

I feel for ya.
It can be hard to exercise patience in a stressful environment.

Last week I sat and watched The Exorcist with my 5 year old son.
I ended up spending the entire film either explaining to him what was going on, or telling him to stop crying.

originally posted by: Lucius Driftwood
I feel for ya.
It can be hard to exercise patience in a stressful environment.

Last week I sat and watched The Exorcist with my 5 year old son.
I ended up spending the entire film either explaining to him what was going on, or telling him to stop crying.

Far be it for me to advise on parenting, but 5 year old kids watching the Exorcist? Scared the sh!t out of me when I was 30.

We warmed up with Salems Lot the evening before.
He hasn't opened his bedroom curtains since, bless him.
a reply to: olaru12

originally posted by: Dalamax
You may feel differently when you running red lights and stop signs kills someone.

a reply to: AncientStone

It is so truly pathetic to assume that I would break a traffic law that would harm anyone like I was drunk.

In all truth you just insulted me because you are one of the people I am talking about, you insult people, all day, and that is just you.

All those times you fail to put on your blinker is Way More unsafe than me running a red light when I am not blind and can see if there are no people. I see people like you all day and you will make a wrong judgement upon anybody to verbally attack them unjustly and I do know why.

People, this world is changing and we Really need to talk about it. People like Dalamax judge people, so harshly, all the time. It is not right.

You said it. I’m not the peep confessing to breaking the law.

When did I tell you I disobey traffic laws lol. I even indicate when leaving a round about

It does warm my heart to know you know why

a reply to: AncientStone