How many couples have split since Covid?

Just found out THREE of my friends are on the verge of divorce.

These are not fly by night relationships either, we are talking 20+ years.

It seems a lot of people realized during Covid they aren’t compatible with their spouses.
Even though Covid is really over where I am I think now were are being ushered into the financial stressors era.
We all know this is the number one relationship killer.

I am very fortunate in that my husband and I have never fought over money. We’ve been broke, rich, middle class and everything inbetween. Money has never been and issue as we have always been on the same page and are similar in our spending/saving money philosophies.
I think this is where most people are the most incompatible and don’t realize it until it is too late, or after kids.

Another reason in the rise for divorces is the increase in addiction. I think Covid had a direct impact on that. Let’s face it, some people have a hard time coping and turn to alcohol, drugs or other things. One of the relationships of the three is dealing with that. It is heartbreaking. I say Covid is over here, but is it really? I think it is an emotional scar that will stay on many for a very long time.

I flew in the Air Force for 28 years and I have seen a good number of couples get divorce after the husband stopped traveling so much. So, kind of the same thing....

originally posted by: Xtrozero
I flew in the Air Force for 28 years and I have seen a good number of couples get divorce after the husband stopped traveling so much. So, kind of the same thing....

I guess a lot of people like their spouse in small doses!

Lawyers were busier than ever during Lockdown. Apparently being stuck with someone 24/7 was not what a lot of people signed up for.

a reply to: JAGStorm

I know one couple who is having a few issues:



Covid related? Possibly, but probably something else.

a reply to: MykeNukem

I worked in corporate long enough to know that there are a lot of fake marriages.
They stay together so they can go to parties and so people will think they are a “normal” family.

My boss at one time joked and told me she had only seen her husband for TWO weeks one year because they traveled so much for work. Two weeks!

originally posted by: Xtrozero
I flew in the Air Force for 28 years and I have seen a good number of couples get divorce after the husband stopped traveling so much. So, kind of the same thing....

Happens a lot in the military.

Man, just can not come home and take over.

I understand the military now does couple counseling for this situation.

originally posted by: JAGStorm

originally posted by: Xtrozero
I flew in the Air Force for 28 years and I have seen a good number of couples get divorce after the husband stopped traveling so much. So, kind of the same thing....

I guess a lot of people like their spouse in small doses!

My wife and I started working from home during the pandemic. It's kind of nice knowing she's in the house with me. Not saying it brought us any closer together than we were, but it's nice. We've been married almost 40 years.

originally posted by: JAGStorm
a reply to: MykeNukem

I worked in corporate long enough to know that there are a lot of fake marriages.
They stay together so they can go to parties and so people will think they are a “normal” family.

My boss at one time joked and told me she had only seen her husband for TWO weeks one year because they traveled so much for work. Two weeks!

Yea, I've seen lot's of that too.

My bosses/owners of a technology company I worked at led two separate lives based on business. He did the technology stuff and she bought and sold horses. All the family pictures looked great, but they were more business partners than life partners.

Spending extended periods of time with ANYBODY can be a stressor, especially if she's naggy

ETA: I tricked my wife into marrying me 27 years ago and we got along great before/during/after Covid. I think I'm her "project".

originally posted by: Xtrozero
I flew in the Air Force for 28 years and I have seen a good number of couples get divorce after the husband stopped traveling so much. So, kind of the same thing....

That is one of the reasons athletes get divorced usually after they retire. They stop traveling and when they spend a lot of time at home with the spouse, they realize they don't want to be around each other. Of course, the money stops coming in as well...

originally posted by: Annee
Man, just can not come home and take over.

Is that what you think happens?

Pretty jaded if you ask me.

originally posted by: Deplorable

originally posted by: Annee
Man, just can not come home and take over.

Is that what you think happens?

Pretty jaded if you ask me.

It's been happening ever since man left home to go to war.

Who do you think runs things when the men are gone?

originally posted by: JAGStorm

I guess a lot of people like their spouse in small doses!

I think a lot of it was the spouses leaned to be independent for years taking care of everything back home and then this man is now 100% home making decisions etc. they didn't need or want...

originally posted by: Deplorable

originally posted by: Annee
Man, just can not come home and take over.

Is that what you think happens?

Pretty jaded if you ask me.

Sorry I have to side with Anne on this one.
I am not a military spouse but a brat. I saw this first hand so many times and not just with my family, but many others growing up.
Sometimes my dad was gone for 6 months at a time, and then he would come and he expected to pick right up. It was very difficult and traumatic when I think back on it, and my dad was a wonderful dad. I now understand how difficult it was for my mom going back and forth from single mom to married wife over and over.

I think things are different in todays military. We also did not have internet like we do today when I was growing up.

originally posted by: JAGStorm
a reply to: MykeNukem

I worked in corporate long enough to know that there are a lot of fake marriages.
They stay together so they can go to parties and so people will think they are a “normal” family.

My boss at one time joked and told me she had only seen her husband for TWO weeks one year because they traveled so much for work. Two weeks!

I traveled a lot for business after I was married. I probably was only home a total of 8 weeks or so for the first two years of my marriage. Literally gone Monday thru Thurs/Friday every every week for two years. When I stopped traveling, it took some adjusting because my wife was not used to me being home. This was also one of the reasons I got out of the business. I saw all my work colleagues getting divorced, etc.

Been married 21 years though. We really haven't had too many challenges. We both have similar personalities and enjoy each others company. We also have similar financial habits and both have been pretty successful in our careers, so money has never been a big issue as we both are pretty frugal compared to incomes.

We are at the age we are seeing couples getting divorced. Infidelity, money, and some people are just hard to get along with... Marriage is about compromise and many people simple aren't good at sacrificing their own personal wants and needs for the relationship.

I've observed that kids are often the biggest stressor on relationships. Those little buggers are expensive which then exacerbates any other financial problems. Then you throw in all the challenges of raising kids, it can definitely pull people apart.

originally posted by: Annee

Happens a lot in the military.

Man, just can not come home and take over.

I understand the military now does couple counseling for this situation.

The wife is 100% independent so doesn't need a new boss. I don't get into anything my wife does unless she asks me for help even if I think otherwise.

originally posted by: Annee

originally posted by: Deplorable

originally posted by: Annee
Man, just can not come home and take over.

Is that what you think happens?

Pretty jaded if you ask me.

It's been happening ever since man left home to go to war.

Who do you think runs things when the men are gone?

Robby the Robot

originally posted by: Xtrozero

originally posted by: JAGStorm

I guess a lot of people like their spouse in small doses!

I think a lot of it was the spouses leaned to be independent for years taking care of everything back home and then this man is now 100% home making decisions etc. they didn't need or want...

My husband was work from home for two years and I loved every minute of it. I cried when he had to go back in the office.

I think it is easy to love someone, but many people are not compatible! We both have our own hobbies and interests and that also makes it easy. The other thing is that we have pretty easy going personalities.

Some of the stuff I hear from friends blows my mind, like a spouse getting angry over a little mess, or one spouse having anger management issues.

originally posted by: Annee

originally posted by: Xtrozero
I flew in the Air Force for 28 years and I have seen a good number of couples get divorce after the husband stopped traveling so much. So, kind of the same thing....

Happens a lot in the military.

Man, just can not come home and take over.

I understand the military now does couple counseling for this situation.

Yes, this! I was raised a military brat and married a marine. The most difficult part of being away, was always returning home.

It's difficult for one spouse to take on both roles and relinquish one role, when their partner returns home. But, it's important to step back and allow that person to resume their role, with support. It's also difficult for the children to adapt.

originally posted by: JAGStorm

My husband was work from home for two years and I loved every minute of it. I cried when he had to go back in the office.

I think it is easy to love someone, but many people are not compatible! We both have our own hobbies and interests and that also makes it easy. The other thing is that we have pretty easy going personalities.

Some of the stuff I hear from friends blows my mind, like a spouse getting angry over a little mess, or one spouse having anger management issues.

I'm home working 90% of the time now and my wife loves it too.

I'm 100% the same with my wife. We do things together like travel, but we also have hobbies separately. We also never fight... We can argue a little at times, but never really fight. I asked her one time that our marriage was messed up because we do not fight like other couples. She said, OK what do you want to fight about and I said IDK why ask me?